Is Being Gay Ruining Your Life?
Tuesday February 14, 2006
Being gay is tough! There is pain, loneliness and dishonesty before we come out and ups and downs after we come clean. Some of us would never trade the liberation felt when coming to terms with our sexuality, while others relish in the way their lives were turned upside down after coming out. Can you relate to how these readers feel? 
Agree: Gay Life is Ruining My Life
- "Over the last couple years... but then it dawned on me that all of my problems can be traced to me being gay... So why am I living this dull life of avoiding my sexuality? I just can't come out to my family and friends, and I don't understand why I need to make some big announcement about a personal topic, when no one else has to..." (read more)
- "I started to avoid certain social situations, I even stop going to family socials and once things got to a point where I said I have to be ME at 23..." (read more)
- "It took me awhile to become comfortable with myself. I no longer hide. There are a lot of people who have gotten to know me and figured me out for themselves. I don't feel the need to compare myself to others and I don't have to make excuses. I can be who I am and be comfortable with it. (read more)
- "Being gay doesn't ruin our life...trying to be what we are not and living in shame, or allowing the expectations or judgments of others to dictate or manipulate our life can..." (read more)
Comments
Being gay is ruining my life. I do not want to be gay. I think it is ok to be gay in general, but not for me. I hate myself and would pay any sum of money to not be gay. I refuse to accept it and it makes me miserable, but I think less miserable than being gay. It is a lose-lose situation. I wish I could figure out a way to be straight. I think that if I work at it my hardest I may some day be able to do it, but at the moment life is very hard.
I know exactly how you feel. I just wish so badly I could be straight. My entire social life has collapsed over the past month because of my realization. People tell me, oh well just continue ur relationships with your friends. I think people are naive in that they don’t realize how much sexuality dominates life, especially in college. I don’t know why God would make us gay, because it is only torturous. I don’t believe a loving God would do this.
I’ve just turned 39 and thought I’d have it sussed by now.
I loathe my effeminate voice, I hideaway these days in fear of people saying hurtful things to me. I feel the lowest I’ve ever felt in my life. I’ve lost most of my friends, I’m in a job I loathe. I would have rather been born a straight female fancying men, at least then people don’t see having sex with a man as sick and disgusting. No therapist as got to my self hate so alcohol is the only self medication.