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By Ramon Johnson, About.com Guide to Gay Life since 2002

Too Young For Erection Problems

Sunday March 2, 2008
Dear Mona,

I'm having a problem keeping my erection while being intimate. I have no problems when I'm by myself, but I almost always lose my erection when someone is with me. It becomes extremely frustrating for both myself and whomever I'm with. It's taking a toll on my dating life.

For the 3 years that I've been having sex with men, I've always been a bottom boy. Lately I've really wanted to try and top, but it's too embarrassing to even try when I already know that in a matter of minutes I'll be soft. I'm 21 with what appears to be an erectile dysfunction. Please, I'm desperate for some help.

Thanks,
Missing In Action


Dear Cold Case,

Here you are 21, sexually hyped, ready to flip and the pipes are busted. Your situation reminds me of the first time the quarterback threw me the ball during a high school football game. I had run the scenario in my head (alone) a million times. He throws, I catch, we score. But when it was time to perform, I dropped the pigskin almost every time. And there is no worse feeling than witnessing the one person expecting you to catch well sigh in disappointment.

The anxiety of my limp hands got so bad, I continued to drop the ball in practice. My frustration multiplied. I couldn't even focus on my patterns. I continued to choke. He eventually stopped throwing me the ball... read more

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Comments
October 30, 2009 at 1:18 am
(1) Mark P says:

For all of those who think Male performance Products are just for older guys, please read.

Unfortunately there are prescription drugs out there that say “may cause sexual side effects.” I took one of these prescrption drugs and now that has ruined my ability to do the deed without assistance. It sucks that this happens, but not being able to get it up is not the fault of the person nor does it make them less of a man. Many times its because of physiological problems or medical reasons.

I started taking the Dr Max Powers HGH Spray and it had allowed me to carry on a somewhat normal sexual life. It seems to be a very natural way to boost male sex drive and erections without harmful side effects.

My point is people: Go the more natural alternative way like the Dr Max HGH Spray. I sure wish I found it sooner that the prescription stuff I took.

I highly recommend it. Thank you

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