Top Gay Dating and Sex Advice of 2007

Dear Mona,

I'm a 22 year old Mexican-American gay guy. My problem regarding love/sex is this uncontrollable attraction that I have towards Black guys. I cannot be attracted to any guy if he is not Black. I don't know if this a subconscious thing or not, but I would like for this to change since I almost always meet attractive boyfriend-material non-Black men who I think would be great for a relationship. I just can't seem to get physically attracted to them.

I have tried hooking up with White guys and even though on a conversational/emotional level things can work great between us, the physical/sexual level just doesn't work out.

I want to be able to control this impulse or whatever it is, because I do not believe it is OK to be attracted to people of just one race, especially when there are a lot of culturally diverse men out there who could be perfect for me.

Dear Secretary,

The problem with your love problem is that you call it a problem. Wait, that was a little confusing so let me break it down: What makes your attraction so powerful is its ability to trump your corrupted brain. I quote a classic R. Kelly lyric, "My mind is telling me no, but my body...my body is telling me..." read more