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Coming Out: Frequently Asked Questions

Gay, bisexual or just curious and ready to come out? Here you'll find the most frequently asked questions about gay men coming out of the closet.
  1. Coming Out Stories (9)
  2. Curious/Bisexual (3)
  3. Family (11)
  4. Gay Pride (6)
  5. Kids/ Spouses (4)
  6. Online (6)
  7. Reader Comments (4)
  8. School (6)

Same-Sex Attraction in 5 Minutes
Your same-sex attraction isn't something to be cured or corrected. Your feelings are valid and there are many individuals with feelings for the same sex that live happy and affirmative lives.

What Is Sexual Orientation?
What is sexual orientation? Sexual orientation is more than a physical behavior; it's a "enduring" attraction to another person.

How Do I Know If I'm Gay?
There are no scientific tests or stereotypes (such as the types of clothes you wear or how masculine or feminine you are) that can determine your sexuality. But, there are questions you can ask yourself to help you determine if you are gay.

Why Am I Gay?
If only we could explain the things we feel inside. There are many different reasons why we are the way we are, but can sexual orientation be explained? Is there a reason why you are gay?

How Many People Are Really Gay?
Is it true that 1 in 10 people is gay or is this statistic just a myth? Find out how many gay people there really are.

Is Being Gay A Choice?
Some people say that being gay is living a lifestyle, like it's a choice. But is it really? Bust the myth about sexual orientation and our power to choose.

Coming Out, What Does it Mean?
Coming out of the closet is the process of accepting your sexual orientation and telling family, co-workers and friends. Coming out is different for every gay or bisexual person. Some experience fear, pain, and frustration. Others find the process less difficult.

Don't All Gay Men Get HIV?
It's a common myth that all gay and bisexual men either already have or will eventually get HIV.

Can Therapy Change My Sexual Orientation?

Can Homosexuality Be Cured?
Ex-gay ministries claim that curing homosexuality is a matter of faith--mind over body, sort of speak. But, there is no empirical proof that homosexuality can be cured. What do you think? Can an attraction for the same sex be cured through therapy?

What is National Coming Out Day?
Know your gay history and how this national movement for gay equality began. Also, learn what it means to come out of the closet.

Does Everyone Think About Being Gay All The Time?
How much of your time is spent thinking about being gay?

I Live In A Homophobic City
Are you the only gay person in a homophobic small town? Is your self-esteem keeping you from meeting other gay friends?

I'm Gay In A Small Town
Are you the only gay person in your small or rural town? Tips on how to deal with being the only gay person in your small or rural town.

I Have Low Self-Esteem
Understand your low self-esteem and develop ways to overcome it.

Should I Write A Letter?
When you can't find the words to say out loud, say it in writing.

What Happens After I Come Out?
Coming out can be a real reality check. It's like growing a new set of eyes. They way you see yourself and others changes, often times quite drastically. So, what can you expect after coming out?

What's Coming In?
You've heard of coming out, but coming in is just as important.

Help Me Meet Gay Friend
Having a hard time meeting gay friends? Here are a few tips that can help you meet more gay friends.

Is It Okay To Take A Girl To A Gay Bar?
You don't know any other gay guys, but your straight girl friend has agreed to go to the gay bar with you. Is it okay to take a straight girl to a gay bar?

When's The Right Time To Come Out?
When is the best time to come out? You'll know when the time is right to come out to your family.

Surviving Thanksgiving As A Gay Man
Don't let the stress of being gay on Thanksgiving Day ruin your holiday time. These tips will help you navigate your way around the Thanksgiving Day holiday as a gay man.

Making The Most Of Thanksgiving and Christmas Away From Home
Can't handle a home-for-the-holidays reunion? Dried up holiday funds keeping you put? Here's your guide to surviving Thanksgiving and Christmas away from home.

Should You Come Out On Thanksgiving Day?
Mom wants you to come home on Thanksgiving Day, but is turkey time the best time to come out?

Best Coming Out Books
Books that can help you come out of the closet.

Ways You Can Celebrate National Coming Out Day
National Coming Out Day happens annually on October 11th. National Coming Out Day promote government and increases public awareness of gay, bisexual, lesbian and transgender rights and issues. National Coming Out Day is also a day to celebrate sexual identity. Here are ways you can celebrate.

Tips for Gay Men in College
Are you gay and just came out or plan on coming out in college? Here are tips on how to telling your roommate you're gay, finding new gay friends, campus safety, dating and other things you may encounter as a gay high school or college student.

But I'm Bisexual?
Ron is bisexual and ready to come out to his wife, family and kids. He asks a few very personal questions before taking the next step.

Keeping a Coming Out Journal
There are many benefits to journaling. Jotting down your thoughts is a great way to manage stress. Journaling can also helps you achieve some degree of clarity on how to best approach the tough situations in your life, like coming out.

Coming Out To Your Doctor
Should you come out to your doctor? When is the best time to tell your doctor you sexuality? Find a gay-friendly doctor to help you better manage your care.

Coming Out To Lesbian Moms
Coming out to his two lesbian moms wasn't as easy as he thought it might be. Turns out one of his moms has a sorted past with her relatives and doesn't want him to come out on that side of the fence. He says he's never been ashamed of his sexuality, why should he hide it now?

Coming Out on Facebook and Myspace

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