Myth: All Gay Men Have Anal Sex

I’m so glad to see this paragraph, as I have never allowed anyone to try to penetrate me and I have not tried it with anyone else in many years. I just feel that is not where my d* or anyone else’s is designed to go. I’m entirely oral. Would love to chat with other guys who feel the same.

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I too am happy to see this little known fact reported. I think there is social pressure to view anal sex as “the norm” so much so that those of us who do not favor the practice are seen as oddities. I know no shortage of young, just out, gay men who think that unless they get penetrated, they haven’t had sex. We need to respect our individual differences and preferences around sexual intimacy and allow for variety of expression.

I perfer just simply “Oral” why it is safe.
Yes somewhat contridiction if a guy never
tells. The truth regarding HIV status but
anyway I never. Appreciate the bottom allure
I found displeasure like. Many me I’m fond of
fingering (and) rimming but not Anal. To me
it is not initatment to well shall say. It
to femme for me if wanted anal I date woman
Most men perfer oral and body kissing over
anal.

I perfer non anal reason safe sex. Or no
sex I no it sounds vauge but unhealthy.
The risk of HIV believe allot my friends
are positive. So I perfer oral over Anal
as most men.

I get so tired of people thinking that all gay & bi men have anal sex that is so far from the truth, I tried using anal beads i never got pleasure from it. I went to this website man2manalliance.org it has open my mind to frot plus it is almost 100& safe, i now believe that the anus is only for exit.

To those who say Oral is safer, it really isn’t. Just the same. You can contract STDs from having semen in your mouth. Or if the penis has any secretions. Always use protection, safe sex is better than ANY sex.

To the Feb. 9 3am poster, you are wrong. Although oral sex carries some risk, it is much less dangerous than anal sex. The tissues in the mouth are nowhere near as susceptible as the tissues in the rectum. I am not advocating unprotected sex with people whose statuses are unknown, because that is dangerous regardless. HIV can be still be spread through the oral route, but it is less likely.

I am 25 years old and I have bottomed maybe 6 or 7 times so far and don’t really enjoy it. I can TOLERATE it so long as I am on top but honestly it just really isn’t my thing. My friends (even the straight ones) think that it is odd that I am a gay man and don’t enjoy giving or receiving anal sex. Truthfully, the only reason that I even did it to begin with was because I felt like it was something I SHOULD be doing and SHOULD enjoy. However, I have come to the conclusion that sex is something that is meant to be enjoyed and if anal isn’t my thing I shouldn’t force myself to like something that isn’t pleasurable to me. It is really hard for me to meet guys like me who are more into oral and “heavy petting” (for lack of better words). I think I know of two other guys who are like me in that respect. Would love to meet more. My e-mail addy is creativespirit0184@yahoo.com and you can look me up on MySpace. My screen name is

Most of us gays love and enjoy anal sex to its maximum extent, so does the majority of bi’s. Even some women do and men they feel its more pleasurable because the annus is narrower than the vagina. Those who doesn’t like anal sex I respect them and it’s up to them. I love it and most gays in the world agree with me. Anal sex is enjoyable but its all in the mind. If you have set up your mind to not enjoying anal sex then you’ll definetly will not enjoy it. It’s like frigid, anorgasmic women.

This topic is music to my ears.I havent been sexually active for two years because i simply do not enjoy anal sex,and oral sex is still somewhat risky.someone did that intercrural act with me but i never knew it had a name.so i think ill get back into the sex scene but with frottage and intercrural sex only.thanx for the info!

the last time i got screwed was about 10 years ago. never liked it, but i would do it if the other person needed to do it. after the last time, i said i will never do it again, and so far, i haven’t done it and i have no plans to ever do it again. if the other person has a problem with that, it’s just that – his problem.

It’s very discouraging that so many dating sites for men require you to put top, bottom, or versatile. Some of us are none of the above. And it’s sad how many men bottom and don’t even like. They do it to fit in, to be liked…or even loved.

Just about every gay man who has HIV has gotten it from anal sex. What’s sad is we’ve known how to prevent HIV for 25 years now yet our community is still greatly affected by it.

Bill Weintraub calls it the buttf–k dictatorship and I agree. It’s about time guys who don’t like anal take a stand and say they don’t like it, they don’t want a disease, they’re not pussy bottoms, and they’re not going to do it.

It’s time for men to start being men again and leave their anus to expel waste.

I’m 25 and pretty much havent enjoyed anal sex at all, just not my thing, but i guess i’d do it if i met the “right” person, which hasnt happened yet soo…yea. Umm but if anyone else feels the same or wants to chat and relate email me at . Peace.