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When Anal Sex Hurts

By Ramon Johnson, About.com



Dear Ramon,

I prefer to bottom but I don't have anal sex very often. When I am really turned on and want to have anal sex, it hurts. Even though the guy that I'm with really loosens me up, it's still uncomfortable. Only once in a blue moon does it feel great. How can I prevent the pain of anal sex?


Dear Tight Quarters,

I hate to be the one to break the news to you, but the solution to all of your anal sex woes was answered by your mom when you were a little kid. Remember when you got your first bike and couldn't wait to ride it like all of the other big kids but you kept falling and falling until one day you gave up and ran inside, teary-eyed, losing all hope? You vowed to never pick up that two wheeled bandit again. You liked to ride, but it was all just too painful. Your mom wiped your tears and looked into your eyes, whispering, "Don't worry my dear, practice makes perfect. When you fall, just pick yourself back up, relax, take a deep breathe and ride, ride again!"

By the way, purchasing a small thin sex toy for a little practice may do you some good! ;^)

Yours in Love,
Ramon
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