How old were you when you started coming out? Amol Dogra came out at 13, an age when I was still sporting large black-rimmed glasses and acne. I knew I was different, but dared not explore it or draw attention to myself until much later. Here's Amol's account:
"I first came out to my best friend in seventh grade. I was thirteen and as scared as could possibly be. It was scary for me because I was letting someone see a side of me that took so long to recognize and come to terms with. I was in essence letting my guard down. I felt so vulnerable and felt like crying. I actually ended up tearing in the middle of English class. My best friend was very supportive and was honored that she was the first person I told. I could trust her. It was amazing because it felt like a burden was lifted. I was free to be who I was. I've become stronger and happier since. I've become comfortable in my own skin."How old were you when you started coming out?
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I came out in Jr High. I would have to say it was officially my 8th grade year however every basically knew before then. lol. It wasn’t a dramatic “hey everyone I’m gay type thing for me” it was more people would ask and I’d say yes. very interesting time in ones life.
- Donte
I did it in my 9th grade, when I was 15 years old.
I came out when I was 13, it was horrible, but i’m still fighting to be who i am: A gay teenager.
I came out when I was 14 in the 7th grade I was so nervous that people would not like me but I got over it and they love me for admitting I’m a GAY TEENAGER.:)
I came out to my group of friends at the age of twelve. im still twelve and i love being out!
I’m seventeen, and everyone kinda thinks i’m gay. People have started asking about it more and more, and when they do i don’t deny it. I’m just not officially out cos i haven’t told my brother, the most important person who doesn’t know.
i came out when i was in the 8th grade, to my best friends. and from there i came out to all my friends, and i finally came out to my mom last year in my sophomore year. I’m 17 now
I came out only a few months ago to my best friend and from then on i have told couple family… I am 15,gay and loving it
I actually need a little help. Almost my whole middle school pretty much knows i’m gay. Oh joy unbounded. Problem is, some people know i’m gay, some people think they know, and some people are just plain out happy to ask me if i am whenever we’re in public. So theres one thing. Another thing is, i was really pining over someone, who was straighter than chuck norris. So here’s my question, should i come out in public, or try to keep it to myself? I’m only 13 and i practically live and work at my school so i’m sure some of the staff know i’m gay and i absolutely confused about all of this. I am finding it hard to try and pretend to be straight for others, and when i do, I have nothing to back it up with. I had a boyfriend for a while, but he was a few years older than i am and he broke it off
I actually need a little help. Almost my whole middle school pretty much knows i’m gay. Oh joy unbounded. Problem is, some people know i’m gay, some people think they know, and some people are just plain out happy to ask me if i am whenever we’re in public. So theres one thing. Another thing is, i was really pining over someone, who was straighter than chuck norris. So here’s my question, should i come out in public, or try to keep it to myself? I’m only 13 and i practically live and work at my school so i’m sure some of the staff know i’m gay and i absolutely confused about all of this. I am finding it hard to try and pretend to be straight for others, and when i do, I have nothing to back it up with. I had a boyfriend for a while, but he was a few years older than i am and he broke it off which hit me hard. so i don’t know what to do. If you can offer me some advice, or at least give me someone else to talk to, go on ahead and email my work email at
Thanks for listening!
i came out my freshman year to my best friend i am out of luck im 14 and the only gay at rockford senior high
Im 15, i live in the UK and i haven’t come out yet, i think that my mum knows that i might be gay but i dont want to really admit it until im older. I also don’t want to admit it to any of my friends even though one of them is straight and whenever someone does an insult about gay people he will defend them. I don’t want to admit it because a lot of people in my school are homophobic and me admitting it would probably spread around the school and cause me to get insulted and hit so im gonna wait until i leave school. As far as i know there are no other gay people at my school either.
@Tristan: There is probably about one in ten people who are gay at your school, they are probably too afraid to admit it or kept it secret with a close friend.
I cam out last year when i was 12. I told my best friend, who told me he was and we dated. but i think my mom knows but i dont want to tell her
I am a girl and im 12 and I came out to a ton of people in one day and i feel way better ! It was like yesterday but I still feel better about myself that I got it out ! Dont be scared, I learned that if you tell your true friends they wont judge you and just continue life as it was before you came out !
I am in 8th grade nd I hve come out to almost all of my friends, and my mom, sister, and nana. My school is a place where a lot of people don’t accept gays. I have been bullied for most of my life, but I’m so happy that the people I love know who I really am.there is a guy I’m in love with but he doesn’t notice me. How can I change tht?
I haven’t come out yet. I’m a 14 year old boy and i doubt anybody has any idea because I’m not a stereotypical gay person, I play sports and act straight. All my friends make fun of gay people a lot and I get really uncomfortable when they do that. I don’t know if I should come out because they probably wouldn’t be friends with me anymore and it would be hard to find a whole new group of friends.
i’m 15, i came out when i was 13. foolish i was as it spread like a fire. i know what your going through as i act straight around others and alot of people i know like to take the piddle out of gay people but its true if there are 30 people in a class around 4-5 of them will turn out like us
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