Top Gay Dating and Sex Advice of 2007

Hey Mona,

I have a "friend" who isn't looking for a relationship but still wants to see me. I guess you could call it a "friends with benefits" type thing. I want to have a relationship with him, but he says he isn't ready. I can wait but I don't know for how long...

Dear Confused,

I used to think that I wanted an instant boyfriend, like so many other gays out there. I was firm in my belief that if some hottie and I truly made a connection, then there was no need to wait. We could just be exclusive boyfriends. And if they didn't want to hold hands with me after our starry connection, then I would almost always think that I wasn't good enough or that I was just being used or that I was just a rebound or a midnight call.

And then I began taking my dating life into my own hands... read more