From the article: What Should You Expect After Coming Out?
"Coming out can be a real reality check," one Gay Life reader says. "It's like growing a new set of eyes." When you begin to accept your sexuality and start sharing it, the way you see yourself and others changes, often quite drastically. What helped you through the process? What should you expect after coming out? Share your tips with other guys just starting out. Share Coming Out Tips
Just came out.
- Over the past few days I came out to everyone that I cared about. My best friend first, then everyone else. You're right, it was a mix if feelings. But now I'm a lot happier and comfortable with myself. It got easier each time. Thanks for the advice, it seems pretty sound.
- —Guest Josh
The guy I like
- I don't know what to do anymore. I have just turned 17 and I'm freshman in college. I've recently come out to my friends. (not to my family bcause of other stuff) I like this guy ever since I first met him. He is gay. But he has just gotten into a relationship w/someone. I tried getting rid of my feelings for him by avoiding him n seeing someone else. But I just keep thinking about him more and more. My heart just keeps wanting to be with him. He is super caring and when we have dinner together, he wants to get to know me more and more. He actually cares about what I am doing and what I am going through. But I feel like he is like that to a lot of his friends. The other night, he asked me to go for a walk with him and I said sure. We talked and talked for hours. I know he knows I'm gay but he wanted me to tell him and not just assume it. The thing is that I can tell anyone else Im gay but, when I wanted to tell him I couldnt. What should I do about my feelings
- —Guest Hopeless romantic
lost and confused
- this is my first post. I am 67 YO married and quite sure that i am gay. Struggling with this daily
- —belairman
Coming out later in life
- Just a quick personal experience of my story. I have always known I've liked men since I was young but always dated woman as that was what was expected. When I was 30 I met a guy on a dating site and we started dating. After a few months I realized he wasnt for me and I started dating woman again. I had two kids over the years and see regularly. I thought because it didnt work with the guy that I must be straight but the feelings never left me. Just recently I started dating a female friend but ended it after a year. I just couldn't feel what she wanted me to feel and that was the turning point. I knew it wasn't woman I liked in that way. After years of thinking I was also Bi it hasnt been till now at 40 that I am completely happy and comfortable with being gay which is who and what I am. I told my Mum, Sister and selected friends. I didnt tell my Dad as I don't know how he'd react but he doesn't live with my mum so it doesn't matter so much. It can takes years to realize who you are.
- —Jai1970
Take it easy dude
- being gay it not something you should be ashamed of you want to come out of the closet first start with your friends tell them and see what their response and your relatives you will c everybody will accept you as who you are take care of your self you can do it man.
- —Guest Thandazani
Crig
- when i first came out the first people i told was my parents. they understood and that made it easier for me to be open about my sexual identity
- —Guest gayle
