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Too Young for Erection Problems

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Dear Mona,

I'm having a problem keeping my erection while being intimate. I have no problems when I'm by myself, but I almost always lose my erection when someone is with me. It becomes extremely frustrating for both myself and whomever I'm with. It's taking a toll on my dating life.

For the 3 years that I've been having sex with men, I've always been a bottom boy. Lately I've really wanted to try and top, but it's too embarrassing to even try when I already know that in a matter of minutes I'll be soft. I'm 21 with what appears to be an erectile dysfunction. Please, I'm desperate for some help.

Thanks,
Missing In Action


Dear Cold Case,

Here you are 21, sexually hyped, ready to flip and the pipes are busted. Your situation reminds me of the first time the quarterback threw me the ball during a high school football game. I had run the scenario in my head (alone) a million times. He throws, I catch, we score. But when it was time to perform, I dropped the pigskin almost every time. And there is no worse feeling than seeing a sign of disappointment crease the gaze of the one person you want to please... read more

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