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My Boyfriend Is Stealing Our Condoms
Top Gay Dating and Sex Advice of 2007
© Margarit Ralev
Mona Girl,

I have been counting my boyfriend's condoms and I noticed that a couple were missing. I also found a text message on his phone asking someone if they "wanted to hook up." I confronted him with this and he told me that I was snooping in his stuff and that he didn't trust me anymore. He denies cheating on me. He says he has no idea about the condoms, and the text message was just to some old friend. Was is wrong of me to count condoms or check his text messages? Is that really snooping?

James in Miami


Dear J-Mo,

This may be the last time you hear from me because I am fearful for my love advice safety as I am about to disclose yet another man secret. The man book has been locked for years, but it's my calling to crack the seal and save gays everywhere.

Here's an excerpt:

Chapter 10, Section 6, Paragraph 4 Titled "Projection and Damage Control"

Discretion is at the core of the man-code. When executed correctly, the underlying principle is full proof. Remember, what your partner doesn't know didn't actually happen. And a lie is only a lie when you've been caught. In previous chapters we discussed ways to cover your tracks when courting a trick on the side. But in the unfortunate instance your lover finds out you're dabbling in other cookies, use the projection technique. Projection takes practice, but once you get the hang of it, it will flow from your mouth with little effort. [End Paragraph]

Now lets get back to you, 'mo. Notice how your accusation got projected back onto you as if you were the problem? Your condoms didn't mysteriously disappear. And the last time I got a text from an old friend, there was no reference to the bedroom. You caught him in a lie and he used Paragraph 4 on you. Don't be distracted by his deflection. You're no fool and he's no faithful boyfriend... read more

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