Threesome Troubles: No Sex Without a Third

Sex often dwindles in long term relationships, but instead of developing creative ways to keep the spark alive, many gay couples seek pleasure from outside sources. Threesomes always sound good in fatasy and the terms agreeable at first. In the beginning, inviting a third in bed appears harmless. After all, the third is just for sex and the the other two partners are in love, right? Unfortunately, the fantasy only lasts for so long. Thressomes are like cigarettes, a couple of drags seem harmless but the strong desire to continue sampling far outweighs any personal agreement or willpower. The temporary pleasure derived from inviting another man into your special bond can have dangerous consequences.

This reader writes:

"Dear Mona Lisa,
My partner and I began having sexual encounters with other men, with the agreement that we did it together. Then his sexual energy for me started to change. Now, he has no desire to have sex with me alone. However, if there is a third person involved, his sexual drive is strong. He says he's working through some relationship issues. Other than sex, we agree that our relationship is strong. What should I do?"

Can his relationship survive a threesome frenzy and is it worth salvaging? Read No Sex Without a Third

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