Gay Dating - Protecting Your Self-Esteem

Dating And Your Self-Esteem

When it comes to dating, it's easy to wrap our self-esteem around our perceived success or failure with men. When in fact, our sense of self-worth should have nothing to do with how many dates we acquire or how many guys like us.

It may seem like everyone else always gets the guy or has a phone list full of prospects, but that's all they are... potentials. If you're looking for a solid connection it's going to take time and patience. I'd rather have the few really special guys than the many once-and-done's.

That being said, success comes by playing the numbers. I'm not suggesting you play the boy, just the odds. If the first guy you meet doesn't work out, try and establish a friendship and move on to the next romantic prospect. A rejection or a mismatch isn't a knock on who you are as a person. You're just not compatible. You're not going to be into every guy you meet (for whatever reason) and the same goes for him.

We date in order to find someone with whom we are compatible. It's like sampling a series of ice cream flavors, Xbox games, ringtones (...pick something) until you find the one that you like. It's not personal, it's preference. The more you leave yourself open to meeting people, the better odds you have of finding someone with whom you truly vibe.