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"Just about 23.5 hours of my day are consumed by me thinking about how I am gay. It ranges from non stop thinking about guys, trying to guess who is gay that is walking past me, how to get a boyfriend, to thinking about coming out (I think about this the most). Obviously this leaves little time for things like, writing essays, like I am suppose to be doing right now...
So back to the question for all you out guys...after you came out did your mind go back to normal, as in thinking about other things than just being gay?" Join the discussion
First, why not ask women this question as well? Second, absolutely. For me, coming out continues to bring immense relief as I can be who I am at work, with friends, with family–everywhere. While I don’t broadcast my sexual identity to everyone, all the time, I feel free to do so as the circumstances merit. And that gives me the wherewithal to direct my energy towards more productive things in life, such as my professional work, which includes helping lesbian, gay and bi people reveal their true selves in the workplace. See comingout925.wordpress.com
The older I get (and I turn 50 next birthday), the less and less I obsess over my sexual orientation. I am not a gay man, I am a man who happens to be gay, among a great many other things as well. Focus your attention outside your own world and you’ll find quite an interesting world outside!
I am 69 and one of those Harvey Milk groupies…I am just a guy that is gay …My sweetheart passed and I am moving on looking for one anywhere in the world…First of all if you are gay, you are gay…find a boyfriend…then the rest falls into place..I have been to the trial of the 52 in Egypt , I have seen the whippings of a gay 17 year old for have an enounter….believe me…being in the US is the best, we still have an uphill battle with some, but, if you hide and walk in the shadow you are failing yourself and who you are. You don’t have to go to work in pink velvet, just be you..and you will be fine. Take baby steps, be kind and be true to yourself most of all, and then some guy comes along and there you go…flying to the moon…From past knowledge I believe that being monogomos is the safest and most satisfying area of gay life…Then there is marriage…the best…better to have good regular sex with one person that that flash in the pan,,,,there can be some lonesome roads looking for a quickie that is mind blowing especially as you age. Stability is there for gays, family is there, and your gay pride is there. Research love….and where you stand with that….being gay sure has a lot of love in it. ..another shadow is appearing what you are not…don’t be a closet queen….it will haunt you for ever….In all religion truth is the essence …so, …..what ever it takes be truthful to being your self…gay is gay.. and then one morning you wake up and every thing is coming up roses….your gay and the world is gay…gay..gay……bye..P.
I am 39 and I considder my self Gay. Some people say that I am Bi-sexual though because I have been married twice before and I am in a loving committed relationship to a woman right now. But I was in a gay relationship for 2.5 years once and have had several male lovers in the past. If someone asks if I am Gay or Bi, I always say Gay. The woman I am with knows that I am Gay and is more than understanding about my feelings for men now and my many past male relationships. I feel very liberated when I tell people that I am Gay and so should all gay men out there. When I was a child, I was always under the i,pression that something was seriously wrong with me because I had a deep desire to look at the male underwear cattalogs and that is what turned me on. Never the pictures of women. In fact, my first sexual encounters were with boys of my same age that started back when I was in 5th grade and that carried through half of high school.