I am 12 years old and have a really close friend that I fool around with when he sleeps over. I also have a girlfriend. Am I gay?
Dear Test Drive,
Fooling around with your buddies is perfectly normal while growing up. That alone doesn't mean you are gay or not gay, you guys are just exploring your bodies and sexuality. Plus, keep in mind at age 12 a couch pillow feels good! There are different degrees of homosexuality. It may be too early to tell. I remember fooling around with some of my guy friends while involved with a girl and not really thinking about homosexuality. I even had girlfriends after that. But, I knew I was gay when I started thinking about guys more and more- sexually and emotionally. And, my homosexuality was confirmed when I met my first boyfriend. The emotional connection was on an entirely different level than with any girl I had been with.
Take your time and explore. There is no need to rush yourself with a label. Here are a few links that may help:
Yours in Love,
Mona
