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Coming Out

A Guide To Coming Out Of The Closet

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Coming Out
Just come out! It sounds simple, but it's not always that easy. This guide can help you figure out when's the right time to come out of the closet to friends, family and co-workers. But first, let's start with the basics:

What Does It Mean to "Come Out"?
Coming out is the process of personally accepting your sexuality and telling others. The coming out process is different for every person. Some experience anxiety, pain and anguish while others find acceptance easier. You may also experience fear, doubt, loneliness, anger and even depression. That's why it is good to surround yourself with others that may be going through the same transition or who have already come out. They can be a great support system.

Coming Out To Your Family and Friends
After coming out to yourself the next step can be quite difficult: Sharing your sexuality with your loved ones and friends. One of the overriding fears of coming out is the fear of rejection from those we love. You may wonder if your family or friends will stop loving you. Some family and friends have a hard time accepting a gay loved one, while others are extremely supportive.

Coming out goes well many times, as evident in these coming out stories. But just in case things go sour, here's help on how to deal with rejection from family and friends.

Coming Out at School
The word "gay" isn't in the closet like it used to be, everyone at school knows what it is, even if they don't know who's gay on campus. You may find that live at school will be better if you come out and be who you are. You'll not only feel better, but you'll be a role model for other kids who are gay, but nervous about telling everyone. Chances are you're not the only gay kid on campus, but even if you are there are ways you can get support by making your school more gay-friendly. Bullying
No matter what, some people just don't get it and will try and push you around and bully just for being gay. Have you been bullied? There are ways you can protect yourself and fight back: Coming Out Stories
Reading other people's coming out stories gave me the courage to come out. The same can be true for you. Read these coming out stories then help others by, sharing your coming out story.

Coming Out at Work
John won't stop talking about his new fiance. Andre jokes about his wife's new tattoo. Eric is excited about a new girl he's dating. And there you sit, quiet, trying to avoid every social conversation since your gossip would be about another man, not a woman. And, In order for you to share in the man-to-man pow-wow, you have to come out. But are you ready to come out at work? And if so, is there protection for you as an employee? There are some federal laws in process that can help make your workplace a more comfortable environment. Read about:

But, lets say you're not gay, but your boss is. Should you pry into his private life or respect your gay boss' privacy?

Coming Out To Your Doctor
There are specific health issues that gay men should be concerned about, but are not always comfortable to talk about with just anybody. It's easier when your health care provider is either gay friendly or sensitive to LGBT issues. Find out how to find a gay-friendly health care provider and decide when it's the best time to come out to your doctor.

Coming Out To Your Spouse
Coming out to your spouse can be quite difficult, given the relationships you built and the life you shared together. You won't know how your wife will react to the news until you take that step. Some wives agree to stay with their husbands in mixed marriages after they come out, but most often it's not as amicable.

When Your Kids Come Out
You suspect your kid of being gay, but how do you talk to him or her about it? How you handle their coming out to you is directly linked to their future well being. They need your support during this difficult time. It can help them build confidence and make better, more healthy, decisions. Take a proactive approach and talk to your kids. Help them help themselves. Here is one mom's story about when her son came out to her. Read A Mom Shares Her Son's Coming Out Story.

When Your Husband is Gay
Do you suspect that your husband has a secret life on the side? There may be more to story: Also, read about other women's experiences with gay husbands in the Gay Life forum. Here is a discussion going on right now:

"I've been married for a little over a month now and I've had concerns that my husband might not be "into" me. it started with him spending a few hours a day on the computer which has now progressed to him spending up to 8 hours a day online..." Read more
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