From Ramon Johnson,
Your Guide to Gay Life.
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A. Unfortunately, there is no easy way to determine if you are gay. There are no scientific tests or sterotypes that determine your sexuality. You will find out through experience and feelings.

Most define being gay as having a strong bond or sexual attraction to another man. Others define it as a lifestyle which includes behaviors and social interactions.

You should ask yourself several questions about your sexuality and sexual preferences. Do you prefer sex with a man? Are you physically attracted to men? Do you feel an emotional bond with a man? Would you consider an intimate relationship with a man?

Try not to fall into the trap of stereotypes. Gay men are just as diverse as straight men. There are no mannerisms, music or clothing preferences that can define a person as gay. The Kinsey Scale is a good start in determining your sexuality.

More Coming Out FAQ's:

• Am I Normal?
• Am I the Only Person That Has These Feelings?
• If I Fantasize or Have a Sexual Experience With a Guy Does That Mean I Am Gay?
• What Does It Mean to "Come Out?"
• When Should I Come Out?
• Will My Family and Friends Reject Me or Stop Loving Me?
• What Does It Mean to be Bisexual?
• Can Gay Couples Get Married?
• Can I Have Children If I'm Gay?
• Where Can I Get Help?