Top Gay Dating and Sex Advice of 2007

Dear Mona Lisa,

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months and things have been great. The other day, after sex, he suggested that we try having sex in a bathhouse. He likes the idea of others watching. I've never been to a bathhouse, however I perceive it as a place for gay men to have quick anonymous sex with random partners. While I'm not opposed to having others watch, I'm concerned about the temptation that surrounds you in that type of environment...

-Anxious in L.A.

Dear Sunset Tan,

You're perception is dead on: Bathhouses are dens of anonymous sex, random partners, quick hookups and the more scary and not-so-anonymous STD. It sounds like your boyfriend is taking you on a clueless ride. You say "he's not easily tempted"; I say show me a man that can keep his cool surrounded by dozens of other naked men doing a whole bunch of naked things and I'll show you a 24-hour bathhouse that actually is just a spa. I'm not buying the statement that he has gone before and just watched; and I have a feeling neither do you..." read more tough love advice