He's At Home Partying While I'm Away On Business

Dear Mona,

I live part time in New York and part time in Seattle. My partner and I have a home in Seattle and when I am in NY, I roommate with a female friend of mine. Whenever I'm at home in Seattle, I feel like all my partner and I ever do is stay in and watch TV on the couch. He wants to cuddle, etc. But when I leave town, he is everywhere... doing activities, going to movies, having happy hour with friends, going to cook-outs.

He has told me that he has issues being "alone" at home but we have two loving pets that I wish would get more attention from him. I can't help but feel like he saves all the fun time with friends when I am gone and wants to do nothing with boring me. How can I shake this feeling? I am sad enough being here alone without any real friends and family. I don't want to feel like I've been left out of all the fun back home. -Lonely in NY

Dear LiN,

You're looking at your cuddle time all wrong here, LiN, and you're being quite selfish. It sounds like you want your boo to stay at home with the pups while you're away and save up all of his party time for you upon your return. Remember, you're not the only one lonely in love. He's probably off partying and cooking-out to take his mind off of the fact that his man is never home. And my dating intuition tells me that he's always been a socialite, even before you started traveling for work. But, we know from your question that the issue isn't him having fun; it's him having fun without you... more

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