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If only we could simply close our eyes and will gayness upon any person that suits our fancy... Better yet, we could make them gay and then force them to like no one but us. Well, this fantasy may not be too far off for those gay men that wonder if it's possible to turn a straight guy gay. I say there's an easier and more natural way to take charge of your gay love life other than turning a straight guy gay... read more
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May 9, 2007 at 6:56 am
(1) LORENZO says:

MY LAST TWO SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS WERE WITH MEN WHO WERE STRAIGHT AND DATED NUMEROUS WOMEN.. THEY SAID.” I HAD TURNED THEM GAY”.. IT WAS MY INTENTION TO TURN THEM GAY AND FIND MOST OF MY GIRLFRIEND’S BOYFRIENDS VERY MUCH ATTRACTED TO ME… BUT THEN AGAIN, I’M ALSO A MALE FITNESS MODEL & QUITE WEALTHY…

June 19, 2007 at 9:52 am
(2) Jacob says:

“He turned me gay” – that’s just a pretty shallow way of not accepting responsibility for one’s own thoughts/actions that were latently probably always there. Good on you for being attractive enough to awaken these feelings in them, but don’t let them blame you for it!

August 6, 2007 at 4:44 pm
(3) raul says:

I agree with Jacob. There is no such thing as you turned me gay. Sexual intercourse requires for the involvement of two people. Saying “you turned me gay” just makes them feel less responsible of what happened.

March 19, 2008 at 7:54 pm
(4) dani says:

i have a friend who’s gay.
he likes this guy, but believe he has no chance with him..
if you do believe you can turn a straight guy gay then please tell me and let me pass on the information =)

August 17, 2008 at 6:46 pm
(5) andy says:

none of us are 100% str8 or gay we are all somewhere between.i always considered myself str8 until my training partner came on to me one night in the showers. we are now much more than training partners and i love him dearly – however i still consider myself str8

August 22, 2008 at 9:22 am
(6) Jennifer says:

I find the concept of “turning a straight guy gay” or turning a “straight woman lesbian” fatuous and disrespectful. Disgusting, really. It’s one thing to help someone explore their sexuality when they’re initially in denial, but to bring possible confusion, guilt, and unhappiness into someone else’s life, using their libido or maybe their low self-esteem as a catalyst is no different than using religion to force someone to deny who THEY are sexually, or to shame them for it.

Equal means equal! If you want your sexuality treated respectfully, surely you intend to respect that of others as well! No one has any more right to try to “persuade” someone they are gay or willing to try it, than anyone has the right to try to persuade a gay person of the opposite.

I freaking HATE hypocracy!!!!

August 23, 2008 at 7:36 am
(7) boutgivup says:

Hypocracy? perhaps however at the rip[e old age of 7 I didnt know that word,and probably did’nt fully appreciate the word even into my 20′s this was when I was my most promiscuous stage,and it seemed as though now looking back at how it all came about after myself being seduced by a slightly older best buddy,rhat all I really enjoyed was what I then referred to as the the turn,and in my earliest years I only knew I enjoyed being not only best friends but intimate with as many especially those who condemed me and or what I wanted from them.
All but perhaps a few one could count on one hand maybe two tried to in later years to live the SO CALLED NORMAL life,and yes for a while their lives were hell til they finally returned if you will to their days of yore.

Regardless of pundents who claim you cannot turn a straight person-I say you can because their by and large is’nt any such thing as a straight person,everyone is basically bi.

August 31, 2008 at 12:57 pm
(8) Jennifer says:

If you can “turn” them, boutgivup, then they aren’t staight.

I subscribe to the Kinsey idea only loosely, which is where I gather you got your “everyone is bi” idea. And like I said, it’s fine to help someone explore if that’s what they’re looking for, and if you’re okay with that, but don’t prey on the horniness of the average male to try to press people to declare themselves one way or another. That’s just as disrespectful as trying to force YOU to like sex with women. Don’t you see what I’m getting at?

September 4, 2008 at 8:22 am
(9) eRWiN says:

Theres a lot of GAY,…
some of them just let it be,…
some of them keep fighting to get straight,…

http://profiles.friendster.com/erwinstifler

September 22, 2008 at 4:47 am
(10) Ryan says:

LORENZO you are the worst kind of person there is.

you are not truly gay. you love yourself so much you have gained the urge for masculinity and if you could you would be in a relationship with yourself. you are already not far from it either.

September 22, 2008 at 3:39 pm
(11) Bob says:

‘I say you can because their by and large isínt any such thing as a straight person,everyone is basically bi.’

Homosexuals like to think There aint no such thing as heterosexuality. It helps em feel less inferior. Grow up and leave the straight guys alone. Its insulting enough that when straight guys find out im gay they automatically assume i wanna bone em. When I find a decent straight guy who is just who he is without any sign of a sexual element i find it absurd that I would only think to turn him gay even if it were possible.

Homosexuals are sex obssesed miscreants who think of nothing but their next wank fodder and to add insult to injury they have all the insight of a dead rabbit!

October 10, 2008 at 7:44 pm
(12) J.C. says:

I believe that someone can be turned gay. If you’re a gay guy coming on a straight guy who happens to really, uh, “horny”, then that’s when I think it’s possible.

October 15, 2008 at 4:15 am
(13) R-jay says:

To turn a straight guy gay, emasculation is the key. Kill all his maleness anyway possible and gently impose frilliness, daintiness, softness and gentleness into him. Turn him away from he-man, macho activities.

October 17, 2008 at 7:55 am
(14) eddie says:

Omg ITS POSSIBLE I already had 3 straight guys. 2 hookups and 1 serious.

October 25, 2008 at 11:51 am
(15) alissa says:

ok so i am a girl and i am in love with the piccolo player in this marching band which im in to but i am her friend and i am so confused because she is dating a guy who i can tell shes totally in love with but i want to find out if shes bi or not because like on surveys if it says would you kiss a girl she always goes “…?” and her sexuality is not on myspace??? i am so confused can you help me??

October 29, 2008 at 3:18 pm
(16) ray says:

Hi, i am a str8 but lately have had the urge to have gay sex….do you think if i s..k and get f..k.d, that it might turn me gay?

November 7, 2008 at 4:31 pm
(17) justin says:

R-jay — if you do that , he will certainly not be the same guy you wanted in the first place…

November 14, 2008 at 11:24 am
(18) Jerome says:

I am a woman who have undergone sex changed 5 years ago. I have no regrets of becoming a man. I fell in love to a woman who used to be a man, he also had a sex change 2 years ago. Now, I am leaving with her, and I am proud to be her husband.

November 16, 2008 at 5:04 am
(19) Jacques says:

Im a 25 year old guy. I have this major crush on my best friend, but im not showing it at all… I think he is gay, but he does have a girlfriend. they are to together now for 2 years, but havent had any sex in this 2 years.. i thin k this girlfriend is just to show the people he is not gay. what do you think? can he be gay?my friend and I are going overseas now, i dont want to turn him gay, but damn, his hot hot hot..

November 16, 2008 at 2:03 pm
(20) Janice says:

This idea that a person can make another person gay is wrong. It’s an excuse that a gay person offers up and simply betrays their true feelings about their sexuality. Nobody should have to excuse their sexuality but if a gay person is doing that, then it betrays ambivalence about their sexuality.

If a gay person doesn’t feel completely comfortable about being gay, it’s so much easier to blame their heterosexual spouse or partner. In order to truly come out, a gay person must accept and love themselves for what they are, and that includes not blaming anybody. After all, does it make sense to blame somebody for being heterosexual? Of course not.

I write as a heterosexual woman whose ex-husband was in the closet. He knew he was gay when we married (I certainly didn’t!) and he used me and our children as a smokescreen.

November 19, 2008 at 2:12 am
(21) Matt says:

I’m a 16 year old guy in high school. I’ve known I’m gay for a couple of years now, but I’m still in the closet. I go to a really small school where everybody knows everybody else and is basically family… I’m talking about thirty kids per class. There is this guy I have known for years who i have recently become pretty good friends with. We’re both into musical theater, and we just finished a production.

During the last couple of musicals I have done with him, I developed some pretty strong feelings for him. The problem is, he is 18 and I have absolutely no idea what his sexual inclination(s) is/are. He has had plenty of girlfriends, but never gets very far with them. (He certainly could if he wanted to, he is very attractive ^.^) On the other hand, he has been pretty up close and personal with me recently. By this I mean that he seems to have eliminated all personal space boundaries between the two of us- he sits in my lap sometimes, lets me practically fall asleep on him, etc. However, once he never seems to show any real desire to be anything more than buds…. I think.

I am terrified that if I tell him about how I have been feeling or inquire about how he has been feeling, our friendship will crumble. I am baffled by his conflicting actions and words… I don’t want him to be afraid to hang out with me, but I don’t want to miss out on a possible relationship. I feel rushed to do something because he is a senior, so he will be in college in under a year. I know that the easy thing to say is to just tell him, but the situation is a little bit too complex for that… I think. I feel like I can’t just hold it all in and say nothing, because even thinking about him gives me butterflies.

Anybody with any experience or advice on this particular topic is more than welcome to help. Realize that I am not looking for a way to “turn him gay”, but advice on how to handle the situation. I don’t want to change him… I love his masculinity and his personality. Also, I believe that “turning him gay” is neither possible nor ethical, but that’s a random tangent I don’t really feel too passionately about. I just want a crush to finally turn into something more than hidden one-sided attraction :) Thx for listening to me vent.

November 19, 2008 at 2:15 am
(22) Matt says:

I think I wrote a bit too much… Then again, I could write an entire dissertation on him ^.^ Haha, oops.

November 19, 2008 at 8:19 pm
(23) Steve says:

Andy says no-one is 100% gay, but I am. Totally.

November 21, 2008 at 2:24 am
(24) Anthony says:

Wow Matt that is really cute. I hope you get him soon.

Well there is this one boy at my school that I’ve been crushing on since freshmen year….We both play water polo and we talk a little. I’m not sure of his orientation but I’ve seen him check me out sometimes in my speedo. He’s really sweet and nice and super hot lol. I want to tell him, but I’m really afraid and also, like since we’re both on polo I’m afraid that he might tell everyone, also he is popular….but he’s one of the nicest popular kids at my school.

November 21, 2008 at 6:23 am
(25) Randy says:

Im a 24 year old gay closet male, Over the years I’ve fallen in love with every close male friend I’ve had (starting from high school, the ‘tally’ is probably at about 3-4 now). Its a vicous cycle and I have not yet been able to bring myself to stop it. So far everytime it has reached the stage where I end up questioning myself if the friendship is no longer healthy due to my overwhelming desires. Ive tried on numerous occasions come ons which have not suceeded.

Help.

November 24, 2008 at 12:46 am
(26) ShAYE says:

I BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN TURN A STRAIGHT MALE OR FEMALE OUT IT IS ALL IN THE “COMING ON TO” YOU MUSTN’T BE 2 STRONG NOR SHALL YOU BE 2 WEAK YOU MUST BE COMFORTABLE WITH WAT YOU ARE SAYING AS WELL AS WHO YOU ARE SAYING IT TO SO THAT YOU WON’T END UP WITH A BROKEN NOSE I HAVE SEEN MY FRIENDS WORK THEIR MAGIC ON UNSUSPECTING GIRLS AND GUYS TIME AFTER TIME YET I CANNOT SEEM 2 BRING MYSELF TO A LEVEL AS THAT YOU CAN CALL ME OLD FASHIONED (EVEN THOUGH IM ONLY 19) BUT I BELIEVE IN IF YOURE STR8 YOUR STR8 AND I WILL NOT WASTE MY OH SO VALUABLE TIME TRYING TO WOO YOU I FEEL THERE ARE PLENTY OF SINGLE LESBIANS IN THIS SALTY HOMOSEXUAL WORLD FOR ME ENJOY SO THATS WHAT I PLAN TO DO. ENJOY THE LESBIANS WHO ARE PROUD OF WHO THEY ARE AND ISN’T AFRAID TO LOL (LIVE OUT LOUD)

November 28, 2008 at 8:36 pm
(27) Cris says:

“Homosexuals like to think There aint no such thing as heterosexuality. It helps em feel less inferior.”

Um, not ALL homosexuals think that. I’m a lesbian and I believe we’re all BORN either gay/straight/bi. I’m also tired of hearing the “everyone is bi” theory. I’ve heard bi’s say this before and it’s a really ignorant statement. Yes, there are bisexual people, but not EVERYONE is bisexual. I don’t go around saying ALL women are lesbians, because NOT all women are. Saying you can “turn someone gay” is no different than those religious zealouts saying “gay people can turn straight”. It doesn’t work that way. Ever think maybe that guy/girl who had their first sexual experience with the same-sex was maybe bisexual? Or maybe just curious? Maybe they thought they were gay/bi all along but they tried to deny it.

I don’t go around trying to “turn” straight girls because it’s not possible. If they’re “curious” they’ll come out eventually, but if they’re TOTALLY straight, it’s disrespectful to hit on them. Just like it’s disrespectful for straight men to hit on us lesbians thinking they can “turn” us or asking us for 3somes. (ICK!)

November 29, 2008 at 7:36 pm
(28) Scott E. says:

I observed something that relates to this topic quite recently. I spent the night at my ex’s (who is now just a friend) and a “straight” guy who my ex met. The guy was nervous with me around, of course, but warmed up later on. I did nothing except watch TV, but the other two couldn’t seem to keep their hands off each other. If he called himself straight, he certainly was lying to himself because of that night and when the 3 of us went shopping the next day. My god he loved everything he saw.

I think it was just denial and fear. People are “supposed” to be a certain way and label themselves accordingly. I think most guys who say they were turned gay were using it as a pickup line to get into bed or just afraid to admit to themselves they are actually gay or even bi.

November 30, 2008 at 1:19 pm
(29) boyin ky says:

ok me and what i consider my best friend now have been hanging out just about everyday for this past year. he is straight. but over this year i have grown to realy love him. alot. but now hes been single for a few months and the other night we was setn here watchn tv and he rubbed my cock with his foot and we was talken and he said he wanted to do that since my birthday which was a week ago. but i just feel now that he may be curious and willing to try it but i was to tour up to persue anything else that night. i have offered lil things to him every now and then but we still have’nt done anything. in a way im scared that it could hurt our friendship if we were to do anything but on the other hand it would be my dream come true. so i guess my question is should i just leave it at friendship or try and take it to more than frienship?

December 1, 2008 at 4:29 am
(30) Zach says:

This topic is interesting but I believe that people are gay and straight, some are just more than the other. If you think about it there is no real way to know how people are gay and how people are straight. I know people that are straight just because they believe its right. I myself am gay, but I’m still in the closet. I’m waiting for the right time to tell my parents. I think that its better to be your selve than live a lie.

December 2, 2008 at 2:50 am
(31) ShAYE says:

“boyin ky” ive been in yo situation once i took my friendship 2 the next level n it was great while it lasted n when it was ova we just got back on track with our friendship as though nothing had eva happened to this day we still flirt occasionally but it does get bumpy when one of you moves on someone may become jealous but in my case it wasn’t one of us who became jealous it was always the new third party that erected after our relationship was ova so you see if your friendship is as strong as you make it out to be the both of you will survive a break-up that may neva cum just fine

December 4, 2008 at 11:27 am
(32) Chris says:

As a gay man who has “dated” straight men from time to time, it’s been my experience that they have had same-sex stirrings for quite some time. Only slowly do they admit to these feelings, even after having had sex with me. I didn’t turn any straight guy gay, I merely opened him up to what had always been there. Some have been elated at what they discovered about themselves, others less than thrilled.

December 5, 2008 at 9:55 pm
(33) Ethan says:

i have a crush on this one “straight” guy in my choir class. At first, we hated eachother but we became friends later on. We would always have sleepovers and camping trips together. I love his personality, and i’ve been having a hard time keeping my hands to myself. He’s rubbed my thigh, rubbed my cock, but i don’t know if he’s gay or not. I think he may be curious or trying to hide it. And i feel butterflies everytime i talk to him.
i can’t stop thinking about him, what should i do?

December 13, 2008 at 6:07 pm
(34) Alexis says:

i dnt kno if im straight or
if im gay i tink im BI cus i like
girls but i also like guys n right now im going out wit this girl n she is awesome but aneways i have this freind n i tink he is soooo cute n sumtimes he acts a little gay cus
he sends me kisses n wen we talk he he looks
at my eyes n i look at his n sumtimes in class he tells me too look while he scraches u kno wat n OMG i feel like kissing him but idk if he is GAY or BI cus he says he likes girls n he checks out girls 2 n so do i but idk wat to do ??? i need help on this

December 14, 2008 at 1:26 pm
(35) sensitiveguy says:

Well let me tell you about my sad story:
Iím 22, gay, came out to my parents and some very closed friends
I met a guy, same age, same study (architectural student) in an art space and he took my phone number and I was hit by light, began feeling a powerful crush and attraction for him.
From my first encounter with him I had this deep intuition that he might also be gay , plus he has this ďgay look ď(very sensitive , a touch of feminine side , cultured , creative , sweet, shy , deep and handsome )things u donít always find in straight boys(no offence). We became best friends and we discovered a lot of commons, he was really like me, a twin soul bro. Every weekends night, we were in his little cozy room , drinking wine , listening to classy and jazz , talking about art , and mutual hobbies and passions (and not about girls) , face to face , eyes to eyes , touching each other indirectly with a powerful chemistry between us , but without the sexual stuff. Here comes the drama : I was falling deeper and deeper for him and thinking about him all the time and waiting for something from him , I was afraid to tell him my feelings coz every time I see him I panic and fear to loose him. I became depressed, frustrated, vulnerable and lost and I were always here for him helping him in his project, his problems, encourage him when he was low, never refused him a service. Strangely he never noticed my suffering, although I never truly hide it from him. Gradually , I donít know why , he became too arrogant , narcistic ,and indifferent , I couldnít bare it anymore , I was loosing him gradually , and it was so fucking hurtful for me and eventually after 7 mouth of very close friendship , I lost contact with him for 5 mouth. I was still thinking of him madly and trying to get out of him coz he still under my skin.
2 weeks a go , he called several times , acting like everything is normal, and nothing happened , wish pissed me off. Yesterday, I met him, like old days Saturday night, in his stupid room, drinking stupid wine, talking about stupid art. Then, quietly and slowly, with nothing to loose and nothing to win, I finally told him everything I feel and felt about him. His reaction was strange; he was down, couldnít look at me anymore and told me what I already knew: he wasnít gay. I left the room quietly, feeling heartbroken for the second time and quiet foolish too. I feel very bad right now , its too difficult to live such kind of dramatic fucking experience. I lost a lot of my self esteem and my inner joy.
So my advice for all who are in love with a straight guy, plz be realistic and donít expect a lot , even if the friendship is too powerful , even if he has the gay look ,even if you feel it , what u can do if u are courageous , is telling your feeling the sooner ,he better and expect the worst , coz eventually you will loose him .
If u can turn a straight guy to gay, well it simply means that heís gay.

December 19, 2008 at 9:04 pm
(36) Unknown says:

So, if I a girl was with a girl, but this other person initiated it all and I followed along with the relationship, cause I was cool and did fall in love with them and was with them for 4 years and down the road they sleep with a married man, does that mean they are straight now???? If I still love them, what does that make them now towards me? Can someone go back to being straight over time cause I was not able to give them what they wanted? Really can someone help me out here?!?!

December 21, 2008 at 11:53 pm
(37) scott says:

im bi but mostly in the closet with most people but when i get with one of my straight friends who are really hot…and they still think im completely straught i just get them in my hottub and flirt with them alittle and then they usually ask me if i wanna suck thier cock ,or a couple of times he wanted to suck mine,and i just pretend like im straight and i asure them that i have never done something like that before and i just tell them that i will do it if they do it first and they are down with it..and sometimes it moves to the bed or shower. but then its really funny cause ill be with several of these guys all at once cause we are all good friends, and well all pretend like nothing ever happened. i noticed it works better when im etremely horny and when the other guy hasnt had a peice of ass for a while.

December 24, 2008 at 5:08 pm
(38) CM says:

I dont’t think you can turn someone gay. Are their men who hide behind a facade of hetrosexuality, certainly. That’s not to say every straight man is gay either. Im falling for this guy at work in a big way. Problem is he is getting married in July. There is something about him that makes me crazy. The first time I saw him I was immediately attracted. Physically he is just how I like em; big, bald, bearded and blue eyed. But it’s his way that knocks me out more than the physical attraction. As the months go on he’s such a nice guy that I can’t help but fall for him. Would I make a move on him? Absolutely not. I think he may have an idea that I got it bad for him, however I wouldn’t try anything because the last thing I would want, would be for him to not bother with me anymore or bust my nose for that matter.

December 30, 2008 at 3:50 am
(39) Jay says:

WOW! Reading all of these has definitly brought some emotions back up in the air. Where do I start. I am a gay man who is completely out and I came out in High School. Anyways I was and still am in a situation where I developed feelings for my Best Friend. Anyways we both have fooled around for about 4 years now. At first I thought there is no way he is gay, so I just thought that he was curious but as time when on we did “things;” for the lack of a better word, more frequently. I did of course fall in love with him and about 3 years ago I told him. At frist we didn’t talk for a few weeks after admitting my feelings, but he then came around. We then started explaining our feelings and he basically told me that him and I will never be. Of course I was heart-broken but deep down I still felt that I would have him one day. I slowly began to get over that idea but it has now came back into my head. I now think that he is gay but is unable to comeout for his own personal reasons. We are both in college now and he wants me to move in with him this upcoming summer but I believe that it is going to be emotional suicide if I do. Eventhough I know that this is not a good move for me I can not let him go. I still feel that I can potentially have a future with him. Also on another note he is very protective of me and does not like that I sometimes see other guys. I honestly feel bad for him. I just wanted to share my little story. Also for all those who are afraid to tell your best friend that you love them don’t be. There is this huge pressure that is relased from you and it truely feels great after you get that out in the open. I am not saying that they will take it 100% well but if he loves you he will be there for you even if it is just as a friend. Good Luck All!

February 5, 2009 at 4:27 pm
(40) Michael says:

surely if you CAN turn a straight guy gay, you can turn a gay guy straight? but who could imagine a really obvious gay guy with a girl, i mean a really sterotypical gay guy, with the higher voice and posture. i cant. i dont think this theory of turning people onto the same sex works. however it works in the film “shelter” if anyones interested…its a really good film…WATCH IT!

February 11, 2009 at 10:35 am
(41) Jay says:

Listen LEAVE STRAIGHT MEN ALONE!!!!!! if you can’t accept the fact that they’re straight then leaven them. You can’t turn them gay if you did this doesn’t mean that you expect them to love you forever. I was date raped by someone i know because he tried to turn me gay by spiking my drink and convince me that i was whilst i wasn’t and now i have STD which had ruined my life!!! loss my friends over what happened, my life has been destroyed and i am sickened of what i am hearing turning someone gay? its selfish and you gay people who thinks like this will be the reason why people will start to hate gay so listen carefully leave straight people alone!!!!!! Its different for men it makes them feel less of a man and you want to ruin his life or manipulate him to make yourself happy what about him?

February 11, 2009 at 2:04 pm
(42) StarzzBBY says:

I MADE 10 STRAIGHT GUYS GAY. N I FELL IN LOVE WITH ONE OF THEM. I STILL AM. BUT HE SAYS HE IS STRAIGHT. THEY ALL SAY THEY ARE STRAIGHT! AND I JUSS LAFF BCUZ COME ON NOW.. HE HAD SEX WITH ME! AND IMA GUY! SO WTF?!?! IF YOU HAVE SEX WITH A GUY FOR EXPERIMENTING.? WELL I UNDASTAND THAT ITS EXPERINGMENT BUT IF HE KEEPSS DOING IT THEN HEIS GAY! BUT IF NOT THEN HE IS STRAIGHT. OR MAYBE U WERENT GOOD 4 HIM! BUT ME I HAD MADE THEM. N THEY ALWAYS WANT MORE.! IF HE WAS TRAIGHT HE WILL STOP!

February 13, 2009 at 5:28 pm
(43) Anon says:

MATT, I am a 16 year old Bi. I had the same problem very recently. But the guy was my age, we became fairly good friends when I started my new school, one day there was an awkward close moment in the toilets, but I took it too far and we kissed, he broke away and didn’t speak to me for months. That was the most painful time of my life. But he approached me after a few months had gone, he kept quiet and didn’t tell any of his other friends what happened. Our friendship rekindled, but there was still that moment in the back of our minds. He would go out of his way to sit next to me in classes we shared, and we would hang out a lot outside of school, often just me and him. One day in a film studies class, the lights were out, and everyone else sat gawping at the screen, we sat on the back row alone, our hands knocked beside each other, then suddenly he clasped mine, and held it softly and affecianately. He didn’t look at me, I felt so relieved, it was torture for me thinking he was forbidden, but he held my hand. After the lesson I tried to talk to him about, but he said little words and just walked off. That evening he rang me and arranged to meet at the park we usually go to, it was winter and it was dark outside. I rushed there. I saw him sat on the bench, he had been crying, I went to touch him, but he stood up and hit me in the face, which split my eye. I grabbed at my bleeding face, and he pushed me onto the ground. But then he lay down on the ground next to me in the dark, he held my hand like he did in class that time, and, while laying their, told me exactly how he felt. He told me he loved me, and he hated it. I lay their out of breath and bleeding from my face, he stroked my face and pressed the cut with his hand. Stinging tears appeared in my eyes, my gut was tied in knots, I thought this was the end of our relationship, but he helped my up and we went back to his house, he patched me up, and then we both went to his bed, we didn’t have sex or anything, we just slept next to each other, he was torturing me again. The next day he told his friends that I was gay and had tried it on with him, they came and found me, I didn’t understand why he did this to me. It turns out he also told them he was gay, and had kissed back (he hadn’t). He came to my house and urged me away somewhere private, which happened to be the park again, he kissed me and told me why he did what he did, he couldn’t live a lie, he hurt me because he was afraid of being gay. We went back to his house again, and this time we did have sex, it was amazing, and apparently his first time (not just gay, but any). We are still the best of friends, we are quite seperate still, different friends, different interests, (he likes football and I like Literature)but we have a strong and passionate relationship, the pain was all worth it in the end.

February 13, 2009 at 5:33 pm
(44) JJ says:

OMG, Anonymous guy. That was awful, was the guy a bit sadistic? You should have taken control, or fought back, he’d probs have liked that. I recently split up with my boyfriend, cos I got a cut once and he licked the blood that came out, sicko. So he told his straight mates that I drugged and raped him, denying his homosexuality.

February 13, 2009 at 5:41 pm
(45) ClosetKyle says:

WTF anonymous boy, that guy doesn’t deserve you, you are so sweet. And as for Jj, what a sicko was your boyfriend. I’m 16 also, and my boyfriend is 21, he is an apprentice mechanic, we have a good relationship, but he quite likes bondage, I don’t mind, he is taller than me! If Anon’s boy is sadistic I would strongly suggest bondage, it realy makes you bond- lol! ok not funny.

February 13, 2009 at 5:47 pm
(46) Anon says:

Ok, who wears the trousers? I admit, I’m quite submissive when it comes to sex, but he likes getting his own way so I suppose it’s win win. I’ll ask him about bondage, we usually do a bit of ancient greek role play, I’m a sexy mortal and he’s a horny god. Sad I know! I think he’ll like bondage, your right I suppose he is sadistic, but I like pain, like I said, it was well worth it.

February 14, 2009 at 10:21 am
(47) need to know says:

Now heres my story…. during secondary school… i came in as a innocent young boy who was actually a bi. This guy name issac was my very first friend in school and was rather attractive and gave me the comment that i was really cool despite being a nerd(due to bowl shaped hair…).Hes really nice giving me advice in studies and consoling me every once in a while. Then he asked me if i were gay would i go for ryan(another boy in class) i feared that he somehow guessed and would spread it around so i told him fiercely that i wasn’t but told him that ryan was a good choice…So then everytime in english class he’d write essay assignments to the teacher describing a person similar to me to suddenly become physically hot.I assumed he liked me but never dared to admit how i felt.As we moved on to secondary two we spilt paths and never talked ever since….i was really really sad as he was my first ever friend in secondary school how could he throw such a nice start in school away?I think of him everyday and soon really got him stuck on my mind like a tatoo.In my eyes he became all the more attractive as i imagine every day and night speaking to me in his soft manly voice which is not deep but more toward de tenor range.But i was from the band and he was in uniformed groups….we are like in totally different worlds…i could never be with him was wad i thought but still the tatoo wasn’t erased.Through the years i think he tried to shrug me off by changing hairstyles from becoming bald or having other wierd cuts.But i stilled liked him omg!!!!Ammi crazy or just falling in love with this awesome guy though he changes throughout de years…. those are minor compared to the accumulated feelings i have for him. i always wonder he is still gay since he has many steads(girl friends) and he will always have some1 who likes him every now and then. He checks me out sometimes randomly but usually its me staring at his face overwhelmed by emotions and one third of fear that he might spread that i am gay and it would change my life forever…..Yet i love him so… Please advice me i require comments to get me of this hellish cycle which ends up in me crying and singing songs about him…..but i need to wake up… the Os are coming and i need to prepare for them and i cant do those tough exams with him stuck on my head like a big screen television with blasting head phones… HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

February 14, 2009 at 10:24 am
(48) need to know says:

any1?? I really need to wake up! some one splash some water on me!I liked him for 3 years and my love for him is evergrowing so please help me curb before it’s too late…

February 15, 2009 at 9:38 pm
(49) Dex says:

Lorenzo – I like your style and it is guys like you that rise above the bullshit and keep it real. It is true that alot of str8 guys want a more intimate relationship with certain other guys. Very few people are honest about what life really is, but the ones that are will find true happiness.

February 17, 2009 at 9:57 am
(50) Steven says:

i am in a real jam at the moment…

i have known im gay for sometime now, i am 21 years old now, but back in 2001 i had a girlfriend and things were great, until she was killed and eversince then i have not had a girlfriend, so anyway recently i have been attracted to guys, but the problem i am facing is i dont know how to tell my friends and family, the thing im most scared about is how my 3 best friends will react when i tell them, how can i tell them with out it ending in tears and me loosing my best friends

March 3, 2009 at 12:55 am
(51) Confused... says:

So hearing everyone’s story makes me want to open up about my story. I am 19 and bi. I never had a best friend, but two years ago I met this awesome guy. He became a close friend, then he asked if we could be brothers. Since we had had a convo about how I always wanted an younger brother and he had wanted an older brother. So we became best friends and we hung out all the time. Within a few months he started dating my sister. Which was fine, and good for her because he is gorgeous. Anyway, I never game on to him. But he started saying that he loved me. He said “I love you” when we stopped txting (which we txted everyday all day) or when he left. Being a brother I gave him a key to my car and access to all my things. Then shortly after I went over to help him with a project he gave a tight hug when I was leaving. Then when I would go over to watch a movie with or without my sister he would have his arm around her and his other hand on my leg or around me. She wouldn’t mind it. She called it bromance lol. However, things continued to progress. He then started calling me baby or boo. He would txt me, even when he was with her, saying “Baby please come over to hang out with us.” So I started to think that he was bi/gay and into me. I began to fall in love with him. Then we started kissing (only on the cheek). We continued to do that while holding hands in the car. Like I said I started to like him. My sister and him then went on break, her idea. So I made moves to see how he was. I would rub closer to his penis. Nothing, he wouldn’t do it back but he didn’t complain. One day in the car I was like you want to play the nervous game, and he said what. I explained it to him and he was like I do not get nervous. So we played. I rubbed my hand up his thigh slowly which got me really horny. I kept stopping saying you nervous he said no. Eventually I touched his penis and he started laughing and smiling, but telling me to get my hand out of there? Is he gay? We continued to be really close never going further, but continueing what we had. We would have sleepovers and cuddle all night. He had bent me over once in a kidding manner, and I would nipple play and do alot and he wouldn’t mind. While taking anatomy he would like me to point out all the bones in his body by touching. I went to college and now when I come home isnt as “friendly” as before. So it was killing me because I was in love. So I tried to end our friendship so that I could pull away. He said he had lost something great and faught to keep this together. I said fine last week and tried to fix things. We are back to hugs and the i love you, but I haven’t tried to touch him and we haven’t really cuddled or done anything. This weekend we are planning a sleepover. Does anyone think he may be gay/bi? What should I do to try to turn him on to me without mentioning his sexuality.

March 9, 2009 at 10:01 pm
(52) min says:

I think he’s fricking gay and you should just ask him if he wants to F_*K you…and if you don’t want to you can just give me his number or myspace…

March 10, 2009 at 12:53 am
(53) Karl Giovanni says:

The stories some of you guys write, are amazing to read. It’s very interesting, deep and heartbreaking. People should write more books about this theme, many gay people would like to read such!

I for instance, am a 19 year old chink guy living in the capital of Oslo, Norway. I’ve been gay for however I can remember. And it was this boy I really fell deeply in love with at first year in high school… Like.. I always knew I was gay, but the first real connection you get with someone(the first guy i really feel in love with) was SO immensely deep, and it felt like a hunting surreality of my own existence, nor did I know if he was gay or not(most likely not). All i knew was he had beautiful sea blue eyes, half messy dark blond hair(the bed hair kind) good vibe towards people, utterly charming and lovely to look at, normal built and very interested in science and gym(that kind of guy that turns every gay men on, sporty and intelligent) Science..the kind of subject that doesn’t appeal for gay men.. it’s not like arts, philosophy or language and such.. Anyways, i felt an instant attraction toward this guy.
For us being thus young, I had always shown him an emotional roller coaster at his presence. He never knew if I was angry or happy towards him. But i always needed to be in the same room as him, just to see him and make a good impression on him even tho he was straight or not. He always seemed to be interested to befriend me tho.. a cool open minded straight guy at first I thought..(Even tho i was a closet gay, but my gay features really shows like BIG TIME..)
Of course he found out about everything in the end. The incredibly embarrassing thing that had to occur to me(typically me) was that I checked out a question-page on facebook about people you were keen on.. and of course, little did I know that this friend was a stupid ASS***(excuse my language) who had tried to stalk people to find out who they liked. And stupid as i were, I simply wrote this:
Nr.1 – The guy i liked in class
Nr.2 – Ewan Mcgregor
Nr.2 – I can’t recall a.t.m
Next click on the page was: YOU’VE BEEN TRICKED MAIL HAS BEEN SENT TO…..
Unluckily for me this student was a close friend of his in their previous school, and of course living in a city like OSLO where many knows one another.
I easily found out that he and everyone in class knew that next day. I was so humiliated, trying to avoid peoples questionings. People started teasing him for being liked by a guy. Our classmates started to ask him if he was keen towards me as well.. He never answered that tho, he only said he liked GIRLS and was completely STRAIGHT..(that saying enough for me anyways..)

But this one time.. he skipped his Spanish class to sit with me at the school lounge, us two, completely alone in a big hall room. I just thought.. What the heck.. this is awkward.. he knew I liked him, and he must’ve been freaking open minded if he would sit next by me at this rate.
But we gently small-talked about school matters, classmates, weekend parties and such… Now nonstop-talking for about 10 minutes or so, we were all of a sudden sitting very close to each other. And then..I felt my thigh touching his, suddenly rubbing softly to one another. At first I thought he was mocking me(because he was straight for what I knew) but after I saw his 6 second perfectly charming smile, and the kind of eyes that gaze wide open you when you’re sexually turned on, aww.. HIS Beautiful blue gazing eyes.. I instantly knew what he meant. But I just backed off, with my stupid emotional roller coast bounding towards him.. sitting back straight again. He looked awkward at me raising one of his eyebrow, he was offended of course. He said he had to go back to class again. I just thought..what just happened there.. I was a coward.. A selfish COWARD at the worst..

After the last semester, he change school tho. And i easily lived my life again(after trying to forget him in about 4 months.) But at least now i got bigger self reliance towards my sexuality and it really is one of the greatest experience I’ve seen and felt in my time of living..

Wow.. this was a relief. HA HA HA.
Hope you liked the story anyways. And keep em stories coming!! Love to read such!;-)

March 15, 2009 at 9:03 pm
(54) Bobby says:

I can definitely relate to this story – I was in this kid’s shoes when I was in High School. Now that I am grown and out to all of my friends, I can see the mistakes that I made (and still do). I am, I guess, a very non-stereotypical gay guy. I have never been obviously gay. When I was growing up, I thought that all of my friends secretly knew that I was gay and were acting like they didn’t so they wouldn’t hurt my feelings. But when I later came out to all of these friends, they were all shocked. I dated girls until I was 23 and when I go out in public with my female friends, people always assume that we are a couple – even when we go to gay bars. My point is that maybe the guy he likes is like me. I am openly gay to all of my friends, but I feel that my business is just that – my business. To this day guys will approach my female friends and say, ” your husband/boyfriend is hot”, but when they learn that I am gay, are really surprised. When i was in High School, I would have loved to have known that I was not the only gay guy and that maybe a guy I thought was cute, thought that I was cute, too. So, get on speaking terms with the guy. If you can’t at least do that, then there is no chance that you will ever be his boyfriend.Just be careful that when you tell him how you feel that you are alone so that you can get his true reaction. As far as the straight guy ordeal… I have had so many of my married straight male friends tell me after a few beers, that they have wondered what it would be like to kiss me (or more). Just last night I ran into a guy I used to hang out with right after I came out. He is straight and told me that one night when he crashed at my house, that after I went to sleep he stood outside my door on and off all night, debating if he should come in my room and see what happened… Apparently the mistake that I have made is not telling guys that I find them attractive. You never know until you try!

March 16, 2009 at 1:51 am
(55) steffan says:

a gay guy turned me gay and i love it i ve been in one relationship and hope to get in another so its really great to be gay

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