His Bisexual Boyfriend Now Wants Women

This reader says his bisexual boyfriend hasn't cheated yet, but decided after 14 years that he wants to be with women. He knows what to do, but is caught in a tricky situation. I'll let him elaborate:

Dear Mona,

My lover and I have been together for 14 years and are in a terrible situation. I knew when we started our relationship that he liked women as well as men but it has not been a problem and he has been faithful. Now he tells me he has desires and needs to be with a woman. I can't compete here. What do I do? I understand how he feels but can't bring myself to share him with anyone...

Dear Heartbreak Hotel,

I know you're expecting Mona to give you one of her African "a snake is always a snake" proverbs or one of her mama's annoyingly true "he's a loser" speeches, but your heartbreak calls for a special brew.

I know what you're thinking here: Why did I fall for a bi guy? How could I be so stupid to spend 14 years of my life with him? Why wasn't my name on any of the bills? How can I ever trust again?

The list goes on, 'mo. We've all been there and 14 years is a long time in someone that now wants to play... keep reading

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