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Ramon Johnson

What gay men can teach straight women about anal

By April 23, 2010

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Seems like gay men aren't just good chill buddies for straight women; they also make good role models. At least when it comes to anal.

I'm sure every girl has tapped her gay bestie for a few tips on anal intercourse, but fewer took the safer sex route. A new study out of the New York City Health Department shows that fewer women consistently use condoms during anal sex than men who sleep with men. 23 and 61 percent, in fact.

And since most HIV transmissions among straight women come from heterosexual intercourse and anal carries far more risk (30 times more, actually) of HIV transmission than vaginal sex, condomless anal is sounding alarms.

So, why are women bottoming without protection?

Salon writer Tracy Clark-Flory writes: "It's easy to understand how some women might rationalize condomless anal sex, much like virginity pledges who, conveniently enough, don't count oral or anal sex as sex. If it doesn't 'count' as sex sex, and there is no risk of pregnancy, why use protection? But, boy, does it ever count."

And does it count, especially with anal's increasing popularity. A 2005 survey showed that 32.6 percent of women ages 18 to 44 engage in heterosexual anal play, up from around 20 percent the previous year.
April 28, 2010 at 4:18 pm
(1) Doug M. says:

Seems like that is a great example of the stupidity of straights.

April 28, 2010 at 8:06 pm
(2) carlin says:

it is doubly important if you go from anal play to vaginal intercourse to use a condom then use a new one when you make the switch. std and pregnancy can happen if you don’t
use a condom

April 29, 2010 at 12:21 am
(3) Wendy-lea says:

I agree with both Doug and Carlin. I’m 18 and I’ve never have sex (anal or otherwise) without a condom. No glove, no love.

Most of my friends are mostly straight and have only had a couple of partners who like ‘meat and potatoes’ type of sex, as the most experienced of my friends I give them advice and remind them that unless everyone who wants to have sex with no condoms is tested and on the pill, the possible outcomes are not worth it.

June 29, 2010 at 12:17 am
(4) Dmac707 says:

I’m sure every girl has tapped her gay bestie for a few tips on anal intercourse,

My Mother. In the kitchen. Cooking dinner with me.

October 18, 2010 at 11:39 pm
(5) kluv81 says:

Oh boy, I bet that was awkward.

April 28, 2011 at 6:45 pm
(6) Mark says:

Anal carries 30X more risk of HIV trans than vaginal sex? Wow. Learn something new everyday.

February 26, 2013 at 11:55 am
(7) anna says:

Dmac you have a super mom, what a great world it would finally be if every child were raised by such a special human being.

July 1, 2013 at 8:37 pm
(8) rog says:

The 30 times more likely comment is a bit of a skewed number though because that’s in a one time shot with a random partner. If a couple has been monogamously participating in condomless vaginal sex over an extended period of time, both are very likely to have transmitted whatever diseases they have to each other. That being said most straight people are clean anyways. I know that pornographic actor Darren James gave HIV to 3 or 13 girls he had unprotected sex with, but I’m unsure of the combination of condom/anal vs. vaginal sex…

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