During an Oprah interview last year, singer, dancer, actor Billy Porter commented on the issue of gay men who have a problem with flamboyant men. Porter described the nature of gay men as "a spectrum just like everything." Billy continued, "Flamboyant gay people get more of the attention, but we run the gamut."
Are claims of "no femmes" just a matter of preference or is there something else behind the tiara? Porter thinks it's perhaps more deeply rooted. "It's a self-hate issue that's brought on by society. You want to assimilate. ... The only thing that we want as human beings is to be accepted."
In the forum thread Fear of Being Straight, Tony comments, "Different people look and act different ways. Typically when people say 'look gay' they mean look or act feminine. Far from all gay guys look or act feminine. And there are a decent number of straight guys who do. That is no indication at all if someone is gay or not."
Are those that state "no femmes" in fact speaking from preference among a gamut of different types or are they fleeing the flamboyant based on their own issues?
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