Top 10 Questions About Gay Sex

Dear Mona,

Have you ever met someone that you kicked it with online but once you met face to face, you find you're not attracted to them physically? Am I a shallow gay man for wanting a hot guy?

Dear Beauty and the Beast,

Physical attraction is an important part of each individual's romantic interest and our own personal sense of a complete package. To what extent physical attraction plays a role is up to the individual, but it shouldn't be discounted. The person that tells you otherwise is probably trying to avoid a facet of themselves we'll talk about in a minute.

Being hot doesn't have to be the most important consideration of a potential date, especially if you dig their personality, but I see no reason why it shouldn't be a factor (remembering that the definition of who's hot is up to you).

Most of our inclination to stray away from the physical is rooted in our own insecurities, not our desire... read more