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Hello, Zaida.
I am a professional man who finds himself quite attracted to another
professional man. We are both settled in our careers and very successful. I have
been "out" to myself for years and have no problem with my sexuality other than
having to conceal it in certain professional and social circles. From the first
time we met, I believe we both felt an instant connection. We both have to
travel on our jobs but are in the same town about every month for a few days.
Either he or I will suggest that we go out to dinner and drinks and we have the
deepest conversations! I am interested in a closer relationship with him but am
not sure how to tell if he is interested in taking it further... I keep seeing
signals... do you think he might be interested?
| Dear De-Coder, I think he is dropping hints as well as you. It seems like you both may be playing the same game. I understand that you want to keep your professional life separate. What you do in your bed room is nobody else's business, unless it involves children or animals (which, I gather, it doesn't). This professional man does not work with you, so you may as well find out if he's interested in you. It seems like you may have to raise the stakes. I'll offer some tactics, which you can employ depending on your level of comfort. You may want to ask him directly, "Do you think I'm sexy?" This will open up a conversation about how he sees you. Or you can compliment his physicality (e.g. his eyes, skin, smile) and see how he reacts. If you're feeling forward enough in the moment, you can compliment his abs and touch them. This could also work with the quads, but only if you're comfortable, since it would be forward. There are some straight people who play along for attention or just for the excitement, but ultimately you'll have to be perceptive and try to read what his deal is. You only live once and the sparks only fly every so often.....you may as well give it a try. -Zaida |
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