Interracial Gay Dating
Tuesday July 3, 2007
Do we segregate ourselves out of comfort, distaste or are our needs not being met in the most diverse ways possible in as many instances as possible? There are already separate Prides for African-American and Caucasian men. Some bars and hang out spots differentiate themselves by the music, others by the crowd, yet others by the race of their clientele. America is no stranger to taboo nature of interracial relationships. After all, interracial marriages were prohibited under the anti-miscegenation law until 1967 (more on Loving vs. Virginia). And the United States is not alone: South Africa, Canada and Australia are among the countries that previously banned interracial marriage.
Is there still a cry of exogamy 40 years later? The issue is more complex than racism. Some individuals find comfort in dating or, even yet, are simply more attracted to guys within their own race without aversion for other races. But what about those with more universal attractions?
Gay Life forum member Dahighest says:
"I am a single African-American homosexual male who has currently been feeling a strong attraction to guys of other races. I feel that the homosexual lifestyle is highly segregated. For example, most of my homosexual friends are all Black and the couple of times I went to the clubs, there was NO diversity. I would love to potentially date a White, Hispanic, or Asian guy but I don't know how to even start towards meeting one. I realize that as I get older, my taste is changing and I am attracted to different things than I was say, a year ago. So, for anyone out there in an interracial homosexual relationship, how did you jump it off?"Tony replies:
"You jump it off the same was as with someone of the same race. You go up to them and say, 'Hi, What's your name?' I find race to be a non-issue. Cultural differences can be an issue, but I don't see any reason to give much consideration to race. You are either attracted to a person or you are not. They are either attracted to you or they are not. The race of either of you is irrelevant if you like each other. (More on this discussion)What are your feelings on interracial gay relationships? Are you in an interracial relationship? How do you feel when you see an African-American man holding hands with a Caucasian man or a Caucasian man with an Asian man, and so on?
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Comments
I’m a black male early 30’s and in my environment(East Coast) it’s very much normal to see blacks and hipanic together since we are common in so many ways. It is slowly coming acceptable to date a white guy with the younger, upcoming generation. Its harder for older guys of color to easily forgive decades of depression. I’ve been on the West Coast where it is almost tapoo to date anyone outside your race. My latino boyfriend and I were both asked why were we with each other; making us both feel very uncomfortable while we out.
I’m a white man who dates only black men. I’m planning on going to Black Gay Pride in NYC by myself. Would I be welcomed?
I have often desire to date outside of my because I had gotten so tired of the bull from my own people. So many games and jive. Not many wanting to solid, monogamous relationship; they just wanted sex. Then when I finally decided to take that chance I attended this gay bar in my home town and they looked at me as if I was something under their feet. Mind you, I am African American and when I dress down I look like I could be a thug, but I am far from. I am college educated and have a love for the English language. However, I met a few guys, but none seem interested in the smart, cute, sexy AA guy.
I am saddened by the racism that exists in the gay community still, after all these years. I have dated men of many races; my current boyfriend is African-American and I am German/Irish-American.
When I came out in a very small Southern city many years ago there was such a feeling of camaraderie and survival that men of all colors played, dated, and loved alongside the lesbians and transgender folk without any awareness of differences. We were one community in our effort to survive in a very hostile atmosphere.
My last few boyfriends have all been African-American but I have also dated Latinos, Asians, Native Americans, and other white men. I am drawn physically to men who are African-American but it is always the man’s personality, his integrity, and his outlook on life that keep me coming back for more.
As long as we can continue talking about these issues I reserve hope that we can reach a point where race doesn’t matter at all.
I am a transgender m2f who is dating a Black God from London. As a teen, (Many many years ago) I was attracted to dark skinned black men. I longged for a ltr with a black man, but was used as a one night stand, (So many hot guys!) I’ve been “out” as a woman since i was 16. and wanted a boyfriend to go to clubs with. all of my American suitor’s just dumpped thier load and split. But “Bob” is from England, and into the same kinks as me. I don’t care what uptight people think. I love my Master, And he loves me as his Wife.
I’m a white man in a wonderful relationship with a black man. I just turned 32 and he’s approaching 29. He has dated other white guys, as well as other blacks in the past, but this is my first relationship with a black man.
I had never considered dating a black guy. When I met my partner, I fell in love, and it just felt right. There really wasn’t much thought put into it. Although I had never been attracted to black men in the past, race was not an issue. I opened my mind and my heart, and I am glad that I did. It just feels natural. We have been together 8 months, and I know we will be together for a long time.
There is a lot of talk these days about being “post gay”, like being gay is not such an issue anymore, we are blending into the straight world more and more. I’d like to feel that is also true about interracial couples. So far, we have been warmly accepted in our community, and have friends of all races. We have encountered some prejudice, but it has been rare.
One thing I have been very surprised about, is the lack of support and information in the entertainment, media, and social groups for couples like us. I ran across this article by searching for the phrase “gay interracial” and there is very little on the web other than porn. (and even that is scarce)
I guess we are a rare item. I hope someday there will be more unity and harmony between races, gay and otherwise, for we are not all that different.
I’m a white guy who just recently came out. I am very attracted to black guys, though I don’t exclude white guys. I live in Portland Oregon, which is a pretty gay friendly place. I recently met a black guy who is just about the greatest guy I’ve ever met. Every moment with him is fun and laughs. He’s clever as hell, works hard, and has a great sense of humor. Nothing physical has happened as of yet, but I’m hopeful. Anyway, there’s obviously nothing about black men that makes them less intellectually satisfying. I can attest to that. People differ, but the differences are sometimes a big part of what makes someone attractive.
I’m mixed Latino and white and so when someone of pure descent (white, Latino or black) is dating me they are experiencing someone of a mixed background. I am 38 yo and I have dated since I was 18. I had a relationship with a Dominican and another relationship with a white dude. Now I met a younger Cuban-Puerto Rican guy. Guys always ask, on the dirst date, what my background is and they usually just say that it’s cool. I’ve never experienced problems. I hope everyone finds someone to love and put away the color/ethnic issues and just love him for who he is and not what his background is.
i am an mature WM who dates nothing but men of color in the south. I would love to have a special relationship with a man that wants me for me and not my car, money or a place to stay. not to say all men of color are like that but the ones that i meet are. i often wonder what i do wrong?? i am giving loving caring just want a good trustworthy honest guy!
I am a South Asian man that was born and raised on the East Coast… i finally came out..and i realized that most gay guys are pretty racist… More than once has a guy said to me “I don’t do Indians” what the $%#&@…. It is hard enough for us to be accepted in society and now this.. now everyone please don’t be offended but I don’t have the “Apu” accent, I am educated, well spoken and pretty normal, hey I get more dates from women than men….
WHAT GIVES
My partner, Hadji, is a 38 year old African American Male. I am a 60 year old white. I am big and “distinguished” looking. He is pretty and has a gorgeous slender body. We look very different except in our pretty hazel eyes. Our educations are very different, our upbring, how life has treated us, etc. But we fell in love because we believe in each other, please each other and compliment each other. To me, I dont see him as black, I see him as gorgeous and fun. We read each other’s minds. To me, he is more attractive than any man or woman I have ever seen, in person, in a movie ,on TV or in a magizine. We kiss in public(Atlanta) I dont understand why color or culture makes difference. This is the 21 century, not the 19th.
I have read these comments with great interest being a white male of British descent now living in Australia.
I have traveled very extensively meeting and living with a wide variety of ethnicities. I have an overwhelming attraction to black men primarily followed by men of other racial groups: indians, asians, arabs etc. I don’t know where this attraction comes from but it is very strong and, given the choice between an attractive white man and an unattractive black man, I would probably choose the latter as a sex partner!!
My situation is further complicated (if you can call it that) by the fact that I am 64 years old and usually attracted to guys under the age of 40. However, I’d probably prefer a 55 year old black man to a 25 year old white man if I were given the choice.
If this makes me sound ’shallow’ I have to say that it is a genuine deepseated and, to me, natural preference which I’m anable to do anything about – not that I want to!
I just wish that 40 years ago I’d chosen to live somewhere with a greater black population than Australia as my personal life might well have been far more satisfying!
So many of you have posted such optimistic dating experiences. I have unfortunately not been that lucky especially in the cities, I’ve lived in. I’m in Denver, CO and it’s extremely difficult to compete; if you will, with the abundance of white and latino guys. I do or would rather be with another black male, like where I grew up, just aren’t many. I’ve dated white guy’s and I seemed to be more novelty or; see I’m not prejudice. it’s insulting and demeaning. It’s gotten old and I’m starting to get older. Really needing to get to a place were I belong.
I am a 39yr old white gay male who is quickly falling in love with the most wonderful man I have ever met. He is smart, handsome, has a big heart and makes me feel like the most important man in the world. He is black. And our only problem is that we live 2000 miles apart.
I find that the Gay Arena can be discriminating towards each otherand the Gay Arena is faced with discrimination. Speaking of interracial dating, I am a Person of Color/Black with a Cafe Au lait Complexion. My ancestry breeded with the French and Spanish on the Gulf Coast Hundreds of Years ago and were free people of color. In other words, I am light complexion and that makes me no different for being Black. My concern is when I see a Black and White couple Straight or Gay in America, is appears that the Black Person hates his or her Blackness and actually rolls their eyes ( and they usually are the darker complexion Blacks) when you give them eye contact…Especially in the State of Arizona. I feel that if you are Black, don’t lose your Blackness and remember this is America. If you fall in love with someone who’s White,the playing fieldis never equal? Can your lover if he is a CEO make you a partner of the firm (other than working in the mailroom)? Can you accomplish material things on your own without your white lover? Is it Just a sexual fantasty for your white lover to have a hung black lover? Is his family accepting to you during the holidays or festivals and does he invite you? Does you white lover makes excuses to accomodate his request? Why is there division among White and Black Gays and shouldn’t the income and social standards be the same for both? These are my questions because I have dated white men in the past but they had to be on my level or above. Education wise, I have a masters degree, I have owned 5 homes before age 38, I didn’t depend on family, friends or a lover to help me and I earned it the hard way by honest work and GOD. In addition, I would like to add that yes, there are black men who have fathers’, who’s parents’ were married at birth, who live and have lived middle and Upper Middle class backgrounds and who have followed and abided by the laws of America and are still looked down upon and not given the opportunities. There have been times I have entered an all white gay club and the looks I get are like..what are you doing here as well as if there is a Black men in the room (with all white men), the Black men roll their eyes at black men, as myself. You fall in love with whoever..All I am saying is never lose your identity because in reality, this is America,and America will catch you off guard. And yes, I have dated black men and the same rule applies (be half way on my level or meet me half way).A supposedly straight white male friend said to me, “he only dates black woman because they don’t require or ask as much as white women.” My response to him was, ” I was raised with an Au Pair/Nanny and I wouldn’t date you because you don’t have enough money for the life style I was born into.” In my rebuttal to him was can you say Africa, where Tiffany, DeBeers and Harry Winston love? Can you say 20 to 50 Carats, Color, Cut and Clarity over $25,000,000.00 dollars than you cannot afford me..In other words maybe because the women had no “FACE Value” on themselves. I have lived the entire USA, North & South and East & West and it is the same with the race situation. I would like to leave this closing remark, “Give people respect, whoever they are because the Gay world at times (as well as the world) can be too Shallow and don’t lose your identity.
Wow;
Rick,
You are telling the truth about the race thing and catty ways over gay men behaving to each other.. Bravo!!!!!!
I am a 35 yo white guy in Philadelphia, PA and lost my “cherry” to a big strong black man at under the board walk in Wildwood, NJ when I was 17. Every since my most thrilling sexual encounters and best relationships have been with black men. My time with black men opened my eyes to how difficult it is for minorities in the US to receive equal treatment and to “feel” equal as well. I hope future generations are able to clean up the mess the previous ones have left behind. Until then I will do my part and I encourage everyone I know, men and women, to experience interracial love – it brings the world closer to perfection…..
come on guys. you like what you like. stop making excuses for liking a African-American or white man. people tend to read so much into what others think of them in these relationships. almost all the comments seem to come from up-scale people. you seem to want to define your relationship as,”we just feel in love”. you seem to be scared to say, ” I love black men”. we are going to be with people we feel most comfortable with. people are racist all around the world. if you go to places that look down on you why do you insist on staying and spending your money their. ETHNICITY, is not based on genetic hertiage but on long-terms patterns of behavior that have some historical significance.
I’m a 40yr black man residing in San Diego, CA and for the most part, me and my friends of color, especially my black friends don’t feel welcome in S.D. gay community. I tend to travel a lot, and I do notice that each place is different, rather it’s in another country or here in the U.S. I do see more segregation in certain cities, than others. The black gay community is small in S.D., so we are usually ignored in night clubs, restaurants, and community events. Therefore, we establish or own pride and cultural events. I do see a lot of interracial relationships across the country, but it doesn’t really bother me. But, I do wonder sometimes how the black guy feels about his own people. I occasionally get eye rolls if I make eye contact with a young brother that’s with a white dude. I do find some white guys attractive, but most just see me as a sex object. I tried establishing a relationship with a couple of white guys, but it’s difficult because they seemed to see me as a trophy or ownership. I often see a lot of young brothers being own, and I don’t like it. However, I do see mature interracial gay couples that has been together for years. Unfortunately, I have only one white gay friend. And with all the white people in San Diego, this is wild. We are very segregated here. I even seen white guys ridicule their friends if they caught them looking at black guys. A few times, white guys were afraid to approach me because the didn’t want their friends to see them checking me out. If I approached them, they play these silly games to block their attraction. Tho’, it’s the same with black guys, too. People are people, but I think we should be real with each other and not be concern about what others think (most of the time). My friends won’t even go in the gay area and they cringe when I decide to go there alone to have dinner or a drink. It’s too bad, because regardless if I’m welcome or not, I’m a human being and I have a right to be anywhere I desire. I wish my friends felt the same way.
I think that the rejection of gay minorities as sexual partners is rooted in the alienation many gay men feel about themselves i.e. I am already feeling different from the mainstream even though I pass unnoticed so why would I compound it by associating with a visible minority?
As Barak Obama said, people all have prejudices that would dissolve once they interact and get to know you but, if you don’t even get to a conversation, nothing changes.
My advice — make the first move and make the effort to interact.
A passing thought of this topic.As a transsexual in the Denver area I have found gay black men almost non existant of sorts.Perhaps just that i’m older and more settled.
I really enjoy the black culture and there outlook on life.I have seen much animosity in the glbt community but more towards each other and not color.
Wouldn’t it just be nice to have real friends with no rules?
As a black man in my 30s in atlanta, I get the impression that white men that prefer or are open to dating black men are at a definite advantage. I see a fair number of interracial couples. What puzzles me is how often the black half of the couple is usually much younger, thinner and better looking than the white half. Is it that the pickins are so slim that young brothers must be open to dating guys twice their age if they want him to be white? I have only dated white men seriously and none of them have been more than a few years older than me (my current is 8 years older) Its well known that black men like to date outside of their race moreso than any other group of people. Could it be self hatred? Growing up, I found myself exposed to blond/blue standards of beauty so I’m surprised that anyone else was not affected by it.
As a side note, despite mostly dating white men, almost all my friends are black. I really can’t stand brothas that think that by trying to look or act white, they will attract more white men. Who are they fooling?
I am a 21 year old white male who has been dating a 22 year old black male for almost two years. We met online and have been in love ever since. I was in sociology class today and learned about how rare interracial relationships are in the US. During class I was thinking about how hard it would be to tell people that I am dating a black man. Additionally, I was curious to see how hard it is for other people who are in the same relationship (hence why I came to this site). Unfortunately, both of our parents have strong religious backgrounds and are not accepting towards homosexuality. For these reasons, we have had talks about not ever coming out and trying to live “normal” lives. Being from Ghana, he feels that he doesn’t really have much of a choice. Another problem is that I currently live in CT and he lives in GA. We have visited each other on three occasions and I have had the best times of my life. Thanks everyone for your posts and telling your stories. ps. I love you kid…even though you probably will never read this unless I tell you about it.
I WOULD NEVER DATE A BLACK MAN FOR THE SIMPLE FACT REASON THAT THEY ARE GOOD FOR NOTHING. THIS IS COMING FROM A BLACK MAN.
Considering all the racism and white privilege that’s out there in the gay community, I’m always amazed that there are men of color out there who are willing to date white men. But as a white men who appreciates black male beauty, I say hallelujah!
Its seems to me that in general African-Americans tend to be more upfront with their opinions and tend to speak more plainly about what’s on their minds. I really admire this. I come from a pretty uptight social background and have consciously tried to undo this social conditioning. The more time I spend around black men, the less uptight I feel.
And besides, everyone knows chocolate tastes good, so does vanilla, but when you put them together, yummy!
I find it really funny that there is any talk at all about the controversy of interracial dating among gays. Frankly, in Chicago most couples I know are interracial- you see black men with white or latino men more often than with other black men.
And as to guys “not doing Indian guys,” it’s just a personal attraction thing. Some men just prefer a certain kind of guy, but unfortunately there is a significant racism streak among whites in the US against South Asians. Their loss, and for everyone who says “I don’t do Indian guys,” there are two who would be more than willing!
So, is there racism within the gay community- sure, of course! Just like in any other community (and white aren’t the only ones who are racist, by the way). I think it’s much less racist than other communities though- just come to Boystown in Chicago to find out!
There is a diffient race issue in the gay community when it comes down to blacks. The general gay community as a whole in the united states looks at blacks as undesirable. blacks arent included in many aspects of the gay community such as in gay publications. many guys including other black guys (weirdly enough), claim they could never “bring themselves” to dating a black guy. it is something that is looked down upon in the eyes of many guys. however on the flip side if a black guy is decent enough in looks, others may consider them for a one night stand sex partner but nothing beyond that but the later happens to the best of all gay men. i find a higher level of racism amongst the younger gay generation. i guess this falls from the general nature of the country and its outlook towards african americans. the gay community still has a long way to go for racial harmony.
Unfortunately, all the wonderful people who have posted positive experiences in interracial relationships are the exception rather than the rule. I find that there is hardly any representation of gay people of color in the gay media. Images play a BIG role in what people find attractive. I am a GAM. We are at the bottom of the totem pole.
I am a young gay black man and I only date white men because black men are no good for me. They are liars, cheaters, dead beat fathers, criminals, thugs, jail birds, jobless, drug dealers, gang bangers, gangsters and everything else. Black men are extremely homophobic. Black men are abusive towards women. Black men are child abusers.
Wow, Tim. Does that include me as well?
I said it once and I will say it again, black men are no good for me plain and simple. Yes that applies to you too gaylife. I had one bad experience with a black man and that did it to me.
I’m a 45 year european New Zealander and my partner is an indigenous ‘Maori’ New Zealander. It’s funny how we as global society have to compartmentalise everything,as if its that simple, even down to sub categorising people….pointless and irrelevant. I don’t define myself just beacause I’m gay or white or by class…I prefer to define myself on my values. Guys here have commented about interracial couples being invisible. That might be because there is no need to be visible just for being gay, There’s more than just being gay that definesus. I met my beautiful man because we connected and I like to think because it was meant to be.It didn’t come down to prefernce for this or that or how each of us ought to be like…it just was. My take is…clear the mind of all the clutter and just let things unfold with another guy as it should and if it is to be…it will be!
Sonny
Auckland, New Zealand
Hi i am atraccted to black men i would love live my dream of cuddleing one for the sense of security in someones arms that means more to me than sex
LMAO @ Tim. You sorry excuse for a black boy. You had ONE (count it) ONE bad experience with a black man and thus have the right to call them all liars and cheaters. Newsflash, if you can’t stand black men so much, why shouldnt the white boys you chase adopt the same philosophy? What happens when they have their ONE bad experience? You will be shit outta luck I guess.
Look babygirl, if you like white meat, if thats what makes u wet your panties, thats fine! But dont put brothers down in order to justify your attraction to white men. Own up to it. You just like white boys.
Well I have to say the impossible has happend.Last year I had almost given up hope of finding a man,that has changed.He is a very tall,strong thinking black man,so proud of him.Weare looking at getting married in a state that allows same sex marriage.
We mostly hang around the black community both straight and gay openly.I was scared at first but have found more accepting souls than one could believe.I have found now “the greatest fear is fear itself” We are open and happy,looking to open a small coffee shop in the near future.Proves it can be done.
im a 20 yo white guy from newark, NJ. First i was not really attracted to other races….i dont know why….until i met my current boyfriend. He is a 26 yo african-american. He is a very masculine muscled smart and sweet guy. We are together for 2 years now….he just gives me a feeling that a white guy could never give me. I just moved in with him in brooklyn, NY. We never had negative reactions about our interracial relationship, and we were often called the cutest couple they ever saw. I know that we ll be together for a looong time….and i think an interracial relationship is a beautiful thing.
I love my man
Yes, i am a 21 year old white male who lives in D.C. I am only into black guys. i don’t know why but white guys CAN NOT turn me on physically. I can’t explain it, however none of my other white male friends are into black guys. I always go to the majority black clubs and get looks but it’s rare i get a hit. I think it may have something to do with the fact that most white guys wont date a black guy. I’m thinking about just buying a t-shirt that specifies my preference when i go out lol
Tim, your self-loathing is disgusting. What classy, dignified, sophisticated, intelligent, educated, successful, forward-thinking, faithful, etc. would EVER find someone as deeply and dangerously insecure as you even remotely attractive? They aren’t losing anything valuable by your contempt for them. They don’t need you, especially if they have any love or respect for themselves. Which is something you obviously don’t have.
Black man, that is. Needless to say.
I Think that black male who prefers mostly a white male something is wrong, i think it mostly due to bad experiences with some black men not all white men are good either.
I completely understand the interracil dating and the discrimination, but look at if from my eyes if you will. I am originally from the Caribbean, grew up in Washington DC and now live in Sacramento, CA and on top of that I am bi-sexual. I have gone from a culture (the caribbean) to where sexuality is very open, and race doesn’t matter, to a liberal (washington dc) state that amongst gays and bi-sexuals there is not so much discrimination but rules to a conservative liberal (Sacramento) place where it is out right discrimination. Whites guys don’t want anything outside of their own and vice versa with latinos, whites, asians and blacks. But what’s even harder is being bi-sexual just because we find interest in both doesn’t mean we are incapable of monagamy which is sad to me because the shortest relationship I have ever had has been five years and the average gay relationship last 7months and the average hetero last 3 years. I do understand that peoople have preferences based on their values, sexual appeal, faith…etc. But there is no need to discrimatory against ethnic groups. It is hard enough being gay or bi! I have received nasty emails when I have posted on Craigslist looking for an actual date and disclosed my ethnicity. It has gotten to the point now I don’t post anymore and the first I ask is are they ok with my ethnicity. Unfortunately, most of them don’t answer back which is a pretty strong indicator. Look people there is a proper way to let someone know that you are not interested without becoming a bigot. Currently my boyfriend of 1yr is Italian/French and Argentinan, yes he is gorgeous and he thinks the same of me! Well I hope I didn’t open a can of worms, thanks for the comments, please keep posting.
Black men will never be good enough for me to date. Hell, they are not even good enough to be my friend. The only 2 things that black men are good for are sports and entertainment and that’s it. Why? Because they are too stupid for the real world.
Tim, why would you waste our time making comments like that? Why don’t you check out the Anti-Deformation League’s website and find out what websites they are monitoring, and then go to those websites and leave your comments there, where those of your ilk will unanimously applaud your rather all inclusive negative comments about black males.
Anyhow, Tim, I don’t think this website is for people like you, so what’s your point really?
^ BRAINWASHED
I’m starting to think you aren’t being serious, Tim, and it’s just one long, tired and unfunny joke. You are probably blacker than an ace of spades. YOU WILL NEVER BE WHITE no matter how desperately you try. I hope it doesn’t kill you when you realize this…
All I know is that i have had nothing but bad experiences with black men and so therefore i am done with them.
Ugh…. I’m 16 and wanted help on this issue, I’m not out but reading all these comments scares me. My the way I’m black.
Tim, we are all aware of your claim of having so-called bad experiences with black men — or that’s what you’ve written here, which we really can’t validate. None the less, now that you’ve spued out your not-so-credible nefarious maledictions about black males (getting your 15 minutes of attention) we can safely assume that there is really nothing more for you to write on that topic, because you’ve effectively vomited that filth all over this site. Now it’s time for reasonable people to disinfect this discussion board to prevent further contamination. So Tim, please be reasonable with any additional comments on this topic.
Tim, it appears that you hate yourself. And this is not the discussion board that deals with those types of mental maladies. To issue such nefarious maledictions concerning black men is evidence of your troubled state of mind.
Since, there is little else left for you to add negatively to this topic, since you’ve emptied your self-loathing mental garbage, I hope that you’re feeling better now. In your own best interest, you should get some professional mental help.
Tim,
Thank you for your comments. You’ve shared your opinion several times within this same post. I would like to stay on topic. So, in the best interest of this discussion, please refrain from commenting further. If not, I will have no choice but to close the discussion.
The truth hurts don’t it.
I am a Caribbean mutt (Haitian, Cuban, Puerto Rican, and Dominican) and my partner is Filipino and Caucasian. We are a very happy couple, and in the pat I have dated, Mexican, Puerto Rican, and African Americans. So I am very color blind. I feel that people are attracted to a person, bot their color. Some of these comments totally disturb me. This is the 21st century, and we are still discussing this. People please come together, this is why the gay community is so divided.
I’m a white middle-aged guy who has dated seveal black men in the past. And there is nothing wrong with a interracial reationship! And there should NOT be a seperate pride party for either race. Because, it’s simply not right to hold a pride for whites and a pride for blacks, and a pride for Asians, and so on. But, in this country that’s never going to happen, because deep-divided, long standing racial tensions that still extist. If a white guy want to date a black, or Asian, or Hispanic, then go for it! But, there should not be a separate pride for any race!
I am black and have been attracted to white guys since middle school before I even knew I was gay. The attraction has always been there. I grew up in a black household and had many black friends. I’ve been treated nice and bad by both black and white. I think there are attractive men of all races, but they never really turn my head as much as white men. I can look at a black man or asian or latino and say “wow, he is very handsome.” But, if I see a handsome white guy, he might linger in my mind. Of course, we know that I am not attracted to ALL white guys just because he is white. Sometimes the white models in the magazines don’t do anything for me either. While I’m in my 30s, I’m not looking for a “hot” 20-something or a “settled” over-40-something. On the flip side, if I were straight, I’m more attracted to black women than white. Attraction is sooooo complex.