Imagine being out to most of your family, except your 60-year-old dad—who you knew to be homophobic, racist, and a bunch of other -ias and -isms. But, you're now in your 30s. You've moved away. You're happy. You share a home with your partner. You've got a good career. Until one day the phone rings. It's dad.
What's up with you and your partner, he corners you. Are you gay? It's now or never, you think, until he interrupts you with a secret even Deep Throat would've choked on.
"He told me that he was [gay] too." And now he calls you relentlessly to talk about the bar and "the love of his life" this week. He's like a twink at 60 and constantly wants to meet your gay friends and do "gay stuff." All of the gay drama in your life is from your dad.
These are the true tales of a guy who calls himself j07pl, but we'll call him J. "I'm feeling overwhelmed and looking for any advice; I can't handle all the drama and TMI from my dad," J pleads. Help this guy deal with his new gay dad.
hey dude, am pleading with you, i know how shocking its lyk for someone you did’nt even think about would do such a thing!your dad knew all along that you were gay and wanted to confront you but i gues it took a lot of guts for him to come out to you, so all i could ask you to do is to sit down with your dad and talk things out and don’t freak out, its lyf, but anyway have a happy life while sun shines!!
I can understand how you feel, but your Dad probably thinks that by intruding in your private life he is just supporting his gay son. Before this turns ugly, set dear old Dad down and explain that the generation gap applies to gays as well, encourage him to find gay friends his own age or at least find himself a young stud looking for a Daddy. If you don’t it will drive a wedge between the two of you. While dear old Dad may need some help forming new connections that have nothing to do with you. You must do it soon or risk hurting him in ways you can not imagine. Best of luck
Dr. Wells