Too Soon To Exchange Valentine's Day Gifts?

Did you guys meet just a few days, weeks or months ago? Gay dating affairs tend to accelerate like dog years, but have you nibbled in your relationship long enough to celebrate Valentine's Day?

The big V is about cuddle time, romance, passion and other niceties that men desire; but sometimes what should be Cupid's dream ends up being a cauldron of stress, especially when it comes to gift exchange.

Now, for some of you, your romantic frequencies are strong enough to know when your dude wants gift-wrapping. But even then, what kind of gift should you give him?

For those that haven't replaced the "should" for the "what," the question remains: Is it too soon?

Each couple is different and some get closer sooner than others. The best way to determine if it is too soon to buy a Valentine's Day gift is perhaps the less romantic way of checking in: Ask if he's ready!

In the most delightfully of gay fantasies, you would be able to show up at his door with red-ribboned box in hand. However, these days you can't be certain the sentiment will be returned. So, why set yourself up for failure? I'm not implying that gift giving is a game of give and get, but an unreciprocated gift on V-Day could signal a mismatch in the perception of the relationship. And that could equal danger.

Instead of leaving it to chance, check in with him to see where your relationship stands. You don't need to go into the full "what's our future?" discussion, but you want to get down to the basics of gift exchange and under what parameters or circumstances you should give gifts (if at all).

A practical approach now can help clarify the state of your relationship and set the stage for future gift giving.