I prefer to bottom but I don't have anal sex very
often. When I am really turned on and want to have
anal sex, it hurts. Even though the guy that I'm with
really loosens me up, it's still uncomfortable. Only
once in a blue moon does it feel great. How can
I prevent the pain of anal sex?
Dear Tight Quarters,
I hate to be the one to break the news to you, but the solution to all of your anal sex woes was answered by your mom when you were a little kid. Remember when you got your first bike and couldn't wait to ride it like all of the other big kids, but you kept falling and falling until one day you gave up and ran inside, teary-eyed, losing all hope? You vowed to never pick up that two wheeled bandit again. You liked to ride, but it was just too painful. Your mom wiped your tears and looked into your eyes and said, "Don't worry my dear, practice makes perfect. When you fall, just pick yourself up, relax, take a deep breathe and ride, ride again!"
Try purchasing a small sex toy
. Some practice will do you good. However, if the pain persists, you may have an anal fissure
or some other medical condition. To be safe, call your doctor
for a check-up.
Yours in Love,Mona