From Ramon Johnson,
Your Guide to Gay Life.
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There are many generalization about gay men. For some, the only exposure to homosexuality is through the media or word-of-mouth. Unfortunately, this is how many stereotypes are spread. Below are the top myths and misconceptions about gay men:

It's Just a Phase
Many people believe that being gay or bisexual is just a phase. This is a large misconception. Thousands of gay men have sought therapy, "reverse gay counseling" and even heterosexual relationships to suppress their homosexual feelings. Most of these attempts at living a heterosexual lifestyle only further suppress homosexual feelings. These feelings can later surface, sometimes leading to divorce, custody battles or adultery.

All Gay Men Will Die of AIDS
Many rumors about AIDS still linger from the 80's. Those misconceptions were based on a lack of understanding and fear. Though the source of the deadly disease hasn't been traced to it's root, AIDS is not just a gay disease. Learn the facts about AIDS and talk with your loved one about how they can practice safer sex. It may be uncomfortable at first but is worth the effort in the long run.

Gay Men Are Only Concerned With Sex
Often, people associate gay men with sexual addiction. However, the majority of gay individuals are no more sexually active than heterosexuals. Many gay men visit bars, clubs or the internet in an effort to find sexual partners, however just as many seek long term relationships in the same places.

All Gay Men Are Feminine
Unfortunately, many media outlets portray gay men as overly effeminate. As with the mannerisms of heterosexuals, the degree of masculinity varies amongst homosexuals. The belief that all gay men desire to be women or are feminine is merely a generalization. Those within the gay community are just as diverse as any other group.

Someone Made Him Gay
Studies have shown that being gay is not directly related to one's environment. For instance, many mothers in retrospect regret being too close to their sons, thinking that is what "made" them gay. However, their relationship with their child had little to do with them being gay. Homosexuals are born, not made. Research continues in an effort to find the source of homosexuality, but blaming oneself or environment is not the answer.

Gay Men Can't Get Married or Have Children
One of the biggest fears for many families is that their gay loved ones are condemned to a life alone without children. However, the battle for same sex marriage continues throughout the world. Countries such as Iceland, Belgium, Canada and France already recognize gay civil unions or full gay marriage. In the U.S. support for same sex marriage continues to gain with legalized marriages, domestic partnerships or unions in Vermont, California, Massachusetts and New Jersey. What does this mean for your loved one? Well, it means that there are many gay couples that are in committed and happy relationships. These relationships are often long lasting and sometimes involve adopted or naturally born children.