Does He Want a Long Term Relationship?

Dear Ramon,

I've recently been on a few dates with a guy who is 10 years older than me. From the moment we met, the sparks were flying and I felt really good about him. I believe that he felt the same. However, I'm confused about the signals he's sending. Does he want to pursue a long term relationship or not? How do I know where this relationship is headed?

-Completely Clueless

Dear Clueless for Candy,

Boy, if I had the relationship crystal ball I could save a lot of people from a lot of relationship confusion (and save myself a lot of heartache). But, unfortunately I don't and despite what that drag queen told you, neither does she!

It's difficult to determine where things will develop after only a few dates. Even if you guys have a connection, you're both still in the "goo goo ah you're so cute we connect so well" stage which most gay men will tell you can quickly turn into the "what a psycho" phase. Lets hope it won't, but only time will tell.

Take this time to get to know your new prospect and let the relationship develop. Don't over analyze the signals, either. You guys are still feeling each other out (and up) so the signals may not be exactly what you think they are.

Let your willingness to make him your man show through your actions. You'll know when it's the right time to talk about a ltr. In the meantime, enjoy spending time with a guy you really dig.

Your gay friend,
Ramon

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