Tired of holding up the wall? Make a bold move
and go from a lusting lurker to a dating machine with these tips on how to meet gay men:
Get out and meet people.
Gay men don't live in bars (well, most don't). There is queer opportunity in every place- if you're aware of your surroundings. Keep your eyes open for flirtatious looks, comments or gestures at the grocery store, laundry mat or book shop. Dating prospects are everywhere. Learn where to find gay love
Look for opportunity.
Once you've identified your prospect, look for your window of opportunity. Need help fine tuning your preying skills? Watch a couple of hours of Discovery Channel and see how the patient tiger cruises the jungle before a kill.
In most cases (especially if alone
), your prospect will do or say something that gives you the opportunity to strike up a conversation. Lurk in the frozen food aisle until he turns the corner. Then ask if frozen peas are better than canned. Or get in line behind him and laugh at the ridiculous magazine covers. Anything to get his attention and start a dialogue. I'm not suggesting you stalk the man or follow him home, only that you position yourself for optimal opportunity.
Keep the momentum going.
Most gay novices don't fail at the approach, it's the continuation of dialogue that throws them for a loop. If he laughs at a comment you make and then turns around, make another one. Keep the dialogue going. Don't lose the opportunity. If the tiger misses his target on the first strike, he doesn't just say "Oh, well." He continues the hunt until he gets what he wants. If the guy is truly not interested in you, he'll say something.
Close the deal.
When your window of opportunity closes, seal the deal by asking him for his phone number or out for coffee. If you feel comfortable, give him your number. Let him know that you're interested in talking to him further. As they say in sales, never be afraid to ask for the sale.
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