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This user wonders if he is gay since he fools around with a male buddy.
October 8, 2006 at 1:38 pm
(1) jun says:

yes, once you have sex with a straight guy,youre gay

October 30, 2006 at 7:43 am
(2) xyz says:

no if u are played by some body else than u r not a gay but if it is ur own wish than u r a gay even only once

November 4, 2006 at 12:09 am
(3) jid says:

No you are not gay you are only having a gay experience, just like when you park your car in the garage just because you go in too you are not a car. Be free to experiment it will lead to a normal healthy sex once you find out what sexually stimulates you, dont get uptight thinking what is norm and what is not, many people had or have f buddies they just wont say they had and or have.
Be cool.

November 19, 2006 at 4:00 pm
(4) rumpstick says:

It all depends on your mental thinking. More people than we realise have a passion for someone of similar nature. Its what is most natural to each that determines envolement. Nothing is labeled if all partaking consent.

December 4, 2006 at 7:40 am
(5) Mentor says:

This is good, fun with a man is quite different from that with a woman and is just as exciting with the right two men. Men know men differently and, perhaps, better!!

January 22, 2007 at 12:47 pm
(6) carino says:

A large proportion of young men have homosexual experience at some time during their sex development without becoming gay.
But according to the wording, you don’t have just a male friend who you fool around with, but a male sex friend. That does seem to suggest it’s where your tendencies lie.

April 10, 2007 at 3:47 pm
(7) bob says:

Yes b/c if you have done it more than once and are turned on by him, you are

April 10, 2007 at 3:47 pm
(8) bob says:

Yes b/c if you have done it more than once and are turned on by him, you are gay

October 4, 2007 at 11:18 pm
(9) Joe says:

I totally disagree with bob, As I spent many of my years wondering the same thing it doesn’t make you a homosexual. If you look throughout history the Spartans when they were away from their home for long periods of time the had sex with each other, and yet they were the best soldiers in history. It was homosexual tendencies as we see it today. Everything today is over hyped. To have a bond with someone whether the same sex or not doesn’t make you a homosexual it doesn’t make you straight even if you have sex with a women.

October 4, 2007 at 11:21 pm
(10) Joe says:

but continuing what I was saying, according to bob anytime you have sex with a person of the same sex you are no longer “straight” your a “homo”. This is especially funny to me because masturbation is considered a homosexual act in some of the worlds cultural. Seriously think about how many times you masterbated throughout your life.

December 2, 2007 at 1:30 pm
(11) slp says:

Discussions between “straight” men about gay sex never ceases to amaze me. Despite the huge body of scientific evidence that homosexual behavior among animals is well documented and a normal part of nature. Kinsey was right, get over it!

January 26, 2008 at 1:01 pm
(12) cosmo says:

I agree with those guys who say dont get so hyped up about defining ones sexual desires. The good thing about getting older is that you understand that all that really matters is that you both willingly consent and that no one else is getting emotionally hurt. Some 80% of men are bisexual most say they do nothing about it but, if you are one, and you can swing both ways then be thankful and enjoy the fact and the relationship while you can.

July 17, 2008 at 9:46 pm
(13) Doug says:

There seems to be a Macho thing about men to men relationships, Like don’t get to close or they’ll say you’re Gay. And if you act out a perfectly ,health, normal, sexual fantasy,and you are found-out,Well, You are Gay, as if there were something wrong with that. Lots of men and women have discover that The anal area can be quite sexually arousing. And lots of things besides fingers come into play when it come to this nice area of sexual stimulation. So if it’s the doing or the thinking of doing,. That doesn’t make one Gay. Just to set the records straight, there’s a lot of anal sex going on within any and all relationships. So try loving the person for who they are, not who you want them to be.

November 13, 2008 at 4:18 am
(14) shivam says:

why men sex type gay
means why man int. sex with other man

October 28, 2011 at 7:53 am
(15) muthu says:

i like u pls contact my email id

November 17, 2008 at 12:48 am
(16) bagger 115 says:

Gay is not determined by what you do physically. Its a state of mind. Having fantasies or living out fantasies doesnt mean you are gay unless you feel you are gay. I have fantasies every day about being with a man. And no doubt sometime in my life I will. As much as I think about it and get turned on by being with a man, I do not consider myself gay. I still lust after women, gaze at women, want women and spend time with women. But because I want to have sex with a man doesn’t mean I am gay. And I dont feel that way out of shame. I do not judge anyone.

November 3, 2011 at 6:48 am
(17) lost soul says:

I feel the same way too.. but I don’t consider myself gay…
I fantasize about me and my male best friend having sex but that doesn’t mean I’m gay. We have our own likes and dislikes with the person that’s why we want to be with one another but that doesn’t mean you’re gay.

January 9, 2009 at 10:26 pm
(18) Breaker says:

OMG… I can’t even begin to comment on all of the comments here. My friend, if you feel like you should not be doing what you are doing then you are not gay. Don’t go down that path. You will fight yourself the rest of you life. I’ve struggled for 30 years because I know in my heart I do not want these feelings. It’s not because of any kind of religion or anything else. I just know it “in my gut.” If you don’t have any problems with having sex with a man… then you are most likely “gay” and won’t ever have a problem with it. In summary… if you are having doubts about what your are doing, stop right now and forget about it. Don’t keep “exprimenting” or you will be in for a lifetime of confusion… unless someone is able to sear your conscious to the point that you don’t even care anymore.

January 14, 2009 at 3:42 pm
(19) aframe says:

No need to worry about what it means. Are you gay or straight? There’s more to life than these simple definitions. It’s just a convenient way of describing things. I think you’re more gay if you identify that way, but then people are going to define you as gay if you sleep with other men.

Either way, it’s not a path to sadness like Breaker above says. Maybe for him and that’s too bad I feel sorry for people who want to be all messed up about stuff that’s really not such an existential problem really.

Don’t sweat it – you have a man sex friend – does that make you gay? who cares? do you like it? then it’s your business, your life and nobody else’s opinion really matters. if they’re going to get down on you for that screw ‘em – they’re not your really your friends.

January 15, 2009 at 3:45 pm
(20) Kevin says:

not necesssarily, there is a whole spectrum of sexuality beyond gay and straight

March 21, 2009 at 9:43 pm
(21) jarodd says:

im gay and i have a lover why is it that when your with the one lover and you think that you want to find someone else.. just to play around with and dont let your lover knows because you think if he found out maybe he want to do the same thing that you did? should i stay with my lover or have fun with someone else as just friends?

April 11, 2009 at 9:45 pm
(22) Gay Guy's Girlfriend says:


i think the confusion can be very real. if not for the person who is in question but the others who are close to him/her. i certainly know i am MORE confused now with my bf telling me he is sexually attracted to men but wants no emo connection. plus, he was hooked on gay porn. gay porn at 14.
boys at 13 and 14 still look very much like little children! i believe porn caused had a nice good impact on him.. and me now.

fine, he doesn’t care if he is straight, bi or gay but the problem is very real for the straight spouse if the bi partner has huge huge same-sex desires to the point, maybe he, wishes his wife had a penis.

u just have to read who those ladies go thru. it is hurtful and damaging

April 28, 2009 at 9:36 am
(23) Pbear says:

My boyfriend had sex with a man when he was 16 yrs old. Now he’s 31. He’s very upset because of this and he had to tell me before we get married. Does that make him gay, bisexual, just because he was curious? Or disturbed? He loves me and we have a very good relationship, I don’t know what to do to make him forget it. How can I test that he’s never going to have it again? It does affect me that he had this kind of experience. Please give me some advice. Thanks.

April 28, 2009 at 9:38 am
(24) Pbear says:

I’m a woman and not against gay people. My best friend is gay. I’m just sad…

April 28, 2009 at 4:21 pm
(25) GOUTAM says:


April 28, 2009 at 4:45 pm
(26) Oscar says:


your husband is not gay. Sexual experimentation at age 16 (especially if he didn’t do it again) is just, and that sexual experimentation during adolescence is normal. He’s not disturbed. However, if he still is ‘curious’ and wants to experiment again, then I would be a concerned.

May 3, 2009 at 12:49 pm
(27) Bikerboy says:

Well,most people are Bi, but if you are in a relationship and that person loves you, gender doesn’t matter, they can have sex with someone else male or female. it’s not worst if it’s the same sex.

May 4, 2009 at 12:41 pm
(28) Erick says:

Hi everyone, I need help.
At the age of 13 I had 2 gay freinds and did not have gay relations with them in any way. Nor did I fantasize about it. And I also felt that their prefrence was their business. This was the way I was raised. But at the age of 16 a different freind talked me into having oral sex with him. It was ok I kind of liked it. We did this about twice a week for about 3 months and about 2 months into this I started thinking about anal sex and on the third month he asked me if I would do it to him and I did. Again it was ok. But then one day he asked if he could do it to me. And I let him and it hurt like hell at first but then I got passed the pain and really enjoyed it. About 1 month later he just dident want to do it any more so we stoped and never talked about it. He is the only male I have ever had sex with. I never was atracted to him in any way but sexualy. Between the age of 15 and 19 I have been with a lot of girls. At 19 I met a young lady and fell in love married her at 21 and had 2 kids. while married I would often think about my experience at 13 and become aroused. I stayed married for about 13 years and then ended up getting a devorce but it had nothing to do with sex. I have been in relatoinships since and had sex many times but eventualy started loosing intrest in both from any woman. Instead about a year ago I started thinking about what happened when I was 13 and began missing it…alot. But This is where Im stuck. I dont feel like im gay.
I dont want a loving relaitionship.
Am I selfish?
Im afraid poeple will think Im gay.
I dont see anything wrong with it I just dont feel that I am.
My fear of My friends and family other than my parents thinking that im gay has brought me to a point to where I am lonely for companionship because over the last year I have begun to alienate myself from my friends and family. I dont even know how to approach someone and ask them if they were intrested.
I guess I feel fear there also.
Any advice you could give me would be greatly appreciated

May 6, 2009 at 1:01 pm
(29) sexual health worker says:

Never, never, NEVER go to advice columns and blogs for professional advice about your sexuality or your mental health. Sometimes the columnist is qualified to talk about it–usually they’re not–but the people who post responses are just opinionated busybodies and very few of them have any training or qualifications. Listening to them can leave you severely messed up. If you want advice on your sexual orientation, talk to a counsellor or therapist, or consult a reliable website like http://www.pflag.org, http://www.pflag.ca, http://www.glsen.org, or http://www.matthewsheppard.org. DO NOT consult websites or therapists who say that homosexuality is a curable disorder, especially if they have religious reasons for this claim. These organizations are not recognized in the medical or mental health community. They make up their own statistics and stories and sometimes even lie. The fact is that homosexual feelings are natural, normal, common, and healthy among most species of higher mammals, including humans. They are not something that needs curing. If you need to talk to someone, ask someone who will not try to pressure you into being either gay or straight. And don’t forget: being bisexual is an option too.

May 19, 2009 at 6:14 pm
(30) Jon Royce says:

I wouldn’t say having a male sex buddy means that you are gay. I think it is all up to the individual.

June 4, 2009 at 6:23 pm
(31) Jayson says:

I do not care what anyone says .. Think about it . were animals . (Just really smart .)Sex is sex. And guys should have sex with one another. Our A SPOT (G-spot). is actually in out butt. There is only one way to get to it. So all in all sex is just sex. If all u want is male and no female then it just means you love anal sex. But if u cant even think about a woman then stick with males . If religion bothers you. Well read the bible it contradicts itself. It even says man and women should not get married. so what do u say about that. is it wrong. No its ok. He wanted us to love and to have good sex. so if its with a guy so be it . if its with a woman oh well; get ready for a baby if u dont use protection. Its normal.

June 12, 2009 at 2:24 am
(32) pwrslv says:

someone once told me, if you have anal sex with a woman you might aswell be gay, though i see the similarities, i disagree. having anal sex or sex with same sex does not mean that you are gay. it is what you make it.

June 12, 2009 at 7:07 pm
(33) winnie says:

i have always wondered about this, till a divorce after 36 years and no desire for women my age. men, it’s just sex, many straight guy’s my age out here. anyway if i have sex with a man, then am i gay? if i am gay and have sex with a woman, am i straight? do i care?

June 21, 2009 at 9:07 pm
(34) winnie says:

sorry andy, your normal. you are still young, too young to put yourself in any type yet. just grow into what ever you are. others won’t tell you what they did.

July 2, 2009 at 9:04 pm
(35) nboy102 says:

i dont believe that there is a strict answer to this question i am a young male who had had sex with his best MALE friend we ended up hateing it and lost our friendship over it. What i mean to say is that having gay sex or attraction/fantasys doesnt make you gay its what you get out of it after i wish everyday that it never happened but it did and i dont consider my self gay i have playboys and pictures all over my wall of hot models but what i think makes you “GAY” is if you are over all the time happy with the exsperience.

July 8, 2009 at 9:02 pm
(36) steven says:

maybe your just horny breaker your just lying to yourself thats all dont pass it on to others cuz you are something you dont wanna be and thats real.

October 2, 2009 at 11:29 pm
(37) dan says:

hi i have nevr madeout with ne1 ever and i waould like to. i hav a male friend (i am male to) tht has never either. i think we should but idk would thi be really bad if we did this?

October 8, 2009 at 9:27 am
(38) steve says:

Just making a statement and you can arrive at your own conclusions. I am a married man w/ 2 children and my male friend is married w/ three. We are both in our early thirties.

Neither of us have had a male on male realtionship prior to the two of us getting together or after.

Neither of our wives have any idea that we are having this relationship.

It started as two guys working out at the gym who over time found out they had certain things in common: sports, fishing, etc. We just liked each other’s company. We go out for a drink, watch games, go fishing locally, etc.

After awhile we planned a salmon fishing trip (which we have done for the last four years.) We rent a cabin and do our own cooking, etc. We got so use to each other’s company, that it is nothing to walk around in our shorts or nude after showering,etc-just no big deal.

The very first year, while I was making breakfast, my friend came up behind me and whispered in my ear-can I kiss you? I turned around in shock/ disbelief-as I turned, he just kissed me. My whole body became electrified and I got a hard on – so did he.

Am I or he gay or bi-who knows-we don’t care. We have had many sexual encounters over the years. Yes, we have done it all—from cuddling, making love(all forms), kissing, touching.

When we now go on our fishing trips and we are in our cabin, we just relax in the nude, etc. I laugh when I think about it-we are more like a husband and wife then most married couples.

It’s nothing for either him or me to walk up to the other while cooking or making a salad to pat each other on the backside and asked what are you making or state “that really smells good”.

Are we in love-YES! Would we leave our wives-NO! As I said – does it really matter if we are eithert gay or bi-NO! We just love being together.

October 8, 2009 at 4:17 pm
(39) steve says:

Just a PS to my previous email: Yes, we do keep a lubricant next to our bed. We try to get off before falling asleep. Yes, like other couples we do not always have sex before going to bed-also, we slept in the nude. But we discovered early in our relationship that either one of us may get horney during the night and need relief. As we both sleep on our sides, this was an easy solution. The one who was horney and woke up would just put some lube on one of his fingers and insert it into the other’s anus and keep pushing and pulling harder and harder until the other was semi awake. Once that person was aware of what was happening (fingering), he would just roll or turn on his stomach. Yes, the receiver was semi awake and realized what was going on but damn could quickly fall back to sleep so could the one on top onced he was relieved. My wife even wouldn’t even do that.

October 9, 2009 at 5:35 pm
(40) SEapup says:

To Steve happy tht you have found a compatible life partner but unless both of you have an open marriage you guys are cheating. thats not very cool. I have a question what relationship do you or you sexpartner enjoys more; both on an emotional and physical level. the one with your wives or with each other?

October 10, 2009 at 8:27 am
(41) Steve says:


First, let me say that we were both married and had children before we had ever met. Also, neither of us had a homosexual experience prior to our getting together. We both decided that we could not leave our families and hurt them emotionally and financially.

Now to answer your question, we have already talked about this with each other. If we had met prior to getting married, having children, etc, we probably would have been life partners but we hadn’t. Yes, I believe we are cheating by being with and wanting each other. But we both understand the devastating consequences to our families should we decide to divorce and live together. In our minds, getting together, ever so often, and experiencing our fondness for each other is better than the anguish we could cause by a marital breakup.

So the moments we have together are precious for us. I am not just talking about sex, although it is phenomenal, but just being around each other-the closeness, the hugs, the kisses, giving each other a bath, you name it, etc.

The truth is, for me, that I enjoy being with him more-emotionally, sexually, physically, etc. I think he would say the same.

October 26, 2009 at 10:42 am
(42) Junaid says:

Steve, I am glad that you have found happiness this way and I understand where you are coming from. When I first started seeing guys, I told me wife but she decided to stay, however it did not work out with the person I was seeing. Since then I decided that I am not going to cause all the pain me and my wife went through unless I found someone I could spend the rest of my life with. Its been 12 years since then (I am 39 now) and we have 3 children now. If I were to find someone who was married whom I clicked with, I would be the luckiest person in the world.


November 4, 2009 at 12:18 pm
(43) dj says:

Ever heard of a Bell Curve? All of us live on it. All men are more or less homosexual. Allow yourself to learn where you are mot comfortable with your sex life. Then just be happy and thankful. I am probably more homosexual than heterosexual, but I’ve been married twice, fathered five children, been in two comitted relationships with men, had sex with quite a few men. I just enjoy sex, and I enjoy feeling good. Don’t condem yourself or anyone else just because you enjoy being with another man.

November 4, 2009 at 1:56 pm
(44) dj says:

In response to an above comment… I am a nurse. I suggest you learn all you can about safe sexual practices. Don’t be ignorant and get yourself sick. A safer sex life can still be a great sex life. A Bell Curve just means you are at the extreme Left or the extreme Right or somewhere in the vast Middle to a dergee.

November 4, 2009 at 2:09 pm
(45) dj says:

Left a clarifing comment about safer sex but it apparently got lost in cyberspace. I am a nurse. I suggest you learn and practice safer sex. Don’t be ignorant and get yourself sick. Loving, needing love, and fulfilling your sexual desires is what’s it about. Gay, straight or somewhere in the vast middle of the Bell Curve love who you are.

November 5, 2009 at 11:43 am
(46) WB says:

Just because you had a gay experience does not make you gay. I once had a Holy Spirit experience at church but I am not the Holy Spirit. Life is made up of experiences. Now if it is that you ONLY have a male sexual partner and no others for some time, then yes, during that time it would make you a homosexual, not necessarily GAY though. Too many use those terms as the same when they are not. Homo (same) sexual (sex) is having sex with the same sexed person as yourself. Gay is so much more than that. It is a whole lifestyle and culture. A man can be straight yet have a preplanned homosexual experience, that does not make him gay. It makes him homosexual, during that sexual moment only. If he has preplanned sex with a female, then he is heterosexual at that moment. Bisexual requires no preplanning, this person can be with either sex or both at the same time. All of these can be talking about a “STRAIGHT” man who has had some sexual experiences. Don’t put too much into labels, you will just get a migraine and usually the label is wrong anyway.

December 11, 2009 at 4:31 am
(47) funtimes says:

hi i have a b/f hes loves me and we getting married but he likes havin sex with men as well as me but he rather im there aswell, i dont class him as gay or even bi he dont fancy males or want to date them its just the male bits he likes as like me i like having sex with female dont fancy them wud never date one so dont consider myself bi or a lesbain am very much in love with my partner

December 20, 2009 at 2:40 am
(48) will says:

so Jun since all women play around with each oher and its natural for hem to be close and sexual in your words all women are lesbians from he ge go – I gues since you were close to your boy buddies when you were young yu’r gay also. Isn’ it great to lable people by heir sexuality. 99.9% of men are bi-sexual

January 8, 2010 at 6:17 am
(49) Robert says:

To #27 on the comments entries. You may be bi-sexual. I enjoy sex with women, but I also enjoy certain acts with males. Males give better oral sex than females. Guys know what a guy likes as far as foreplay, licking, kissing the penis, &long oral draws on it as well. I don’t like anal sex, but I do like the taste of a man’s penis and sperm. They all taste different. Muscular guys are salty but skinnt guys tend to be sugary.

January 8, 2010 at 9:26 pm
(50) leon says:

i would love gay sex

January 11, 2010 at 6:40 pm
(51) Bryan Acker says:

once you sleep with bisexual woman you are bisexual
for life……

January 12, 2010 at 6:15 pm
(52) shaniya_barre@yahoo.com says:

HELL YES U R GAY!! but gay peepz r awsome!! ROCK ON!

January 31, 2010 at 4:21 pm
(53) Someone that knows it says:

One thing is for real.
Every man and every woman can and will enjoy same sex experience. Once you experience it and if you like it, you will have it again. The problem is to allow yourself to do it the first time, and when you accept it, then it will always be part of your life. Don’t label it gay, straight or bi-sexual. Just enjoy what you do and love it. If you don’t like, then you don’t have to think about it.

February 18, 2010 at 6:28 am
(54) Kat says:

Sex is sex, (some wifes/girlfriends like to watch a little man on man action.)

Love is Family, (why are there so mant labels?)

Find out what your feelings and enjoy!!!!!

February 27, 2010 at 9:40 am
(55) john west says:

In Brazil I had sex with a pre op tranny. never barebacking with a real man! the tranny Looked 100% like a female. No touching or sucking of any penis. I had got my penis sucked and did doggy. The shemale did not even pull out the penis! After felt that the gay experience I had was a fetish i was needing because Im addicted to porn! It was not mind blowing or felt anything emotional! By having a gay experiece made me relize that im not gay just a strange freak porno addict! All men have gay experiences growing up. So I came to the conlusion that its what you prefer after your experience. if you still have sex with men your fruity! I told my girl she did not believe me! That experience let me know im not GAY, more of a wierdo.lol

March 5, 2010 at 11:43 pm
(56) francesco says:

totaly agree with Joe lines 09/10 and John line 53

July 9, 2010 at 10:57 pm
(57) sj says:

i has my fisr male touch at 13 with a friend frowing up yet i knew i was bi and have been married and divorsed now in looking more for men then girls

August 17, 2010 at 11:18 pm
(58) Adrian says:

I don’t necessarily think you’re gay at all because you’re experiencing a different thing. I think the term homosexual, as I see it, is when a gender “developes feelings” for the same sex. As a lot of people have already said, many men experience different things when they’re young, such as fooling around with people, but many still have feelings for women all the same. I see a lot of “nature vs nurture” debating here, but I don’t want to bore anyone with too many details. Anyways, don’t let society label you. Have fun, because you only live once.

October 12, 2010 at 4:51 am
(59) Antony says:

no your are not gay. Its quite acceptable to have good sex wioth another guy, & not be considered gay.
Its worth exporing to its fullest.

October 15, 2010 at 8:18 pm
(60) alleng says:

OMG guys i have been with alot of Straight guys n all, most were straight anyways but most are looking for excitement n to bust a load that feels good , or in a small town anyways means nuthing unless u develope feeling and know ur attracted

October 15, 2010 at 8:22 pm
(61) alleng says:

OMG u guys i had alot of straight n bi guys. I started getting trained early at 9 n all. I knew i loved it n they knew they loved the feeling . I sucked my nieghbir when i was 9 n eating loads by 10 but liked it n most guys i was with loved the feeling .. CAUSE IT FELT GOOD n they was in control

October 15, 2010 at 8:25 pm
(62) alleng_28 says:

mery i mean is young guys love sex of anyking like masturbation n all it about getting off feeling good n the guy being in control n feeling like he conquored something lol

October 16, 2010 at 3:26 am
(63) sirnmrbubba says:

no your not unless you would like it to be one

October 21, 2010 at 12:01 am
(64) Jimbo says:

What a change we all have been faced with. Men are now more comfortable with their own sexual desires and feelings than ever before. What really is the question? Gay-Str8-bi who really cars any more other than the Baptist.

Men would rather live with the other man and visit the women, than deal with the differences that marriage brings. Two men or well known as a “bromance” function well together, desire each other and provide a happy home. Women with women are the same, too bad the whole “marriage” thing got all screwed up.

October 30, 2010 at 10:54 am
(65) richard says:

Well after all of that said if I had a friend that would – i would; so ill just wait my turn… humm

December 24, 2010 at 1:32 pm
(66) Paul says:

I do not have a gay male friend but I have been to peep shows and Wow!!. You go into the booth and watch the movie playing and then all of a sudden a finger comes through this hole in the wall wiggling and you know what that fingers motioning for…..To stick your cock through and get sucked off. So you do and blow your load and leave happy, and its up to you if you if want to suck that person off, good luck to you may get what you give!!.

December 24, 2010 at 1:51 pm
(67) Paul says:

I’m not gay but I don’t mind blowing a guy and I guess I would say I’m Bi I’ve given anal sex but have have never recieved it, I think I would have to meet a friend who I could trust to enter my rear end. Because I see the “gay” man as dirty maybe thats just me I don’t mean disease or anything like that but just guy kissing guy. I don’t know but I could kiss a “Shemale” because if it looks like a female, talks like a female then it must be a female. Thats the only way I could wrap my lips around around a nice big cock and I would love to have it explode in my mouth and eat the cum. But I couldn’t do it from a man, if it looks like a man and talks like a man then it must be a man. But this is just me I would love to eat the orgasm from a shemale because it looks like a woman to me. And thats good enough for me.

January 13, 2011 at 10:10 pm
(68) jhbsklcbsa says:

I think your only gay if you consider yourself gay.Me im not gay but im not straight i just decide myself what I want to be.

March 13, 2011 at 7:04 pm
(69) Jason says:

A man is not gay for having sex with another man haha where do you get the idea? Actually, gay means something different, the actual word is homosexual, but anyways, you are not gay for having sex with another man. i don’t believe i’m “gay”, but i have sex with men, i don’t like labels, you are this if you do this, you are that if you do that, stop that, cuz it’s stupid. you like a guy and the guy likes you and you want to have sex with that guy? then go ahead! do it, and don’t let these stupids to tell you what you are or what you are not, just do what you want, you are a man, that’s all you need to know.

May 14, 2011 at 11:14 am
(70) Jeff says:

After reading many comments…I hold to two….love is in my family, that is real love. I am happily married 10 years. But ‘sex is sex’, I also agree with. I adore the lady I am married to and enjoy sex with her. But I don’t stare at other women, I look at men. I have had quite a number of encounters with men, a few of them excellent. Is there a need to define ‘gay’? I find women complicated – men more understanding. I am very anxious not to ‘disturb’ my marriage, but I reckon most men ‘need’ that special close male friend. I keep looking…have not found it…but will never give up….men can be very arousing….and there is nothing wrong with men-men sex (as long as one is ‘careful’ of course). It is good fun…..I am faithful to my wife as far as love is concerned…but I do not see anything wrong with having that very special male friend……life could be glorious. No, I say, let’s enjoy this amazing ‘gift’ of pleasure…it’s fun, and part of a good friendship…I wish we (men) could admit such a desire and be open more. An awesome session of sex with another man, has got to be better than a heavy drinking session in a bar, leading to hangover in the morning…and sex is free and as much as you want! May your fantasies be satisfied!

July 17, 2011 at 7:21 am
(71) dhanu says:

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July 19, 2011 at 2:34 pm
(72) rlf says:

your only gay if you want to be. if you still like girls, but have sex with the occasional guy, you might be bi. if you like girls but have sex with a guy just to get off, your probably straight. but if you only have sex with guys, welcome to the gay side of life.

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January 27, 2012 at 6:12 pm
(74) Kenneth says:

I have been with more men than I can count and enjoyed every experience.I am a southern baptist preachers son so if u could only imagine what Ive had to go thru over the years.Im very much still in the closet and plan to stay there.When Im with a women and were having sex Im thinking of a momman and I Think thats the only way i can stay hard with a women.RAISED IN the church and a chistian its been hard dealing with my sexuality and keeping it from my
mom.Seems like she knows but she does not press the issue.I was just with a good friend .female and sex was pretty good.That was the first time I had been with a women in ten years.All my friends are straight and when they start wondering if im gay cause they have not seen me with a women thats when i have to bring one around.During that time that she around its rather stressful cause i never know if i will be able to get it up so i get these over the counter viagra which gets me pretty hard but get a headache from hell the next day.Anyway i hope I can find a good man who does not mind me being in the closet.I said all that to say that I think im gay.What do u think?E mail me and give me your Input. fish6931@gmail.com

March 15, 2012 at 1:32 am
(75) srujan says:

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July 26, 2012 at 1:24 pm
(77) dann says:

OK, so there is no such thing as “Gay”.

August 27, 2012 at 2:57 pm
(78) tyson19 says:

hi i am 63 been married had 5 kids all grown up but at the same time have always like sex with men and still do not sure if you call me gay or bi i dont care its what i like and enjoy even at 63 nice do what you like

December 16, 2012 at 9:40 am
(79) bondage says:

hi im am 64 widowed 4 kids have allways had gay thoughts then when on my own i started seeing men best move i ever made i am happyer now then ever befor i love it yep i think im gay but wont come out as it would hurt my kids

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August 14, 2013 at 1:39 pm
(81) jim says:

in response toKenneth comment I to was raise in church all my life but to had to hide my true feeling had to prove to other I’m not gay but I don’t feel right with a women. I have been with men felt more myself married once, but divorce now don’t want another women live in a small town where everyone knows your business. So Kenneth I know how you feel I’ve been there, lot’s of luck.

January 21, 2014 at 1:58 am
(82) jenny says:

Just walk away and say no. Next move on

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