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How To Perform Gay Fisting (Safely)

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Anal fisting is a slow process that involves patience and a lot of lubrication. Fisting or handballing is not for everyone and can be dangerous if not done properly. But for those that do enjoy it or have a desire to try, here's how:
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: Varies

Here's How:

  1. Trim and file fingernails of the fistee. Do not douche or use an enema. These can irritate and thin the anal walls, increasing the risk of infection.
  2. The receiving partner, or fistee, should be very relaxed and aroused. Gently massage or rim the anus during foreplay for an extended period of time.
  3. Place a latex glove on the fisting hand. Generously lubricate the entire hand and forearm. Also generously lubricate the anus.
    *Do not use oil-based lubricants, which can erode the latex gloves. Fisting without protection can lead to bacterial and viral infections.
  4. Slowly and gently insert one finger at a time into the anus. Hold fingers as close together as possible.
  5. Once all fingers and the thumb are inserted, add more lubricant and gently rotate the hand into the anus.
  6. Ball the hand into a fist once it is fully inserted. Slowly move the fist in and out, massaging the prostate.
  7. If your partner experiences extreme discomfort or there is excessive bleeding, there may be a tear in the rectal wall. Encourage your partner to relax and slowly pull out. The fistee may temporarily be unable to control bowels. The expanded rectal walls will eventually return to normal size.

Tips:

  1. Make sure your partner is ready and willing to be fisted. Respect his wishes and stop at any stage.
  2. Forcing a full fist inside of the anus (or punching), having improperly trimmed finger nails or fisting without protection can cause serious injury, including tears, ruptures, or infections.
  3. Repeated fisting may result in permanent damage.

What You Need

  • Plenty of lube
  • Latex gloves
  • A willing, relaxed and highly aroused partner
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