What's a girl without her gay best friend? She sacrifices her evenings to accompany her gay to the bars; she answers the phone at all hours to absorb the saga of her gay's declivitous love life; she helps him dress for work and then gives him advice on how not to get fired; and she loves every moment of it.
With all of this girl-on-gay-guy love going on, a gay man's female best friend deserves a nickname less galling than "hag." Enter the fruit fly.
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I find that term offensive,,,
I’d rather be a fly than a hag.
I love that I am the one who made that up and it’s caught on the way it has! Back in 1990 I refered to my very pretty girlfriend as a fruit fly when another friend called her a fag hag! I said you are much to pretty to be a hag! I paused for a moment, looked her up and down and said… You… “you are a fruit fly” from that moment our group used it continueously!! Years later I saw it in print! I freaked out and couldn’t believe it! I dont know why some people are offended by it! To those who are… Get over it!! It’s cute:) enjoy it everyone!!!
This is incorrect.
In the book “Another mother tongue: gay words, gay worlds”, by Judy Grahn, which has the etymology of many gay words, the term “fruit fly” is clearly defined as a woman who enjoys the company of gay men.
The book was published in 1983, so perhaps you heard it somewhere first and just thought that you made it up.