"I was not sad to find out my son is gay. It made me sad to think about the pain he went through as a child and teen as we as narrow minded 'Christian' parents, teachers and pastors confused and confounded my son. I am sad to think about how many people my son had to listen to spout off all their anti-gay rhetoric. Don't you dare pretend to embrace the gay community in love and then tell them all the reasons the are repulsive.
Do I believe my son can be a Christian and gay? Certainly. Saying otherwise is like saying I can't be a Christian and fat. After all the Bible does say gluttony is a sin does it not?"
-Sharonagain commenting on "Why We Don't Understand Homosexuals"
Do I believe my son can be a Christian and gay? Certainly. Saying otherwise is like saying I can't be a Christian and fat. After all the Bible does say gluttony is a sin does it not?"
-Sharonagain commenting on "Why We Don't Understand Homosexuals"
I agree, not so much from the perspective of the parent, but that of the youth. I was raised in a church and my foster mother was a minister as well. She, herself wasn’t biased as others however, she and I were both subject to redicule and judgement by our “christian” peers.
well heres a saying i no that might help people today eve gays and every one else in the world!!! heere it is ” IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT YA LOVE, IT MATTERS THAT YA LOVE ” even of the same sex and people may say that bein gay is a sin but i don’t believe that stuff its judging other people and i heard that if ” You judge, You shall be judged ” and thats true so remember every one around you may be gay or not but if they are gay be glad for them dont judge be glad for them and your self
Ok well I am glade to see that one parent is takeing his son in even if he is gay. I am bi and also a christian. I stand on the point that people are born a certain way. Just like your personality is imprinted on you before birth they’re all trates. No one asked to be gay or bi it just happens that way. I grow up in a completely christian home with loveing parents and knew everything there is to know about god and his laws. but still I felt wierd to guys and that goes back to it’s all genetic.
OK, my son has just comfirmed that he is gay. We are very active Christians and very strong in our faith. I believe that although the consent of our sinful will is present in every sin, it is also true that we are born as slaves of sin. We may also yield to a particular sin so often that we no longer control the sin, the sin controls us. We may find ourselves yielding to sin even when we don’t want to. We are happy to assure the repentant who are struggling against this sin that they have complete forgiveness through the blood of Christ. I love my son (I use to say unconditionally) soooo very much but as a Christian, can I embace his active sexual life style and what if he would bring his “significant” other home to me. I don’t know that I can live with that. I do not think that I can embrace that and if I don’t, my son and I will more than likely not have a relationship. What do I do?
I believe that every person is born gay or they are born straight, just the same as if you are born a boy or a girl. To me, Bi exists as a mutation, sort of like twins you might say(nota great analogybut by it i mean that there are far more reported cases of people being bi simply because they are too afraid to confirm that they are gay, or for whatever reason. I am not a religious person but I understand that throughout history and in every culture today, religion is present. There MUST be some kind of human need for religion. I feel that the two, religion and sexuality, are COMPLETELY separate things and should have nothing to do with one another. religion is food for the soul, a sense of purpose and a comfort; sexuality is an innate human need. From Adam and Eve to you and me, EVERYBODY has sex. And if they don’t, I pity them.
That being said I think that you should be thoroughly ashamed of yourself.
If you really want an answer, maybe just this once, try imagining that your son, your flesh and blood, your own precious creation to love and to hold while you and he are on this earth; maybe that is just a bit more important than your God, who you will meet one day and have a great relationship with, but this is your son, in your life. If he were to pass away, that’d be it. You may have given up something very important over something that in the grand scheme of things, his sexual habits (that you won’t see one way or the other)… and you’ll know, God will tell you “wow, come on lady why the hell didn’t you spend more time with your son, tell him you love him UNCONDITIONALLY.I judge thee and send thee to hell for your crappiness as a mother.”
I’m sure you’re a great mother but I just hope, this being posted in 2008, that you made the right choice. For your son’s sake.
This is to “Heavy Hearted Mother”
—My very conservative mother loves me unconditionally. As Christians, I believe that is what God really does, and that it is what Jesus stood for. If every mother turned her back or withdrew from her son because he “embraces” sin, there wouldn’t be a mother/son pair left in the world. You don’t have to love everything about him to deal with it and let him know that you are trying to understand. If he knew every secret you have, maybe he would be disappointed to, but he probably wouldn’t turn away from you. Just love him, and stay in each other’s lives. How can anyone think that God would want to come between a mother and a son? You know God wouldn’t want that. It’s your job just to love him. He knows your beliefs. Whether you realize it or not, you tortured him with them all his life. If you distance yourself from him over this, both your lives will be poorer for it. Good luck, and God bless you.
Michael Travis Jasper
author of the novel, “To Be Chosen”
info on a young adult novel about a pastor’s daughter who realizes she’s gay, check out traceygzoeller.com
its better that two gay ppl love each other than having a straight couple h8 each other and get married thats all I got