I was listening to Robin Thicke's new album, Something Else, specifically the track "Dreamworld." The lyrics go:
"I would tell Van Gogh that he was loved, there's no need to cryWhat does Robin Thicke have to do with gay life? Well, besides the fact that I think he's adorable, I started thinking about how many of us tend to lose sight of our dreams and our ideal dreamworld after we come out. We are so focused on navigating day-to-day as openly gay, closeted or curious men that often times our goals and ideals for the world fall to the side.
I would say Marvin Gay your father didn't want you to die (dream)
There would be no black and white, the world just treat my wife right
We could down in Mississipi and no one would look at us trice,
That's my dreamworld, that's my dreamworld, it's more than a dream
That's my dreamworld, that's my dreamworld, and I wanna live in my dream..."
So, I ask: What are your dreams and what does your dreamworld look like? I'll start...
In my dreamworld, I wouldn't be so sensitive, I'd let things go by.
In my gay dreamworld, I could go anywhere without being looked at.
I wouldn't have to come out because it wouldn't matter.
In my dreamworld I can marry my partner wherever I wanted.
My future kids wouldn't ever feel (or be) disenfranchised, disempowered or devalued...
What about you? Describe your dreamworld in the comment section.
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in my dream world we wouldn’t need to dream. life would just be as awesome as we are.
In my gay dreamworld, I wouldn’t have to wonder if it was okay to put up the poster for the Gay Men’s chorus concert in my cubicle.
I would have a picture of my husband (not just boyfriend) on my desk.
Groups like NGLTF and HRC wouldn’t exist, because they wouldn’t have to.
In my dreamworld I wouldn’t have to hide my feelings for my friend, I would never have to fear being who I am among strangers. I would be able to find love, my parents would accept me, I wouldn’t have lost any friends. I would be able to visit my dreamworld outside my dreams…
In my world (it would not be a dream world but reality) I would be able to walk up to any man whom I am attracted to and express my love for him without the social constrictions that exist now – by law or religious codes or social mores. Love would be the guiding principal of life and any man would become who he wants to be and live in the infinite freedom of life and love! No one can tell me what is right and what is wrong. Only I know that for me. No one else! Sex would be a sacred function of my inner self that would be a vehicle of communication between everyone. It would not be looked on as something to be hidden behind closed doors. It would not be looked at as something dirty and the naked body would be seen as something beautiful. Religion has contaminated life and love by making sex dirty and sinful. On the constrary, it is the most beautiful gift of the creator, allowing man to express his love for another in the most intimate and infinte way that no other living species can experience.
I am not a gay man (or any kind of man, LOL). But I also have a gay dreamworld in which one of my gay male friends and his partner would be able to have the child they want so badly – by in vitro, adoption, whatever way. And I know that child would be much loved and taken good care of.