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Dear Mona,

I have a dilemma that is keeping me stuck in neutral. I am predominantly attracted to older men sexually, but I have in my mind's eye a future with someone closer to my age. I feel these attitudes are very much at odds. I can not see myself not being fired up sexually with a partner. I don't want to be looking outside of my relationship for hot sex. I want it to be part of my relationship...I am afraid that I carry some shame into this situation. maybe it is lack of courage to be with an older man (I am 37 in Colorado). maybe I don't want to find out the root of my attraction - that whole daddy/father thing... That is very spooky to me. I would love some advice. Thanks.


Dear Sweet Tooth,

Being attracted to older men is not problematic, as long as you are of legal age–which you are. There is no need to to get hung up on what others may think. Don't fall into the trap of chasing the fountain of youth. Some gay men feel that younger is better, but reality dictates that attractions come in all shapes, sizes and ages. Ultimately, a happier you takes precedence over the need to conform.

Sometimes, in life you have to take chances. The relationship experience may be worth the potential sacrifice. If you still can not see yourself in a serious relationship with an older man, it may simply be a fetish. If this is the case, you can remain faithful to someone closer to your own age by indulging in porn that satisfies your desire for older men. If you find yourself growing close to a significantly older man, just enjoy it and let yourself be happy in the relationship.

Yours in love,
Mona

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