How To Cope With a Break Up

Yes, you and your ex had some great times (often times some of the best memories of your life) but it's important to leave room for others to develop a good relationship with you- which will lead to more great memories. It's common for us to compare the new people we in our lives to our ex or to build a wall of safety around our emotions. After all, who wants to be hurt again? And of course, we've learned many lessons from past.

A little caution is a good thing, but often times this develops into an emotional shut down. Eventually, no new guy you meet is good enough or as good as ____. You've placed your ex on a pedestal that no one can reach (most of the time, not even your ex if you looked back on the relationship in detail). There is also a tendency to place new guys in scenarios that you and your ex shared to gage if they would react in similar ways.

These methods almost always result in disaster. No one can ever replace your ex, because he was his own person and the dynamic of your relationship was unique. There may always be a place in your heart for him. Just make sure it's not your entire heart! Leave room to develop better memories or a more fulfilling relationship with someone new. Give your new prospects a chance and remember, you can't compare someone you've just met to an ex with whom you've shared many memories.