We Fell in Love Online

Dear Mona,

My boyfriend and I met over the internet. We understand that its over the internet and a lot of people are not going to agree with it. We talk on the phone for hours every day and I know everything about him: his name, address, phone number, likes, dislikes... anything you can think of. I know how people say not to trust people you meet over the internet, but I love this boy. I think about him all the time.

Mona: Don't feel cornered by your internet connection or other peoples' perceptions about how you met. You never know where a match will hit: the mall, Starbuck's, the bar or the grocery store. People throw up red flags when it comes to the 'net because it's all too easy for creeps to hide behind monitors and keyboards. There are just as many dangers meeting someone them person and not always as obvious. Sadly, in these days we all need to be careful (online and in person). Here are some safe online dating tips to get you started.

We can't express how we feel towards each other physically as of yet because of a travel issue which will be resolved in a matter of time. I cry sometimes because he can't be here with me and I cant be there with him. We both fear that we might get bad impressions of each other when we meet in person.

Mona: We build our attractions on our levels of physical, emotional and intellectual chemistry. Meeting online, you've determined that you're both linked emotionally and intellectually. The missing element is the physical energy (and I'm not just talking about sex). It's important for us as humans to assess each others' body language and sniff out those ever important pheromones that entice our other senses. This can make or break the connection. Your fear is valid. The pendulum can swing either way: either you vibe well in person or you don't. Don't let that fear hold you back from the possibilities, just stay open to any shifts in your dynamic.

Words cant even express how I feel towards this boy he makes me so happy. When we finally meet it's going to be like a dream come true, I want to share my life with him, you know? I finally found someone that doesn't judge me and I don't judge him either. My question is why do I have that fear of loosing him even though I know he's not going anywhere? He brings out a side of me that I never thought I had.

Mona: My friend, what you just said is the second verse in the soundtrack of love (the first being "I can't stop thinking about him"). Love (and really strong "like") has the power to make us feel things we never thought possible. It also makes us vulnerable. We're all accustomed to keeping our inner most thoughts and feelings private. Suddenly, we begin sharing those things when we start falling in love. Our hearts open and ache at the same time because we've finally found someone that "gets us." We want nothing more than to see that person each and every moment of the day. That feeling has the power to move mountains. We all fear losing power, especially when it allows us to be ourselves 100%. But, it's not the potential loss that you should focus on. Keep your eye on what you will gain as you grow closer.

p.s. Best of luck meeting in person. Another cool thing about love is that it has the power to make seemingly impossible things happen if you both want it bad enough.

Yours in love,
Mona