Working out not only helped me build my physical confidence, but my self-confidence as well. Here are a few tips for gay men who workout or who are thinking about joining a gym.
Keep an open mind.
The gym can be an intimidating place, especially given the size of the guys there. Throw any self-conscious thoughts out the window. The gym is a great place to build your own confidence all while getting fit. It can also be a great place to meet new friends or even a date.
Concentrate on you.
Remember, those guys in the gym pay the same membership dues as you and have the same goals- self-improvement. Develop your own fitness routine and personal training goals. Keep a workout journal or notepad to track your progress. Do you want to shed some pounds or just gain muscle mass? You decide. Most gyms also have personal trainers that can help you with your fitness goals, but they can be very expensive. If you don't have the cash, hire a trainer for one session and adapt the routines yourself.
Vary your routine.
Once you have a regular routine, it's always a good idea to rotate muscle groups each time you work out or alternate between cardio and lifting. This gives your muscles time to rest and it's keeps your routine from getting monotonous.
Find a workout buddy.
Workout buddies can help keep you focused and motivated. Workout buddies can also become good friends, especially since you both have something in common.
Learn as you go.
Don't take working out or your routine too seriously, you'll learn how to use the machines as you go. I have a very simple routine. I like using certain machines. Over time I've learned what muscles react to what machines and which ones need more work than others. Take time to learn about your body.
Don't sleep where you lift.
Once you start going to the gym on a regular basis, you'll notice the same people work out at the same times. You'll start to see the same faces and even make friends. Take caution if one of your friendships results in a date or develops into a sexual encounter since you're likely to see the same guy again at the gym. Avoid an uncomfortable situation if possible. Also, keep in mind most gyms have rules against "inappropriate behavior."
- Find a comfortable gym.
Going to the gym is like a hobby. You'll be spending a lot of time there, so make sure that the one you choose is comfortable and fits your fitness needs. Here is a checklist of things to consider while shopping for a gym:
- The atmosphere
- The people
- The staff
- The cost
- The facilities
- The rules