Finding A Real Man

Dear Mona,

I am 21 years old and only came out my freshmen year in college. I've been looking for a boyfriend for about 3 years now. I'm not the most attractive man, but it seems every time I fall for someone they either ignore me or just want to be friends. Also, anyone who has ever shown interest in me only does so because they want to get me in bed and I am not looking for that. Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated.

-Warner

Warner! Buddy!

You've got to turn this around, my friend. Your self-perception, that is. I'm an optimistic love-centric hopeless fool for love and right now even I wouldn't date you. If you're so eager to down yourself like that, then it tells me that when you do meet guys you probably exude self-loathing rather than the sexy confidence most guys want... keep reading

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