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Is He Into You Or The Friendship?

Bromance or Romance?

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Is He Into You Or The Friendship?
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Are the mixed signals a sign that he's into you or is he just looking for friendship?

Dear Mona:
I've liked this guy for a while now. I tried to make a move, but his response was cold—actually, a flat-out "No!" I was crushed, but a month went by and I got over it.

I tried hanging out with him as a friend, but he wouldn't respond to most of my texts. I just assumed he was not interested in any sort of relationship, romantic or friendly.

Now this current semester has started and things have changed completely. We see each other every day, talk on the phone, text, and go to parties together—everything.

At this point, I am really confused and don't know where this relationship is going. Is he just comfortable with the friendship we have, or is he looking for more? What do you think? -More Than A Bromance

Bro:
Sounds like you have the makings of a good friendship, but he wants to take the lead. If you're willing, strap in and ride shotgun. Be careful about how you interpret his actions, though. You're thinking through the filter of a mancrush and that can cloud all sensibility, especially when you're not sure where he's coming from. Go easy-breazy and let him get to know you his way. He'll pull over eventually, and when he does it'll be obvious where he's headed next.

Look at the bigger picture here: Good relationships are made from darn good friendships. Sounds like no matter where he head is, you're in a win situation. Romance or not, you enjoy hanging out with him, and that can turn into a great friendship. So, kick back on thinking about how his every move affects you and just enjoy the experience.

Yours along for the ride,
Mona
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