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Why Can't I Legally Marry My Partner?

Gays in the Military


Dear Ramon,

I am all for gay/lesbian rights. I have been gay for a very long time and I feel that anyone who wants to marry the one they truly love (whether it be same-sex or not) should be able to. I am currently involved in a relationship with a female and I love her very much. We hope that one day it will be aloud for us to get married and it be honored. We plan on getting married in February in Las Vegas. But our marriage wont be honored in the U.S.

We are also wanting same-sex marriages honored in the Military. My girlfriend is currently enlisting in the Army and wants to pursue her career, but now she's having second thoughts because the Army will not let us live together while she's enlisted. She will also have to live on base. We will then be separated until she is discharged in 4 years and who's to know if our relationship will be able to last. I don't think it's fair at all. And I just want you all to know that I pray every night that they legally honor same-sex marriages. I don't lose the faith cause it's all I have. Do you have any info that will help me in my situation?

-Elizabeth Carmona


Thanks so much for writing! Same-sex marriage and gays in the military are hot topics right now and I feel it's only a matter of time before gays will prevail! I love to hear stories about gay and lesbian relationships and the pursuit for a normal and equal life. Here's how you can help the marriage cause. Sign up or volunteer for Millions for Marriage. You can also seek help for you and your partner from the Servicemen's Legal Defense Fund and the Don't Ask, Don't Tell Survival Guide.

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