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Before You Become a Gay Male Dancer

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Gay male dancers are popular in many gay bars. Whether on top of a crowded bar top in skimpy clads or a part of an actual stage performance, gay go go dancing is a reality for some gay men and a fantasy for many others. There are ways to become a gay male dancer, yet avoid the underbelly of the industry. Set a few things straight before becoming a gay male dancer.

You need to know your morals.

The money and adventure of dancing may appeal to you, but does your own internal moral gage support the desire? Only you can make a judgement for yourself. Make sure you are comfortable on stage and inside.

You need to know your body.

All eyes are on you when you are dancing. If you're not perfectly comfortable with your physique, it'll show. Not all dancers are body beautiful and not all venues require you to be picture perfect. Set your own personal body image target and stick to it.

You need a name and character.

The lucky among us are born with cool and catchy names, but most of our parents didn't have entertainment in mind when they signed our birth certificates. Pick a stage name that will appeal to you and the crowd. Most dancers stick to a one word name that fits their personality. Your name also leaves an impression of who you are as a dancer and a person. Remember, it's about the illusion. Leave the raunch at home.

You need a venue.

Full nudity is not allowed in most bars or clubs. Know their rules before you approach them. Go see dancing shows at the gay bars in your area. Note how the dancers interact with the crowd and the bar staff: Is the audience allowed to touch the dancers? Is the staff friendly? Are men being solicited? How are the tips? Match the vibe of the bar and dancers with your own requirements.

You need a costume.

A torn pair of jeans and a hat may not seem like a costume, but it is while gay male dancing. You may notice that each dancer (just like each drag queen) consistently wears a certain style of clothing. Some are more flashy than others, but most fit the personality of the dancer. Over time, the audience gets to know the personality of the dancer and can anticipate the style of clothing he will wear. Not all dancers are down to the bare minimum. Find a style that best fits you.

You need a license.

Some states or local governments require cabaret licenses for dancers. Study the law in your area. Call your local police station or government office and inquire about special permits or licenses required for exotic dancers in your area. You can be ticketed and fined for dancing illegally, so know the law.

You need a pay rate.

Get to know other dancers before you decide to make a move. Knowing other dancers can help you assess the industry. Ask them about the current pay rate in your area, which is usually a flat fee plus tips. Pay rates are usually negotiated with the bar owner or show producer. Be sure not to undervalue yourself or the other dancers just to get the job. Doing this can eventually bring down everyone's fee. Stick with the going rate.

You need to protect yourself.

  • Know your boundaries. Just because you're a gay male dancer doesn't mean you have to be more. You'll attract favorites, but set your limits with each.
  • Keep the action on stage. Most dancing is about illusion. Don't cross the invisible line between the stage and the crowd.
  • Protect your identity. Always use your stage name and avoid giving out personal information.
  • Make security your friend. Have bar security escort you to and from your car. Keep an eye out for your personal safety.
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