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Are gay men more likely to molest children? General public perception is that child molestation is directly linked to homosexuality. Perhaps it's because many continue to falsely associate homosexuality exclusively with sexual behavior and thus believe children are not safe around gay men. This misguided perception has led to widespread opposition to gay teachers, religious leaders and day care providers among others. But is the link between gays and pedophilia fact or myth?

Adoption expert, Carrie Craft cites the Child Welfare Information Gateway (previously National Adoption Information Clearinghouse) as stating, "A child's risk of being molested by his or her relatives' heterosexual partner is over one hundred times greater than by someone who might be identifiable as being homosexual." The study also found that of 269 cases of child sex abuse, only two offenders where found to be gay or lesbian. The American Psychological Association agrees, "Another myth about homosexuality is the mistaken belief that gay men have more of a tendency than heterosexual men to sexually molest children. There is no evidence to suggest that homosexuals molest children."

According to these reputable studies, gay men are actually less likely to molest children. So, will these myth-busters change general perception?

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Comments
July 9, 2006 at 5:05 pm
(1) Tom Head says:

Unfortunately, the answer is no. These are by and large folks who don’t pay attention to facts–and for every 100 credible studies that portray lesbians and gay men as decent human beings, they will be able to dig up or fabricate a crooked Paul Cameron style study to fling around. One can only hope that their bigotry, like the racial bigotry of previous generations, becomes less overt and less socially acceptable over time.

Cheers,

TH

July 11, 2006 at 10:17 pm
(2) Steve says:

Having been a parent since my child’s birth AND a gay man, I’m happy to say that she is a healthy and inteligent 11 year old that KNOWS she is being raised by two dads and has NEVER shown any negitive feelings abount having been raised by gay parents. So what I have to say to all those out there who don’t believe it can be done is, “Believe it! It IS being done!”

July 12, 2006 at 8:17 pm
(3) all says:

i am not a gay man, i am a lesbian, but i have a direct example of how this belief is upheld in many areas of our lives-specifically the court system.
i raised a child of a friend of mine along with my three children. when she was 20, the father of her child decided to sue for complete custody at the “urging” of his mother. in the petition it was mentioned that she lived with a lesbian. it was also noted that we were NOT in a relationship, that i was her parent. in the court proceedings, the judge said, and i quote, “it is common knowledge that pedophilia and homosexuality go hand and hand.”
the bottom line, marie lost custody and it actually says in the custody papers that i am allowed no contact with amy at any time whatsoever. i raised her mother, i was the reason marie did not get an abortion, and i was the one who paid for everything for her birth and raising, and loved her like she was my own.

June 21, 2011 at 2:43 am
(4) Tinh says:

Have you ever tried to get that judge fired? He can have his judgement overturned by the supreme judge if he was being biased in his judgement. sorry if this happened a long time ago but I can’t just read this and not be angry. I would demand justice from that bastard!

July 13, 2006 at 12:42 am
(5) jimmi says:

i am a gay man and i believe those who think sick things have sick minds. these people are obviously ignorant, and probably molesters themselves and try to shove it off on homosexuals to try to hide themselves.they obviously do not understand that pedophelia is a mental disease like sociopathics and studies have indicated that children are safer with gay parents then straight parents and are more loved as the divorce rate is lower in gays GAYS STAY PROUD!!!!

July 21, 2006 at 4:20 am
(6) Ady says:

“General public perception is that child molestation is directly linked to homosexuality”…?

Um, no. In the US, maybe. Not in the UK and likely not in many EU countries. This article was written for a presumed readership only based in the US but is available worldwide, making the above statement wrong, wrong, wrong. Please be mindful you are writing for a global readership when making assertions. The American public in some areas is, sadly, considerably less well-educated than most EU citizens and more prone to techno-medieval attitudes, hatreds and prejudices. Thankfully, many of you buck the trend towards wilful ignorance cultivated by your leaders.

In the UK, the distinction between homosexuality and paedophilia is clear and well-understood by most everyone, even the most ignorant. Of course, prejudice against gay people still exists despite our having equality now in law and the right to marry in the form of civil partnerships (and, incidentally, the sky has not fallen in as a consequence and Jesus has not come down on his pearly escalator to berate us).

Paedophiles are recognised as being heterosexual men, usually related to children or close friends of the family but occasionally simply and horribly predators lying in wait. Gay men do not want to have sex with children; we are men who love men, not little boys. It’s so simple and easy to understand, anybody who doesn’t needs to be sent to special classes to try to break their bonds of stupidity and religious dogma. x

November 6, 2011 at 11:57 pm
(7) J. Wangsness says:

Don’t be such an anglophile snob. If you feel this statement is directed at U.S. readers, I’d like to ask how you know all Yourapeans have such advanced views on this topic. I’ve lived and worked with lots of EU citizens, educated ones, and they weren’t all as enlightened at you might think.

February 27, 2008 at 7:06 pm
(8) Matt says:

Many gays seem to deny any connection with being gay and sexual contact with little boys. But the fact of the matter is that the vast majority of little boys that are sexualy abused or molested are done so by adult gay men. These men show their homosexuality by their physical attraction to these adolesant males.
These little boys grow up confused with what sex is really about, and many of them turn to other men for sexual gratification when they get older. They identify with the gay culture and community.
Trying to deny what is happening in our society on the grounds of being politically correct is just wrong. Those of you who im sure will automaticaly resort to lableing my responce as hatefull, should insted let the reality of my words settle in.

Thank you,

Matt

September 26, 2011 at 12:07 am
(9) Ames says:

I am doing research for a paper and was reading down these comments. I understand that they are 3 years old. But I feel compelled to respond anyways. You claim about boys being molested by gay men. Well girls are molested and raped by men, typically heterosexual men. There are men who molest and rape both, so are you claiming they must be bi-sexual then?? Did you ever think that they have a few screws lose and it doesn’t matter their sexual orientation, but what matters is the children that are being hurt on a daily basis!!

June 9, 2008 at 6:07 pm
(10) Sandy says:

I guess Matt was molested as a child by a man, and now blames all gay men for the molestation of young boys. How sad.
Believe it or not Matt, most grown men who molest little boys are not gay. Sexual orientation and gender really have nothing to do with it. Maybe you should have a sit down with an actual psychologist and talk about this issue, instead of spewing out garbage. I guarantee you, he or she will tell you the same thing.
And I find it interesting that you bring up young boys. What about the young girls? Girls are never molested? You have got to be joking, right? And should there be a link to heterosexual men and the molestation of young girls? Well according to your logic, there should be.

June 10, 2008 at 10:04 am
(11) metronil says:

Why did someone delete the comments linked from the crime stats that show gay men are in reality, a thousand times more likely to be child molesters?

why would you delete the FBI crime stats that show fully 1/3 of all pedophiles are homosexuals? Yet homosexual are only 1% of the population?

Why would you want to hide the truth??

June 10, 2008 at 10:06 am
(12) Ooops says:

Someone must have ‘accidentely’ deleted the FBI crime stats proving gay men are about 1000 times more likely to be pedophiles than straight men.

Here, let me fix that for…must have been an accident, why would anyone want to hide the truth?


Homosexuals Molest Children At A Far Higher Rate Than Heterosexuals

Homosexuals account for only 1-2% of our population based on current surveys. The National Opinion Research Center in 1992 found that 2.8% of men and 1.4% of women identified themselves as “homosexual” or “bisexual. A 1995 survey of 18-49-year-old men published by the Journal of Sex Research indicated that 2.6% of them had engaged in homosexual sex within the prior 12 months; 4% had had homosexual sex within the past five years. In other words, at least 98-99% of our population is heterosexual in orientation.

Homosexual activists routinely claim that most child molesters are “heterosexual” males, thus shifting the focus away from their own very high rates of molestation. Since 98-99% of the population is heterosexual, it is technically correct to say that most molestations are done by heterosexuals. However, statistics indicate that homosexuals pose a far more serious threat to children than do heterosexuals.

For example: In 1987, Dr. Stephen Rubin of Whitman College conducted a ten-state study of sex abuse cases involving school teachers. He studied 199 cases. Of those, 122 male teachers had molested girls, while 14 female teachers had molested boys. He also discovered that 59 homosexual male teachers had molested boys and four female homosexual teachers had molested girls. In other words, 32 percent of those child molestation cases involved homosexuals. Nearly a third of these cases come from only 1-2% of the population.

Dr. Judith Reisman, in her book, Kinsey, Crimes & Consequences, describes the research done by Dr. Gene Abel. This researcher compared the molestation rates of self-confessed homosexual and heterosexual child molesters. In a sample of 153 homosexual molesters, they confessed to a total of 22,981 molestations. This is equivalent to 150 children per molester. Self-admitted heterosexual molesters admitted to 4,435 molestations. This comes to 19.8 victims per molester. Dr. Abel concluded that homosexuals “sexually molest young boys at an incidence that is occurring from five times greater than the molestation of girls.”

This high rate of molestations by homosexuals is consistent with other studies conducted during the past several decades. Here are just a few studies that show homosexuals molesting children at epidemic rates:

The Los Angeles Times conducted a survey in 1985 of 2,628 adults across the U.S. Of those, 27% of the women and 16% of the men had been sexually molested. Seven percent of the girls and 93% of the men had been molested by adults of the same sex. This means that 40% of child molestations were by homosexuals. (Los Angeles Times, August 25-6, 1985)

In 1984, a Vermont survey of 161 adolescents who were sex offenders found that 35 of them were homosexuals (22%). (Wasserman, J., “Adolescent Sex Offenders—Vermont, 1984” Journal American Medical Association, 1986; 255:181-2)

In 1991, of the 100 child molesters at the Massachusetts Treatment Center for Sexually Dangerous Persons, a third were heterosexual, a third were bisexual, and a third were homosexual. (Dr. Raymond Knight, “Differential Prevalence of Personality Disorders in Rapists and Child Molesters,” Eastern Psychological Association Conference, New York, April 12, 1991)

Drs. Freund and Heasman of the Clark Institute of Psychiatry in Toronto reviewed two studies on child molesters and calculated that 34% and 32% of the sex offenders were homosexual. In cases these doctors had handled, 36% of the molesters were homosexuals. (Freund, K. “Pedophilia and Heterosexuality vs. Homosexuality,” Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 1984; 10:193-200)

From these studies and many more, it is evident that homosexuals molest children at a far greater rate than do their heterosexual counterparts. While they comprise only 1-2% of the population, they are responsible for upwards of a third or more of all sexual molestations of children.

October 15, 2008 at 2:00 pm
(13) Briana (15 yrs) says:

Excuse me, I must be confused;

Why does it matter if a child is being molested by a homosexual or a hetereosexual? It’s not the sexual orientation that is causing this to happen, its the sick twisted mind of the person doing it. Any normal human being wouldnt even think of hurting/molesting a child, this has nothing to do with their sexual preference. Frankly, they are just extremily disturbed individuals.

All in all, isnt this the guardian’s fault by allowing someone who was potentially, and more likely than not, a little bit obviously unsafe, around their child?

I know this doesnt apply to everyone, cosidering those who were molested by relatives and family members, or complete strangers, but really, this subject isnt somthing to be argued about by the means of sexual orientation.

December 25, 2008 at 3:21 pm
(14) jim guy says:

My father, a Bush-loving, Fox News-watching Republican homophobe, believes that gay men spend every waking hour thinking about molesting little boys. I have tried to convince him otherwise, but I think his belief that gay men are inherently evil makes him feel closer to God, so it’s hard to convince him otherwise. I am straight, but would feel more comfortable leaving a child in the care of an openly gay man than with a straight man if I didn’t know either of them.

January 29, 2009 at 8:11 pm
(15) Melissa says:

I was hoping to find some facts when I saw this topic. The only fact I found was that the 15 yo girl is the most knowledgeable! My nephew, now age 25 was molested as a baby by his dad, who was/is presumably straight. He also molested the other five children. My nephew, who was raised Mormon has finally acknowledged he is gay. So is his brother. I am not concerned if the person that molested him was gay or straight. I am wondering why it seems like male children, that are molested, seem to become gay in a larger number than the rest of society. BTW, he was too young to even know that he had been molested.

March 10, 2009 at 8:06 pm
(16) bobo says:

I wish this was true, but I am sorry to say this article is based on fantasy and what people want to believe, not the facts.

July 31, 2009 at 5:14 pm
(17) Rafael D. Santos Soto says:

Why people are so rude in their thinking. They don’t even think about the root of life. If people really knew by sure, the principles of life, they may rethink again every part of the whole life. Some are sustain exclusive on religion, other on prejudice, and most just bluff them self try to make think other they understand this issue. The purpose of life in self lays on the characteristic we have and that’s all. Our genital define it, but many other lack in society determine path on life wrongly. If my believe make a law in universe or life, we surely have a crisis in all expression of nature. We can not change the way life is, we induce our beleive by doing things without regarding the results, so if their were bad, sorry; if their were good, cheers. This is not knowing what we are doing. The life is eternal like our self (spirit) this mean that we always has open the rehabilitation, until we can understand the meaning of life it self. The attack to a child claim for a twisted mind with no respect to him self, and this could be learn in any place. Every body forgott their were child too, so go back to your own experience and you will found an answer their. Remember we first has to understand life it self before issue something.

October 11, 2009 at 8:42 pm
(18) megan says:

need someone to answer me question? why would a grown man give little boys alcohol and brive them and molest them repeadily? And only do this to little boys and his married to a woman?

October 18, 2009 at 5:14 pm
(19) pastol says:

I believe, but I am not positive about this, that the majority of child molesters are not picky about the sex of their victims. They only want sex with a child, be it a boy or a girl. To say that if a boy was molested by a man that makes that man a homosexual is wrong.

January 13, 2010 at 12:00 am
(20) Sean says:

If a grown adult man is attracked to preteen boys, he is not gay. Just like you wouldn’t call a man attracted to preteen girls a straight man. Scientists state adults attracted to children, have a sexuality of their own.

Gay parents don’t raise gay children. Just as straight parents don’t only raise straight children.

“Members of disliked minority groups are often stereotyped as representing a danger to the majority’s most vulnerable members. For example, Jews in the Middle Ages were accused of murdering Christian babies in ritual sacrifices. Black men in the United States were often lynched after being falsely accused of raping White women.”

In such a religious time, gays are the minority at the moment. Im sure it will be muslims soon enough.

January 28, 2010 at 6:40 pm
(21) Lacey says:

Okay don’t get all mad because gay men are FAR more likely to molest then straight men… It’s just the truth. Gay men obviously have something wrong with their brains… They are attracted to the same sex.. That is against nature… You know what else is chils molestation. It’s statistics that have proven it. Why get mad over the truth..? And why get so offended if you know you would never do that?

February 3, 2010 at 8:13 pm
(22) Smart says:

The empirical research does not show that gay or bisexual men are any more likely than heterosexual men to molest children. This is not to argue that homosexual and bisexual men never molest children. But there is no scientific basis for asserting that they are more likely than heterosexual men to do so. And, as explained above, many child molesters cannot be characterized as having an adult sexual orientation at all; they are fixated on children.

February 9, 2010 at 12:13 pm
(23) grgr says:

Wow, all that data is ridiculously outdated.

February 12, 2010 at 2:25 am
(24) A.Roddy says:

Yea, but telling a child only heteros molest is also misleading them. ANYONE can be child molesters and they should know and parent need to be careful of who their children are aorund. I wouldnt leave a child with anyone I didnt not feel comfortable and did not know. I suggest a thorough background check before leaving them with anyone regardless of sexual orientation. Dont assume anyone is safe.

February 28, 2010 at 1:20 am
(25) t says:

Gay men are not to blame.

And child’s biology is physiology are what make him gay. Just because a child has been raped, it can cause a great deal of psychological problems. But being gay is not a psychological problem, it is a way of life for many.

Personally I was somewhat abused alongside my brother by a 17 year old girl when we were very young in a bathtub. That has nothing to do with my sexual orientation.

Remember, Life is a spectrum. Sexuality and identity are part of that wave.

May 19, 2010 at 7:55 am
(26) customartist says:

Ooops cites a plethera of incorrect “data”, not links.

First, that gay men are 1-2 % of the population is wrong, period.

Citing several “studies” that are done by a single “researcher” by name, does not negate, nor does it carry greater credibility than that of the American Psychological Society. On that association I will rely. The APA has also resolved that homosexuality is in fact not an illness or disorder of any kind, but perfectly natural, and yet these “studies” continue to pop up.

These individuals who create studies under their own names or under a selected group rather than under the guidance and approval of the APA have decided the end before the process.

This reminds me od Anita Bryant when sh talked about Uncle Gunny Sack; the character that would come and steal your children in the night, and of Jerry Falwell who claimed that “Homosexuals would just as soon kill you as to look at you”. THESE are Historical Facts, not a study that I made up to justify my own irrational fears.

June 3, 2010 at 7:08 pm
(27) Dufflepud says:

This is just sad. People are making up so called “studies” trying to justify their own prejudice, and these idiots actually believe them? You can claim that you are not a bigot, but all of the information taken from these studies is just blatantly wrong. first,

“The majority of all [abused or neglected] children … were maltreated by their biological parents.” In fact, the study says that “92% were neglected by biological parents” and “64% were abused by biological parents.”

“Biological parents were the most closely related perpetrators for 71% of physically abused children and for 73% of emotionally abused children.”

second, the population of the US id not 1 – 2% gay, it’s 10% gay.

July 10, 2010 at 10:01 pm
(28) M.Guerra says:

I think child molestation is the same to everybody gay bi or hetero or whatever.
( i think these terms (homo gay lesbian hetero) kinda underates a much bigger think called human need of sexual satisfaction and therefor, reproduction.)

So at the end i believe every kinda of sexual orientated individual can actually molest.
It only depends on ocasion in a specific situation in a specific cultural background.

July 16, 2010 at 3:14 pm
(29) snowisfun says:

This topic has been discussed many times, but here it goes again. It depends on what your definition of a homosexual is. My definition is men having sex with men & women having sex with men-the colloquial terms. If 1 accepts the colloquial word, then yes, a man who has sex with young boys is a homosexual.

In fact, a man who has sex with young boys should be called a homolester. So yes, it’s a fact that homos molest more, if 1 accepts the colloquial word & not the politically safe rubbish as espoused by Carrie Craft & others. Finally & this will sound offensive, but it’s my view that child molestation is worse when it’s homosexual & lesbian in nature.

July 16, 2010 at 3:22 pm
(30) snowisfun says:

EDITION on my PART.

This topic has been discussed many times, but here it goes again. It depends on what you define a homosexual is. My definition is men having sex with men & women having sex with women-the colloquial terms. If 1 accepts the colloquial word, then yes, a man who has sex with young boys is a homosexual.

In fact, a man who has sex with young boys should be called a homolester. So yes, it’s a fact that homos molest more, if 1 accepts the colloquial word & not the politically safe rubbish as espoused by Carrie Craft & others. Finally & this will sound offensive, but it’s my view that child molestation is worse when it’s homosexual & lesbian in nature & the punishment must be more when a man molests a boy or a woman molests a girl vs. when it’s straight in nature.

August 17, 2010 at 3:45 pm
(31) TiredOfBeingBlamedForEverything says:

Pedophiles are attracted to innocence. Almost all of them are actually MARRIED men who had never touched another *adult* man in their entire life and are repulsed even by the idea.

Yet they will touch a child, regardless of the sex simply because a child is basically gender neutral and contain what they are most attracted to – innocence and frailty. They are neither male nor female in the eyes of a molester. How many molesters are shown to actually molest only one sex?

Most gay men in contrast are attracted to MEN. Strength and all those macho qualities which is the exact opposite of children. So how then would we be attracted to children? A child is completely the opposite of what we are attracted to.

And why do you haters continue to say it is so even when scientific evidence clearly say it’s not? Afraid to admit that it’s you guys who do it more? You keep saying ‘statistics’ yet don’t actually give us links to credible studies. Because there are none. A vast majority of molesters are straight and male and PARENTS. Go ahead, find a molester and ask him.

Medical and Psychological organizations actually classify pedophilia as a completely separate sexual orientation. One which actually harms another human being.

I’m gay. I love my nieces and my nephew. And I’d kill any pedophile who touches them.

Also last thing… We’re only 1%?! LOL. Figures why the data was so skewed. Take a look around you. How many gay people were in your class? In my high school, in our class of 40 students alone, there are 2. In other classes of the same number of students, it averages out to 3-4 in every class, including those who eventually came out after high school. Counting only the gay guys who have come out of the closet we are 5% of the human population, counting bisexuals we near 10%, counting those who remain in the closet (including a lot of your conservative politicos), we’d actually be 15% or more.

September 1, 2010 at 10:46 am
(32) stevee says:

The truth is that most of us repeat dysfunctional behaviors that we were exposed to. If I got spanked as a child, I am more likely to spank as a parent. If I was verbally abused as a child, I am likely to in turn use verbal abuse as a weapon against others. The unspoken truth is that you aren’t born gay/lesbian just because you don’t recall being molested or sexually abused. We all need to face the facts and stop trying to pull the wool over anybody’s eyes. Sexual molestation or abuse causes people to become homosexuals later in life. For some, they do not recall the incident(s) and are not likely to repeat the molesting behavior, but they become gay/lesbian anyhow. However, for those that do recall the molestation, they are very likely to try to recreate that behavior. Stop being hateful. I’m gay. I was molested. And if you’re gay; you were molested too.

September 23, 2010 at 4:12 pm
(33) Paul says:

Statistic and Probability applications may be skewed here. It’d be clearer to break down the numbers where the family member was identified as homosexual. I’d be interested in the significance of that statistic.

October 25, 2010 at 1:09 pm
(34) suggestive says:

well to be honest – you’re using suggestive speech and twisted this to fit that its ok to have gay parents with kids, you can’t base this as mom and mom – dad and dad crap – it was A child’s risk of being molested by his or her relatives, not mom and dad. now out of the mom and mom and dad and dad – A child’s risk of being molested by his or her relatives’ has nothing to do with the mom or dad – mom and mom and dad and dad.

October 28, 2010 at 1:04 pm
(35) dan says:

the so called reaserch that many think proves that gay men are not inclined to molest more than heterosexuals,…is full of crap,…the study jenny et al 1993 which is the the study they are reffering to,…never actually assessed the sexual orientation of the perpitrators in this study…they never had any contact with the adult perpitrators, much less ask them about thier sexual intrests,…they made assumptions about thier sexuality based on assumed self idenity, relationship status, and what the child knew about the sexual orientation of their abusers….there is no scientific data that proves any of these methods actually work in determining the sexual orientation of anyone, much less child abusers….the reaserchers qualify this study by using the terminology “identifiably homosexual”,…leading us to ask,..what about those they could not identify?…and since thier methods of identification are nonscientific and rediculously flawed in every possible way, for all we know every one of the perpitrators could have been a “closeted homosexual”…while thats not likely,..this study actually does nothing to prove otherwise….along with the several illigitimate exclusions, for instance,….this study is so flawed that anyone with 2 brain cells cannot take it as fact….while its not likely that every homosexual male is prone to molest children thier is ample evidence to suggest that many do and will, if given the opertunity…being a gay man,..and having been molested by one as a child…and having a very broad expierence with gay men in general…i would not trust most with an adolescent or young teenage boy alone,..even on a good day.

November 13, 2010 at 3:20 pm
(36) daniel says:

ok stevee your freakin retarted for one lol for two not all gay or lesbians were molested that has got to be the most rediculous thing i have ever heard in my life i know for a fact i have never been molested but im still gay… why would people want to be made fun of, treated badly, restricted when it comes to certain things, and being gay bashed… ummmm i think no one so no its not a choice… and people gaying gay people molest children that is also stupid i have many friends that have children and i love them to death they all actually would have me babysit there kids rather than a women some people are absolutely rediculous… their opinion on most of this is religious reasons, im a baptist and very religious and god loves us gay people just as straight people… this topic shouldnt even be talked about bye

November 28, 2010 at 2:15 am
(37) The Truth says:

You want truth well here it is ….The truth is Molesters can be anyone, married to a women, openly gay, or single any court rooms records can prove that.

Unfortunately the victim is usually the one shattered into believing his experience in the abuse must be natural and lied to by the offender that is usually male, that it is natural, certainly when you consider the fact that sexual abuse to a child can trigger unwanted sexual gratification further more making the child believe this is what he must like or enjoy. Gay men who say I knew I was gay sense 5 or younger are confused with the fact that they were taught how to be sexually attracted to the same sex through child abuse. Children as early as infants have been recorded to have endured years of sexual abuse by a male but can not recall specific events only being left with body memory. If you have been fondled as a child your mind may forget but your body does not. Urges can occur from stimulation being brought on to your body as a young child also causing excessive masturbation in children as young as 2. To me this is common sense, children are taught sexual preference through abuse The overwhelming majority of child molesters are men making the victim believe he must be attracted to men in order to reenact sexual desires and orgasms learned through sexual abuse as a child. A Gay man if he can recall will tell you that if they are comfortable with admitting abuse which is hard for many people to do even if they can remember. Because child abusers can have any sexual make-up most presume to be hetero being a Dad, or, a married uncle, or a Priest leaving the victim feeling ashamed to have been gratified by the abuse and harder to realize they are the victim thrn assuming this must be the way they are

I man who teaches a child to be sexual with his penis and performing sexual acts with the childs penis especially over long periods of time stemming from months to years can and will have molded the Childs sexually preferences into young teen to an adult. If you don’t get that talk to some people who are willing to tell you the truth about homosexuality. Child rapes and abuse have been going on for centuries and the result is apparent. Stevee there are many men who hav said what you said thank you for being honest!

March 30, 2011 at 12:54 pm
(38) Jessica (16) says:

I am currently doing a research paper on the conflict between same-sex couple adoptions. After reading these comments, I can truly see that people that “assume” homosexuals molest children haven’t faced reality yet. You don’t determine whether a child would be molested based on their sex. Perhaps, you are unaware that the pedophilia is a sick disease that gives people (hetero-homosexuals) the desires to do absurd behaviors. You can’t classify it based on their sex. Thats like saying black people are more likely to commit a crime than a white person!

March 30, 2011 at 3:02 pm
(39) Jessica (16) says:

Every gay or lesbian should have as much equal rights as hereosexuals. They have to face discrimination all the time! Most people may not agree with the fact that they like the same sex but it does happen. And it will continue to happen. More and more people are coming out the closet now days.People need to learn to except the fact that they are going to do it anyways. Whether you care or not so you might as well just start getting used to it. And trying to make up some “scientifically proven” bullshit, doesn’t change anything. I’m not gay. Noone in my family is gay but homosexuals are human beings! They arnt alliens!

May 11, 2011 at 10:55 am
(40) eselracj says:

Both my partner and myself are gay, and were never molested. As Lady Gaga says, we were “born this way”. There is nothing wrong with us. We have the same joys and trials as any other person living the human experience. I think a much better topic for this discussion would be, “Why do people want to put up walls and categorize each other?”

September 2, 2011 at 3:18 pm
(41) tony says:

personally i think gay men are subject to be attracted to young straight boys/ men …dont care what science says…. most of the scientist / researchers & reporters on the subject are gay so the info bias & self serving…all male child molesters ARE gay men…thats a fact… & then they are pedophiles 2nd….it should be a crime for gay men & women to be parents & or custodial parents or to even adopt children… sick behavior for a sick world….dont really care to much about what my or may not be politically correct…

September 26, 2011 at 12:18 am
(42) ames says:

so Mr “all male child molesters are gay men” when these “gay men” molest little girls, they are what, bi curious?? do you think before you open your mouth and speak, or just let it flow out? did you read what you wrote before hitting the send button?? Seriously?! Wake up people, there are straight people, gay people, little people, tall people, and it is OKAY! First it was blacks, and interracial relationships, now it is gays, next it will be the left handed people. Tony, hate to break it to you, but there are probably more stable family lives within a gay home, then straight home, and if you have children (I pray you don’t) I feel sorry for them for having such an ignorant dad. Oh and heaven forbid one of them come and tell you they are gay themselves, then they might be a child molester, because that is your theory right?? wake up and grow up!

October 15, 2011 at 1:33 am
(43) Stephen says:

The reality is, most sex offenders of children are NOT pedophiles. They are often regressing to a child like state – often their own historic abuse- and acting sexually by trying to recreate it. Abuse is a cycle and for most child sex offenders -80%- it can be broken and stopped. True pedophiles – those that are attracted to young teens or children- are very rare. Many don’t act on it. Severely closeted homosexual men -those who don’t fully accept their healthy adult sexuality have been known to abuse, bash, and molest gay boys, gay teens, and even gay men. Similarly, heterosexual men who severley repress their healthy adult sexuality often molest both girls and boys. They often use fundamental religious beliefs to supress their sexuality and for many it becomes warped. In these cases the risk of child abuse of all kinds is heightened. People who have a healthy sense of their adult sexualities – bi, gay, or straight – are zero risk to molest or abuse other children or adults. Sexual abuse is, therefore, a symptom of a repressed and unhealthy sexual culture – North America is in that situation – very sexually fixated and repressed about healthy wholistic sexuality. Child abuse and abuse of women is the fall out of that.

December 9, 2011 at 10:31 pm
(44) carol says:

I don’t know where everybody is getting their information, but I watch the news every night, and any and all molestations I hear about on the news, is always with a heterosexual. Never the less, the person is a sick discussed person!

February 25, 2012 at 2:41 am
(45) Sum1else says:

I find it interesting that so many people make absolute statements either way.

Now pedophile is a term that gets used incorrectly alot to lump everyone adult to has sexual contact with an underage individual.

For one is sex between an adult, someone older than 18, and a 14 year old abuse given that the 14 year old is sexually active before the adult enters their life and consents to it.

Sex between Men and boys has been going on for centuries and is homosexual in nature regardless of self identified orientations on the part of the consenting parties.

We can not even agree on standard definitions of abuse and sexual orientation so how can we possibly have a discussion?

April 11, 2012 at 7:15 pm
(46) matt says:

steve, you are wrong and your daughter will suffer for it. you are a disgusting human being and should have your child taken from you.

June 7, 2012 at 11:57 pm
(47) Josh says:

The author of this page in lying. Gay men are many times more likely to molest boys. In fact, the act of molesting a boy makes the man gay so every single case of man on boy molestation has been committed by a gay man.

I know you could say that all man on girl molestations are committed by a straight male but I do not believe that is true. Sure, many are but the act of molesting a child shows that the person in question has a depraved mind. This type of depraved mind is what leads to homosexuality.

I’m sure many gay men have molested girls. Perhaps they are “bi” or perhaps they closed their eyes and imagined that she was a boy or an animal. Who really knows how these sick people think?

BTW Ramon – Why don’t you go back to Africa and spread HIV amongst your people? Perhaps you will find a fudgepacker with a more serious strain than you have. Since every gay black man in Africa rapes 5-10 people a year this may help reduce the # of rapes. Mixing up your HIV strains will help reduce the number of gay men, child molesters, rapists, animal abusers and depraved people (yes, those all apply to gay men).

September 5, 2012 at 1:25 pm
(48) jay says:

does it really make any differance if the child molester is by a gay/stright/black or white the fact is these kids are getting hurt.
i myself was molested when i was 7yo by a 13yo boy and also by a older girl so i know the pain it causes. BTW i am gay and i will tell you i would never in a million years touch a child in a sexual way.
IT DOES NOT MATTER WHO HURTS THESE KIDS THEY MUST BE STOPPED!!!!

March 21, 2013 at 9:55 am
(49) Fran says:

Homosexuals abuse rate is 15 times higher than heterosexuals but the reason is probably linked to the lower protection male children have. You can check the calculations here:

http://aleadeum.wordpress.com/2013/03/01/priesthood-pedophilia-homosexuality/

May 23, 2013 at 9:22 pm
(50) Lorena Matthews says:

Have been having some great fun with wondering how much more fun and better the Boy Scouts will be now that they finally said okay to gay boys joining. I saw some comments about leaders still needing to be straight and thought immediately, ‘Wha?’ and ‘Why?’ I know better, but a lot of folks don’t. Thanks for this article. I am a straight older woman, BTW.

July 7, 2013 at 3:45 pm
(51) truth says:

Truth is, if a man molests a child and that man is not home, he is at the very least bi sexual.

December 11, 2013 at 1:24 pm
(52) Mathieux says:

Im sorry but most child molester around 50 % have molester kidas the same sex so yes it is most likely for gay man woman different because of there testosterone level is not like man

February 2, 2014 at 3:45 am
(53) Tale says:

Not safe. Too many boys being raped and molested by men. Some studies show molestation is the reason of many, not most, homosexuality cases. If I have a boy to my fiancé and he decides to become gay, the kid stays with me until he’s grown. Same applies for a little girl. I understand homosexuals are people just like the rest, but it’s still a sin like gossiping, swearing, etc. And before my child would decide to ever live that life, and if he or she does so be it, I will make sure he or she knows it is right. It’s not. Born that way or not, the only wrong is living it. I accept and respect homosexual, but I’m not going to say it is what it isn’t.

February 2, 2014 at 4:12 am
(54) Elise says:

I know a homosexual wrote this article. If this article was true, why are so many more little boys being molested by men? Are you trying to say all these pediphiles were straight? Homosexuals are just as safe with children, if not less safe, as straight individuals. The thing I don’t understand with not all but very many homosexuals is how certain homos throw hits on heterosexuals. Equality? Is that what you call it?

February 21, 2014 at 2:15 pm
(55) ANN ROBERTS says:

ALL I Know is a lot of men famous and rich as well average guy who is homosexual has claim to have been rape as kids , So if that true why do they become homosexual after a violent rape by a man .

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