Problem Keeping Your Erection?

Dear Mona:
My boyfriend and I recently had our first time. However, I've been having problems. I can't seem to keep my erections. I don't understand why this is. He says that I'm nervous and just need to relax, but I fear it might be something else. I feel like I am letting him down, like he feels that he can't please me. I don't know what to do.  -Aidan

Dear Aidan:
The most elusive activity for even the most life aquatic is the streamline body float. There's no splashing around or planning of the next move, just a free form float atop a wavy or flat body of water.

The first float is a cathartic experience. It's the first time since our first step or bike ride without training wheels that we witness the body reward us for trusting in its abilities. The key to any good free float is not telling the body what to do, but trusting that it will do what it does when you need it to. Our bodies naturally want to float, but it's our minds that make it sink.

If you want to save your erection, then do the opposite of what your brain tells you to do. It's weighty clusters of fear and anxiety will send you to the shore. Relax your mind and be in the moment, not in what you think the moment should be.

If you try to float and then lose it, start over and over and over again until your body takes over and the fear is carried away.