I Want A Relationship So Bad

Dear Mona,

I am a 19 (going on 20) year old guy who has never been in a relationship, never been kissed, and never had sex that's more than a one night stand. I want so bad to be in a relationship, just to feel that feeling that you know you have some one that loves and cares for you no matter what. The feeling that if all you want to do tonight is hold that other person in your arms, they would embrace you.

I have come close to a relationship once but I was told that I was moving too fast! My response was, "I have never been with another person like this, so how am I going to know if I am going to fast if you never told me?!"

Mona: You're probably too young to remember the Warner Bros. cartoon Animaniacs. My favorite character, the comically obsessive Elmyra, loved and adored animals. So much so that they cringed at her suffocating embrace and overbearing attentiveness. Her intentions were good—she loved them—but her approach in the beginning was way too much to handle. She got so excited at the sight of her companions that she would squeeze the breathe out of each one until they retreated. She never gave them a chance to love her back. She never allowed a mutual relationship to build. I'm all about expressing feelings, but you have to filter them a little in the beginning... read more

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