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Ramon Johnson

When Was Your First Gay Sex?

By October 1, 2008

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Back in 2005 I started a poll about when you guys had your first gay sexual experience. The number of votes has be astounding and I'm curious to know how you all feel in 2008. So I'm bringing it back. In the older post, I wrote:
"I often hear gay and bisexual men talk about how being with a man confirmed the emotional and physical attraction they have for the same sex. While some gay men can only claim a same gender experience the first time around, others have actually had two 'first' encounters—the first being with the opposite sex or vice versa. Either way, our first sexual experiences will forever be implanted into our memory banks."
When was your first gay sex?
1) 13 or younger 2) 14-16 3) 17-19 4) 20-24
5) 25-30 6) 31-40 7) 41-50 8) 51-60 9) 60 or older

At what age did you realize you were attracted to other men?
I want to follow the previous poll up with another one, since many of you knew you were gay even before having sex. At what age did you first realize you were attracted to other guys?

1) 13 or younger 2) 14-16 3) 17-19 4) 20-24
5) 25-30 6) 31-40 7) 41-50 8) 51-60 9) 60 or older

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Comments
October 1, 2008 at 2:44 pm
(1) Ben says:

This one is not really a hard answer to answer. But its hard to really understand what “GAY” is to a 8 year old. I had no idea “IT WAS” wrong, nor did I even know what the word “FAGIT” was. I heard it the hard way.

October 1, 2008 at 2:47 pm
(2) gaylife says:

I remember being really young when I knew something was “different.” I didn’t know what it was, but I definitely knew I wasn’t exactly like the other little boys. I liked boys before I even knew what “gay” was.

October 1, 2008 at 11:51 pm
(3) george says:

i realized an attraction for men in my early 20s but didnt act on it until the age of 48. i spent years reading gay porn, using phone sex and reading International Male and Undergear before stepping out. Fear finally gave way to need and desire and Oh what a wonderful feeling!

October 5, 2008 at 11:39 pm
(4) Bronzeru says:

i remember that i was crazy over my best friend at the age of 13 and he was about to move away so we kinda did stuff lol but we rearly see each other know =[

October 6, 2008 at 5:27 am
(5) DJ says:

I realize at age 8 my best friend and I were figuring out where the boys we liked the looks of lived and riding by their house, yet in 1951 I had no name for that kind of attraction. It was years later before I had a name for it and when my childhood friend and I got back in touch after 36 years in 1996, we came out to each other. In meantime, I married, tried gay sex, and was ready to separate from a long marriage (not because of being gay).

October 8, 2008 at 6:39 pm
(6) old dad says:

I’m an old dad, but as far as I can remember, boys have always atracted me, far more than girls (I hardly met any) I have had gay sex in my teens. I fell in love with a boy when at university. I was in love, not him, although I told him. I got married, to follow the straight line, had two children. After ten years, got divorced. I then lived with a man who died of aids seven years later in my arms. I then was with a woman who was after my poor money. I am now with a man thirty years younger than I am, interested in money too. But I am too old now to go and look around. What a life! Oh, I forgot to tell you that I have been HIV+ for the past twenty three years, but I have always told my parteners, and I take care. Frank.

October 15, 2008 at 3:03 am
(7) AKSHAY says:

i want a boy friend and i want to have my frist gay sex help !!!

November 10, 2008 at 12:52 am
(8) beautiful boy says:

I had my first gay sex at age 13 and it was amazing.

January 9, 2009 at 7:11 pm
(9) josh says:

i first had sex when i was 12 and in 6th grade with my 15 year old friend. no condom. we use one now

January 23, 2009 at 6:18 am
(10) CM2 says:

(2) gaylife says:

I remember being really young when I knew something was “different.” I didn’t know what it was, but I definitely knew I wasn’t exactly like the other little boys. I liked boys before I even knew what “gay” was.

I remember back when I was in 1st grade, I liked being close to and being around one of the guys in the class… he was so beautiful and had his mind set straight. He tried to play it off when we all we younger, but now he’s an out-of-the-closet guy who deserves respect :)

Let me know if you have any more issues :)

January 29, 2009 at 9:11 pm
(11) Mario says:

I remember that I had a primary school teacher I found attractive. Sometimes, when he wanted to explain a particular lesson (it was an exclusively boy school),he would gather us all around him. And I remember the pleasure I took placing my arm on his thigh. I was 8 or 9.
When I played “cow boy” with friends of my age and we “killed” each other with a mock gun, I’d always managed to fall on one of them

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